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Overstaying their welcome

62 replies

marieantoinehairnet · 27/12/2021 18:27

Just that.

MIL arrived early 23rd... she's still here, husband of no use in extracting her, am back to work day after tomorrow and had no alone relaxation time for just skinning out.

AIBU to ask her what her plans are for tomorrow?

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marieantoinehairnet · 27/12/2021 18:30

I also suspect she has covid still, had it pre Christmas but hasn't stopped coughing the whole time she's been here

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Winterfellismyhome · 27/12/2021 18:31

Ask her what time shes setting off tomorrow

UnsuitableHat · 27/12/2021 18:36

God how annoying…in future (no help now I know!) could you agree in advance on the length of stay?

foreverandalways · 27/12/2021 18:41

I arrived at my daughters late Xmas eve and left for home early this morning....ask her what time she is leaving in the morning as u need to get ready for work

lastqueenofscotland · 27/12/2021 18:42

Yes annoying but in future you need to agree on length of stay.

ProudThrilledHappy · 27/12/2021 18:43

Dont ask her plans, she will stay longer!

Ask if she needs to use the washer tonight before she packs, or if she needs help putting the suitcase in the car. Make the question explicitly assume she is leaving

Newgirls · 27/12/2021 18:44

Your husband has to sort this one surely?!

DockOTheBay · 27/12/2021 18:44

Next time invite her for a set number of days.
Just say that you have plans tomorrow so she needs to leave, or something like that. She obviously isn't going to leave of her own accord!

SpiderFluff · 27/12/2021 18:44

So she has turned up with covid?! Nice. What a cow. I'd ask her to leave tomorrow morning. Ask where her bags are and if she says oh I thought I'd stay one more day bring out the classic "no that doesn't work for us".

Chamomileteaplease · 27/12/2021 18:45

Be clear. Get your dh to TELL her that she needs to leave tomorrow MORNING.

It is perfectly reasonable for you to desire a rest day before heading back to work.

phishy · 27/12/2021 18:45

Next time tell them to book a hotel.

She arrived with COVID?!

WheelieBinPrincess · 27/12/2021 18:48

Oh come on, cheap shot with the ‘still got covid’.

Totalwasteofpaper · 27/12/2021 18:49

I read this and had to reread it twice as I thought I had somehow posted it and forgotten.

I (somewhat obviously) have no advice.

Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 27/12/2021 18:51

First thing tomorrow strip the beds...
And don't make hers up.

SallyWD · 27/12/2021 18:55

My MIL arrived on 18th Dec and isn't leaving until 4th January. Count yourself lucky! 😉

MrzClaus · 27/12/2021 19:14

I've had covid - the cough can last for weeks even after the virus has gone! I'm currently negative on all tests but still a cough. It's on the NHS website that it might last 😊

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marieantoinehairnet · 27/12/2021 19:24

@Totalwasteofpaper

I read this and had to reread it twice as I thought I had somehow posted it and forgotten.

I (somewhat obviously) have no advice.

I feel your pain, she just made a half arsed effort of clearing the table, but didn't fill the dishwasher as she "doesn't know how" Confused

I'm going to have a quiet word with her son and get him to be the bad guy

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marieantoinehairnet · 27/12/2021 19:25

@MrzClaus

I've had covid - the cough can last for weeks even after the virus has gone! I'm currently negative on all tests but still a cough. It's on the NHS website that it might last 😊
Yep I get this, however her cough is now pissing me off after 5 days
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StoneofDestiny · 27/12/2021 19:30

Yes - ask when she is leaving tomorrow MORNING as you have the whole house to sort out and rest to catch up on before you go back to work.

StoneofDestiny · 27/12/2021 19:30

....and you need to strip the beds by 9.00 am

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marieantoinehairnet · 27/12/2021 19:50

Tempted to strip the bed now, she's just asked what's for pudding... even DH has just told he to help herself

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Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 27/12/2021 19:55

Tell her the kitchen is now closed....
Grin

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marieantoinehairnet · 27/12/2021 19:56

By this stage who can still manage pudding, if I never eat again it'll be too soon Grin

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jackstini · 27/12/2021 19:57

I would say 'oh work has said we need to text lft results for ourselves and anyone staying with us' before I go back

See what she says...

girlmom21 · 27/12/2021 20:05

"Hey MIL, do you want DH to make breakfast before you leave tomorrow or are you planning on setting off really early?"

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