To hate FaceTime?

[StillNo]

And refuse to do it?
I hate it. It makes me feel so uncomfortable just staring into a persons face whilst they stare at you and you chat. Or that feeling like you have to perform and be so bright and smiley and neat and tidy for your mother with an entourage of family members.
Or that feeling when you know you have a scheduled FaceTime with family members and can’t think what you’ll say whilst you stare at them.
Or knowing you’ll have to shove the phone in the children’s faces so that they can also perform for uncle-sister-cousin or whoever.
Or when someone else is on FaceTime in your home and you’re skulking about trying not to get into shot.

Urgh. I know I’m going to be called unreasonable because I probably am. But please tell me I am not the only FaceTime misery?!?

Nope, you're not alone! Good for you for not doing it, I say. 👍

No your not alone - I hate it too, I do it but god I don’t enjoy it. I’m secretly pleased when DD runs away and refuses to participate!

I hate it too. It's mainly my in laws who do it so I try just say hello and then remember something that I urgently need to do in another room.

Hate it. Did a group one last year and refused to ever do it again. A load of noise with everyone talking over each other. Fuck that, I'd rather watch a film on my own!

I can't do it. It makes me incredibly anxious. So I do get a little pissed off when people suggest it as an alternative to meeting up.

I agree. Hate doing it. It's so forced

I don't like it either. I don't answer when someone face times me and then i phone back the old fashioned way. Total game changer.

@XmasCrap

Nope, you're not alone! Good for you for not doing it, I say. 👍

But I do do it!! 🙈 I’m considering just refusing though and wondered if I’d be awful to do so. Really heartened by the responses though, I always feel like the only one!

I hate the way I look so can't stand them! There's me thinking I look ok then I see my fat face ergh !!

I will only FaceTime with DH, my parents and my brother (all people who I don't care if they see me looking like shit!).

Anyone else doesn't get answered!!

I hate it. And I hate how this has now become the norm and people will refuse to meet up for a coffee because "why not just Facetime?". We are losing everything to screens: the touch of a hand, the twinkle in people's eyes, the smell of their hair, their body language, their hugs... I could go on.

I refuse to do it and so does my mum. No idea why you have to see somebody when you talk to them

@JanisMoplin

I hate it. And I hate how this has now become the norm and people will refuse to meet up for a coffee because "why not just Facetime?". We are losing everything to screens: the touch of a hand, the twinkle in people's eyes, the smell of their hair, their body language, their hugs... I could go on.

Exactly this!!

This is also a bone of contention as there are no screens in my house save my phone which the children are not allowed to use. Family members are constantly on at me to get an iPad so the kids can ring them/learn/have social media etc and I refuse. MIL bought them an iPad after I explicitly and kindly stated that I do not want them to have one. I politely returned it and she’s not spoken to me since.

It all just makes me feel like some weirdo dinosaur tbh. But I genuinely think I’m right on this!

I’m going to stand firm. I’m going to give up FaceTime. They can come see me or talk on the phone like olden days.

Is that ok?? Or would I be cruel to ‘deprive’ family members of the FaceTime they all seem to crave!? It’s not like I’m ever very interesting on it

I agree that it can be draining and a bit staged but in the current circumstances I guess it's nice for family to actually have some contact if they can't meet in person. I feel the same about Zoom and Teams, just really hard work.

YANBU just fucking text me. I'm autistic, I really like the time I get in texts to process what they've said and formulate a reply. Face timing is even worse than phonecalls.

Meh, I'm on calls all day every day for work so I actually find facetime more relaxing as it's with family and I don't have to sit up straight or be professional. A good tip is to cover the bit of the screen with you in it, that way it's less cognitively demanding.

Nope, I don't do it at all. I just don't answer, and people have given up trying. Love a good old natter on the phone though.

My adult (disabled) ds loves to FaceTime his grandparents (both sets) every single day. I hate it. It feels like my parents and in-laws are in my house. I have to help my ds with the conversation because of his speech difficulty so I am forced to smile and chat with my family every single day. Argh!

I hate it and refuse to use it. Occasionally my mum tries to FaceTime me but I refuse to answer and then wait for her to call normally.

I do not FaceTime. No discussion will be entertained about it.

Hate it and avoid it at all costs. It only really becomes 'comfortable' if both sides know it's happening. I get the caller all dressed, rested and ready calling me on face time when I'm in a half dressed, tired state - not even having the opportunity to shower and brush my hair. So intrusive. I just stick the phone to my ear and say that my 'FaceTime' is off.

I don't like it either. I don't answer when someone face times me and then i phone back the old fashioned way. Total game changer.

Yep. Easy way to avoid it!

I hate it to. Much prefer an old fashioned phone call if I'm obliged to make contact at all.

I think it's rude to face time ring someone without prior warning.

I hate face time unless it's with my husband. I hate hate hate zoom meetings!