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How would you feel if DH referred to you when talking to DC as "your mother "

Not sure if bring overly sensitive. (4th baby recently arrived) I think it's tetchy. Prefer eg mummy

YABU - It's fine. Relax!

YANBU - It's not nice

Yabu.

YABU
I think you might be a bit sensitive after newly arrived baby, or did this always bother you?

He'll only ever to it in jest to wind me up

@AngelonTopoftheTree

YABU I think you might be a bit sensitive after newly arrived baby, or did this always bother you?

I don't know if he did it before or not.

He doesn't always do it now but if he does it's annoying me. Haven't said anything though as not sure if it's me being sensitive-hence this poll!

"Am I looking forward to Christmas dinner? Well your mother is making it, so..."

"Hmmm can you have another biscuit? Ask your mother, she's in charge! "

Two very different vibes. It totally depends how he was saying it. Could be playful, neutral, rude - just depends on context and tone of voice.

Entirely depends on context.

Me and my DH often call our son “the boy” when we’re texting or talking, which might sound awful to some people but it’s meant extremely affectionately!

Wouldn't bother me at all, but then again I can't stand being called "mummy" and am very much looking forward to 3YO DS growing out of it. If it gets substituted for "mum" that will be even worse 😱

Literally wouldn't bother me in the slightest, you need to chill.

I don't really know what you mean, as in 'I don't know, ask your mother'? If that's what you mean then I don't see what the problem is...

@GiltEdges

Wouldn't bother me at all, but then again I can't stand being called "mummy" and am very much looking forward to 3YO DS growing out of it. If it gets substituted for "mum" that will be even worse 😱

What do you want him to call you? Mother? Does anyone actually call their DM mother??

@GiltEdges

Wouldn't bother me at all, but then again I can't stand being called "mummy" and am very much looking forward to 3YO DS growing out of it. If it gets substituted for "mum" that will be even worse 😱

Do you don't like mummy or mum? What would you prefer? Just being nosy!

YABU.

My husband says “your mum” when talking to our kids and I say “your dad”. What else do we call eachother? Our poor kids on the other hand get called all sorts. The boy, the worm, that thing upstairs, the small man, the ginger one, miss thing etc.

YABU

Exh says it when disciplining the kids, particularly as teens. Eg show respect, help around the house etc

@OGenkiDesuKa

Mine regularly gets called the other ones name!

Couldn’t get worked up.

“Daddy can we do X this afternoon”
“Hmm. Did you ask your mother?”

“Mummy, can you buy me X”
“Ask your father”

Pretty standard when I was a child, and we’re already mock saying it with DD 13mo.

I am assuming he used ‘a tone’ in saying this. That would then make me cross.
If you don’t like it - ask him not to repeat it!

“Er indoors” or ‘Princess’

@lynntheyresexswappers
@mistermagpie

Ideally mother, or my actual name. I vary between referring to my own DM as "mother" (my preference) and "mum" (her preference).

I think you need to explain what he actually said.

@GiltEdges

Wouldn't bother me at all, but then again I can't stand being called "mummy" and am very much looking forward to 3YO DS growing out of it. If it gets substituted for "mum" that will be even worse 😱

What do you want to be called?

Oh sorry saw you already answered

@DropYourSword

Entirely depends on context.

Me and my DH often call our son “the boy” when we’re texting or talking, which might sound awful to some people but it’s meant extremely affectionately!

We called ours 'the boy' for three years, until we had another boy and had to start using actual names!