To wonder why I didn’t get engaged this weekend?

[icecreamgirl94]

(Lighthearted because knowing me I’ve probably got totally the wrong end of the stick)
Last week I stumbled across a ring box hidden away (I honestly wasn’t snooping I just accidentally found it while putting something away). Obviously I didn’t say anything. But now we’ve had Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and Boxing Day and no proposal.
I’m just baffled generally tbh as we’re not that type of couple, we’ve always said when we want to get married we’ll just start planning it together. We’ve had quite an up and down year with covid obviously and DP got ill in the summer, but we also had our first successful pregnancy so I thought maybe he’d decided to make a big gesture. But nothing.
Has he changed his mind? 😂
Was it not actually for me? 😂
It’s so silly I just keep laughing at myself. What’s going on?? 😂😂

New year

Would he choose a ring without you? My husband would know better than chance that, hope all turns out the way you want.

Maybe he's in the room getting ready to propose tonight...?

Shameless placemark

Argh it drove me batty waiting to be proposed to! I didn’t find the ring (DH kept it under his boot with the spare wheel of his car, he knew I’d be a looker) but I knew it was coming and I hated when significant dates came and went with nothing, even though I knew that he knew I wouldn’t have wanted it to be Christmas/birthday etc. In the end it was on a totally random day when I was at work (and I thought he was at work) and I was genuinely absolutely taken by surprise, which I thought he would never be able to pull off cause I was always expecting it. So he might just be waiting for a good time to surprise you. In which case, do not mention anything to him (or propose to him!) as it will ruin his efforts to catch you off guard. I know my BIL also had my sister’s ring for months waiting for the perfect time to surprise her. I think you just need to try (as hard as you can!) to be patient. Obviously if he still hasn’t proposed in like 6 months time you may need to say something 😂

YABVU for not checking in the box lol 😆 I would’ve opened it so fast! Send him to the shop for milk for the baby and snoop then, don’t forget to accidentally lock the door after him of course!

@Aderyn21

I don't believe this thread is real on the grounds that no woman I've ever met would have found that box and not looked in it!

You are so right , if I found an unfamiliar jewellery box in our bedroom there is no way I would not have opened it .

Oh god this is going to be like Alan Rickman all over again isn't it. I've never forgiven him. I don't think my heart can cope with another Joni Mitchell CD.

On the way to dh's favourite place (so I guessed it would be that day) his car ran out of petrol half way there. And his bank card wouldn't work at the bank. So he proposed in a place half way to his favourite place! We booked the wedding for
at the half way place and it was lovely! Sometimes the best laid plans and all that!

@FluffyBooBoo

No, you are doing this all wrong.

You need to find something else that can be put away in that same place, and go to do that while he's in the room, to see how he reacts...

That's brilliant

@St0rmTr00per

Oh god this is going to be like Alan Rickman all over again isn't it. I've never forgiven him. I don't think my heart can cope with another Joni Mitchell CD.

Just watch him fall off Nakatomi Plaza. Makes it allllllllll OK.

Cufflinks or a signet ring for himself??

Lol he’s picking his moment. I knew DH had bought the ring as also saw the box. We went on a romantic trip to Venice. No ring appeared. Valentine’s Day came and went. No ring. Was beginning to think he returned it but then walked in one night to candles, flowers, cheesy music and he got down on one knee. He prob just wants to do it in his own way.

Ok don’t look when you find the box but close eyes and feel if it’s ring shaped….. please report back!!

I’d have opened it. I wouldn’t have been able to help myself. 😳

A lot of women have been scarred by love actually

Shameless place mark

You guys are cracking me up 😂
I have to admit I’ve never actually seen Love Actually so the references are lost on me 🙈
He’s meant to be on bath duty so he should hopefully be going into the bathroom soon. If he doesn’t leave in a minute I’ll try the trick of pretending I need to put something in the drawer.

NYD I reckon. Let's start a vote.

@Journeynotdestination yes was going to say the same. Shut your eyes and feel in the box.

@Journeynotdestination

Ok don’t look when you find the box but close eyes and feel if it’s ring shaped….. please report back!!

Yes this is good don't actually look at it.

@icecreamgirl94

You guys are cracking me up 😂 I have to admit I’ve never actually seen Love Actually so the references are lost on me 🙈 He’s meant to be on bath duty so he should hopefully be going into the bathroom soon. If he doesn’t leave in a minute I’ll try the trick of pretending I need to put something in the drawer.

It's in a drawer he knows you'll go into....? Hmm...

Placemarking, sorry. I need to know what happens, if anything. I would have ruined it for all by now by asking what's in the box or looking!

So, if it is actually a ring and a ring he intends to propose with you still have the following special events coming up shortly:

NYE
NYD
Your birthday
Valentines Day
DCs 1st birthday

Is MIL the type who might have given him a family ring to try & encourage him to "make an honest woman of you"? Even in 2021 some people can be pretty traditional, especially after babies come along.

You NEED to do it. If it doesn't appear at NY then it may never get mentioned......