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Not to have booked a hotel in advance?

47 replies

JoeTheCarpenter · 25/12/2021 03:54

I know this is a forum mainly for mums but I hope you can deal with a query from a dad?

DW and I have been married for a few years, no children. Nine months ago we found out DW was pregnant. I’ll be honest, I was suspicious because our sex life hadn’t been great and the timings didn’t really work. However, I’ve accepted that the baby is mine, maybe because I don’t want what I suspected to be true.

DW is nearly full term but we’ve unexpectedly had to return to my home town to deal with some paperwork. We arrived yesterday. It wasn’t a great trip, our transport was really slow. Then, when we arrived, we discovered all the hotels in the area are booked up. DW, of course, blames me for not booking something in advance.

Thankfully, we’ve found an B&B where the owner has an outbuilding with accommodation round the back that he says we can use. It’s basic but will do the job. However, DW is still really angry with me about having no booking; she thinks the accommodation we have is inadequate and if the baby was to come along we wouldn’t even have a crib. I think it’s not unreasonable to expect a hotel to have vacancies at this time of year.

AIBU?

OP posts:
BlusteringBoobies · 25/12/2021 04:02

Not even a crib for a bed?

I anticipate you may have some visitors arrive to see then baby when he comes. Stick with the man who gifts you gold and if needed you can always pawn it for an upgrade?

Oh, and if a little kid arrives with a drum then kick him the fuck out-ever tried to get a newborn to sleep with drumming? Utter madness!!

fallfallfall · 25/12/2021 04:04

Sweet Baby Jesus!! Who do you think should sort this? a few random men wandering the countryside or the chubby Turkish cardinal known for his generosity?

WiddlinDiddlin · 25/12/2021 04:08

Come on now.. you aren't actually married and she's only 14 I think she's probably expected to be fairly immature about things and you really shouldn't drip-feed.

You won't get far without a diagram here anyway... should probably have posted in Relationships.

BasiliskStare · 25/12/2021 04:26

@JoeTheCarpenter

YANBU - but may be ask DW to put on a beatific smile for the photographs of her with the baby.

Sunbird24 · 25/12/2021 04:28

Given there’s normally absolutely nothing happening at this time of year I would previously have said you were right, but as the whole reason you had to travel home was for a census I think you should have anticipated there would be an extra influx of people.

Justheretoaskaquestion91 · 25/12/2021 04:48

YABVU for not mentioning little donkey

violetbunny · 25/12/2021 05:05

Hahaha, perhaps she will perk up once a bunch of men turn up with some gifts?

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 25/12/2021 05:07

How is the sky above? Nice bright star?

TheMilkyWeigh · 25/12/2021 05:54

Hopefully your trip to Egypt in a few years will go better. I’d start saving for the flight now. With two adults and a child it’ll cost a pretty penny. And if the pilot’s name is Pontius I would panic.

cafedesreves · 25/12/2021 06:30

@JoeTheCarpenter

I know this is a forum mainly for mums but I hope you can deal with a query from a dad?

DW and I have been married for a few years, no children. Nine months ago we found out DW was pregnant. I’ll be honest, I was suspicious because our sex life hadn’t been great and the timings didn’t really work. However, I’ve accepted that the baby is mine, maybe because I don’t want what I suspected to be true.

DW is nearly full term but we’ve unexpectedly had to return to my home town to deal with some paperwork. We arrived yesterday. It wasn’t a great trip, our transport was really slow. Then, when we arrived, we discovered all the hotels in the area are booked up. DW, of course, blames me for not booking something in advance.

Thankfully, we’ve found an B&B where the owner has an outbuilding with accommodation round the back that he says we can use. It’s basic but will do the job. However, DW is still really angry with me about having no booking; she thinks the accommodation we have is inadequate and if the baby was to come along we wouldn’t even have a crib. I think it’s not unreasonable to expect a hotel to have vacancies at this time of year.

AIBU?

You know it's the census so should have booked online in advance. YABVVVU
lonelySam · 25/12/2021 08:12

Your story sounds familiar, have you posted about this before, OP? ;)

MrsSkylerWhite · 25/12/2021 08:15

🤣

Ibane · 25/12/2021 08:18

Watch out for three guys bearing expensively and unsuitably adult baby gifts on camels — their inability to keep their traps shuts to suspicious royals on their way home means you need to do a major international detour sharpish.

And post on the baby names forum — don’t call him Zebulon.

Iamacatslave · 25/12/2021 08:24

How very silly of you Joseph.

MrsMoastyToasty · 25/12/2021 08:25

Just a warning. Watch the political scene carefully.
The king is a bit crazy and has threatened to kill all newborn babies who he thinks might be after his crown.

GoodPrincessWenceslas · 25/12/2021 08:35

You're liable to have a load of shepherds turning up as well. It's going to be a busy night.

gettingolderandgrumpy · 25/12/2021 08:44

I think you should’ve name changed as very outing Grin.

Fuuuuuckit · 25/12/2021 08:44

You made your wife travel for DAYS on a donkey, at 9 months pregnant, and didn't even think about booking a room, never mind in census season?

YABVVVVU, I think you need to get onto amazon prime pronto to make sure you organise some amazing gifts. Should be able to pick something decent up, hopefully the delivery men will be of better calibre than our local one.

Make sure you add in 'under the star' as an option in the delivery notes.

SephrinaX · 25/12/2021 08:45

You sure it's your baby? I've heard some rumours about your Mrs...

Meraas · 25/12/2021 08:48

God I only got this in the end of the 4th paragraph 🤣 I was getting properly annoyed at Joe.

Is there hope for me? Or have I spent too much time on AIBU?

awesomekilick · 25/12/2021 09:06

Perhaps if you'd done more as a DH, she wouldnt have been so grumpy or played away. Have you read "my wife left me because i didn't do the dishes?"

justustwoandmoo · 25/12/2021 09:13

Hahahahahahahahahahahaha. This made me laugh 🤣🤣🤣🤣

mumofEandE · 25/12/2021 09:13

@Meraas

God I only got this in the end of the 4th paragraph 🤣 I was getting properly annoyed at Joe.

Is there hope for me? Or have I spent too much time on AIBU?

Ya I was the same - took me a whileXmas Smile
AngelinaFibres · 25/12/2021 09:34

[quote BasiliskStare]@JoeTheCarpenter

YANBU - but may be ask DW to put on a beatific smile for the photographs of her with the baby.[/quote]
Yes take lots of selphies. Make sure you upload to the cloud

Ibane · 25/12/2021 10:02

@awesomekilick

Perhaps if you'd done more as a DH, she wouldnt have been so grumpy or played away. Have you read "my wife left me because i didn't do the dishes?"
Yeah, if you’d romanced her a bit more, she mightn’t have gone off and got jiggy with the Holy Spirit.