Overstaying their welcome

[marieantoinehairnet]

Just that.

MIL arrived early 23rd... she's still here, husband of no use in extracting her, am back to work day after tomorrow and had no alone relaxation time for just skinning out.

AIBU to ask her what her plans are for tomorrow?

Ask her if she needs to take a sandwich with her when she's travelling home tomorrow.

Your husband needs to ask when she plans on leaving and that you have plans. Blimey

Amusing thread lol. Hope she goes soon!

Coughing doesn't mean she still has covid if she followed the isolation period

Why on earth didn't you arrange the length of stay before she came? I find it bizarre that invitations are left completely open. Flexible, yes. Sometimes my in-laws would come for a planned two day visit, but we'd be having a nice time so we'd say why not stay another night or two. But it's asking for trouble not to have at least a rough agreed plan

I'd go with something along the lines of

'MIL have you had a nice Christmas? It's been great seeing you. I really enjoyed X,Y & Z. How about you?

Excellent I'm so glad you had a great time. Unfortunately tomorrow morning we have to start getting the house sorted and ready for work so we need you to be leaving in the morning before lunch. What time would work for you? I can pack you a sandwich for the journey if you want...'

Pleasant, positive but still being super direct

@saraclara

Why on earth didn't you arrange the length of stay before she came? I find it bizarre that invitations are left completely open. Flexible, yes. Sometimes my in-laws would come for a planned two day visit, but we'd be having a nice time so we'd say why not stay another night or two. But it's asking for trouble not to have at least a rough agreed plan

Well usually all guests would be gone morning after boning day, last year we didn't have visitors and this year they seem to be milking it. I just want to slob around in my pjs, read a book, eat my body weight in chocolate... not prepare endless gourmet meals and make endless small talk

Boxing Day, but boning day sounds funnier!

Boning day

Personally I'd crack on with the PJ's and chocs and and leave dh with strict instructions
to do the evicting.

Next time agree dates.

Mine is similar lots of things NEAR but not in dishwasher and her new fave trick is going over and interfering with whatever is on the hob scrapping away at the nonstick with metal utensils - FML

I am currently making fake sleepy overtures and will go to bed at 10.

She has indicated she is leaving sometime tomorrow.

I dare not dream she will leave at any kind of sensible hour so am keeping my dreams realistic… I am pegging my hopes on being able to have a nice evening bath quietly and alone.

@Totalwasteofpaper

Mine is similar lots of things NEAR but not in dishwasher and her new fave trick is going over and interfering with whatever is on the hob scrapping away at the nonstick with metal utensils - FML

I am currently making fake sleepy overtures and will go to bed at 10.

She has indicated she is leaving sometime tomorrow.

I dare not dream she will leave at any kind of sensible hour so am keeping my dreams realistic… I am pegging my hopes on being able to have a nice evening bath quietly and alone.

We've had a "might leave tomorrow"

I've taken to my bedroom for a rest, I'm hospitable, but there is only so much of it I can take, she sits on her phone playing games on Facebook the whole time anyway, so little point in her being here.

Tomorrow I've decided I'm going out and "getting stuck in traffic" if necessary.

Then hopefully when I get back she'll be gone (and I can wash the smell of her off everything in the room she's been in - think damp lavender!)

@CathyorClaire

Boning day

Personally I'd crack on with the PJ's and chocs and and leave dh with strict instructions
to do the evicting.

Next time agree dates.

I'm not sharing my chocolate yet gifts with her, no siree

Omg OP just leave her to it. Have a bath, relax in your room with iPad or book or whatever, don’t make meals for her just make normal food and offer her some of whatever. Not surprised she’s not leaving if your making 3 meals a day and serving them like some sort of hotel, your DH must be bloody mad! My mum comes to stay and actually helps! Also pays for takeaways

I’m sick to death of the people who live here currently. No way could I cope with a long stay guest. Get yourself up and out tomorrow morning. You might see me striding around the park in the rain.

Also I’d be out and about tomorrow, walk then shops and lunch out with wine solo. Not replying to any ‘when are you back’ texts either

My MIL sits at the dining table playing angry birds!!! Is your MIL the same as mine???

Is she driving home, getting a train or some other transport? Does she have a return ticket? If you have children, I'd get them to 'say goodbye to grandma' in the morning, strip the beds, and head out.

Out of interest, what does 'relaxation time for skinning out' mean??? I'm not English and can only assume this is the same as 'skinning up' marijuana?

My mil is still here too, usually she'd only stay 24hrs so we naively assumed 2 days at most, but it extended to three days and then this morning it extended to 4 😬

Change the locks

@Hairyfriend

My MIL sits at the dining table playing angry birds!!! Is your MIL the same as mine???

Is she driving home, getting a train or some other transport? Does she have a return ticket? If you have children, I'd get them to 'say goodbye to grandma' in the morning, strip the beds, and head out.

Out of interest, what does 'relaxation time for skinning out' mean??? I'm not English and can only assume this is the same as 'skinning up' marijuana?

My DH has actually just manned up and told the eldest child to hug her as she won't be here in the morning.

Her response "let's see how tomorrow goes, what time should I leave, I don't want to go too early and wake you all up"

Every inch of me is desperate to say, the earlier the better, in fact, how about yesterday?!

@Hairyfriend

My MIL sits at the dining table playing angry birds!!! Is your MIL the same as mine???

Is she driving home, getting a train or some other transport? Does she have a return ticket? If you have children, I'd get them to 'say goodbye to grandma' in the morning, strip the beds, and head out.

Out of interest, what does 'relaxation time for skinning out' mean??? I'm not English and can only assume this is the same as 'skinning up' marijuana?

It was slobbing out, but I love a typo!

Does ‘skinning out’ mean being naked? I just googled it and I’m sure you can’t mean what the internet says.

Oh sorry, cross posted!

I'd like to be able to walk around half naked again ha, but I would rather just slob out