Showering

[autieok]

Hi we have two adult dd one lives at home other comes home regularly. They both have bf who stop over at ours. They have a bathroom they share which has a bath with shower attachment. We have a small ensuite with an old shower, it's desperately in need of replacing- rubber seal peeling off, not draining properly. We are saving to do this. Because it doesn't drain well and my husband has a lot of hair it constantly has hair on the floor which looks like sludge 🤢. Dh showers every day but leaves for work immediately so it's usually me that cleans it for me to use (or I have a bath) Both dd use their bathroom but their boyfriends prefer to shower so ask to use our en-suite. I find this a grief as it's usually in middle of ds bedtime or late at night. I don't want them going into a unclean shower but I don't want to have to clean it on demand. Dh says let the dd clean it but I feel this is unfair caus it's not her that's used it. I just think they should use the shower attachment in dd bathroom. Plus I don't really want them walking through our bedroom. Aibu?

Tell your DH he need to get up 5 mins earlier and clean his own hair off the shower!!

Your DH sounds grim. Why should you or your daughters clean his mess? It only takes a moment to rinse the shower down

And use a hair catcher - it's not going to drain well if your DH is blocking it up with hair.
Treat it with a drain unblocked that dissolves hair, then use a hair catcher every time.

Just tell them that you would prefer they use the shower over the bath. It can't be a huge deal unless they have mobility issues.

DH should clean up his own hair. The boyfriends should use the shower attachment. Putting a proper shower attachment in the bath will be much less expensive than a whole new en-suite.

I would say no as my bedroom/en-suite are private
Plus in your case if more people are using it and the sealant is peeling additional use increases the risk of a leak.

I’d ask dds to explain to their bfs. They are very welcome to use the bath and make do with the shower attachment but the en suite is not available to them. Is there a shower screen in the main bathroom so they can use that more like a proper shower?

So either way the womanfolk do the cleaning. Wow.

Can you just say sorry it doesn’t drain well and is on the verge of breaking so you’ll need to use the en-suite.

If you’d be happy for them to use you en-suite once it is fixed (I wouldn’t), perhaps one or more of these other 4 adults would like to contribute towards the repair? Are any of them paying towards the household utilities they use?

This is totally your husband's responsibility. He's an adult and should clean up after himself. He should be allowing time to clean his own sludge up before leaving for work-you use that shower too!

The other thing is though that I wouldn't want the boyfriends trudging in and out of my bedroom either.

I'm with pp. DH needs to clean it. Filthy beggar.

Just tell them no, it's not draining properly, and buy yourself more time to save.
It's curious why you are prepared to clean up your dh's hair (boak), but you don't want your dds to do the same for their bfs.

I be wouldn't want them in my bedroom / en suite and I think it's a bit cheeky if them to ask.

er what? why should dd clean it? it takes 2 seconds to clean the shower after use. as a single working parent this is what I do and somehow I still have time to get ready and get to work.

So the men get to demand how and where they shower and you’re expected to get up early to clean and allow people to tramp through your bedroom?! No way, you’re being a pushover here.

I wouldn't dream of leaving a dirty shower. Always rinse it down and spray the glass, all ready for the next person.

Thank you everyone 👏 I agree oh should clean it. Part of issue is it take about 20min to drain. And he doesn't want to wait to clean it. We tried a hair catcher it just floated up and was useless. I think I don't want people in my bedroom so will say no on that basis. A shower curtain or screen in main bathroom is a great idea. Thank you 😊

Love the way this is everybody else's problem but your husband's. He needs to wake up five minutes earlier/take a shorter shower so he has time to rinse his hair out of the shower so it is ready for the next person to use.
YANBU about the boyfriends using your ensuite - that seems very odd and intrusive.

The thought of sludgy hair has proper put me off my mince pie here...

Tell your DJ to pick up his slimy mess

Have you done a good few doses of drain unblocker?

if it takes nearly 20 minutes to drain you have a more serious issue than a few hairs. You need to get the drain cleared out fully and make sure OH sorts out his hair loss. Lots of hair doesn't necessarily equal blocked drains.

Also, what sort of lazy shit showers and buggers off without cleaning up after himself? Tell him he needs to allow any draining time so needs to get up earlier.

Jeez there are some slobs around ,

Is your DH a werewolf?

He needs to take a few mins after his shower to clean up his own mess.

And the BF's can use the other bathrooms. I hate people in my bedroom.

Unless your husband is in fact a dog, he needs to clean the shower after using it. 🤢

Your DH needs to clean up after himself. It's basic courtesy to leave the shower clean.