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Christmas morning Covid test being demanded

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Quarks69 · 22/12/2021 08:27

Is everyone else having these? My sister in law has demanded this from my side of the family as her elderly parents are going to be at the dinner. With a family of five and three are my busy teens I am worried that we could end up with no xmas day if one of us is asymptomatic (for the second year running obvs).

I do get that we are in bonkers times, but Was so looking Forward to seeing everyone, including my parents, that this is making me cross...isn’t this the point of the jabs!?

OP posts:
Tricked2003 · 22/12/2021 09:10

I live in Wales where the message for weeks has been " Lateral flow before you go".
You resent being asked to test because you would miss Christmas dinner if you tested positive...........wow ............you really should be more concerned about protecting your relatives!

NovemberNovemberDarkNights · 22/12/2021 09:10

@Quarks69

You're being very unreasonable!

You don't want to test in case you get a positive & spoil your Christmas Dinner, but you're not worried about passing it on to your SIL's older parents.

Good god woman have a good think about your mindset!

Of course we're all testing, of course we are.

PurpleDaisies · 22/12/2021 09:10

@Iwonder08

No, I wouldn't ask my guests to test. Vulnerable people should assess their own risk and don't join any gatherings if they are worried.
Would you test if a vulnerable person asked you to?
AlwaysLatte · 22/12/2021 09:10

With a family of five and three are my busy teens I am worried that we could end up with no xmas day if one of us is asymptomatic
So you were hoping that you could still go, should you be asymptomatic, and so you don't want to find out with a test?
Unbelievable.

PieMistee · 22/12/2021 09:10

Fuck me. You know that YOU are the SIL from hell. I can't believe you would risk the health of people you are happy to share a meal with. Beyond selfish.
We are a doing tests of course because we are not narcissists. As you must know by now the have reduce the risk but covid still can cause illness and they may not die but may be really fucking ill as may you.

TheGonnagle · 22/12/2021 09:11

We’re testing whenever we go to see anyone and requesting the same if anyone come to see us. Common sense, innit?

AngryWithH · 22/12/2021 09:11

Just say you have - she can hardly demand to see the tests.

Spaghettipie1 · 22/12/2021 09:11

Very sensible, we are doing the same. Spreading Covid would ruin Christmas more than going in blissful ignorance!

AlwaysLatte · 22/12/2021 09:12

Just say you have - she can hardly demand to see the tests.
I'm glad you're not coming to my house!

MajesticallyAwkward · 22/12/2021 09:12

@Iwonder08

No, I wouldn't ask my guests to test. Vulnerable people should assess their own risk and don't join any gatherings if they are worried.
But how can anyone assess the risks if they don't know the details. Attending a family Christmas Day with 20 people who have all tested negative is very different to attending a family Christmas Day with 20 people who haven't tested or some have tested positive.
AfterSchoolWorry · 22/12/2021 09:13

Yeah, people are testing. Why wouldn't you?

I'm wondering how you've missed this!!!?

christmaspop · 22/12/2021 09:13

We are all testing Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.

2 elderly family members and we want to make it as safe as possible. It's rubbish but that's covid.

Sounds like your enjoyment is more important than others health??

avocadotofu · 22/12/2021 09:13

That sounds totally sensible to me. We are testing before out and we're had our boosters. It seems like the least we can do.

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 22/12/2021 09:13

I’ve been testing twice a week and more recently every other day for MONTHS (I work in school). When I had a few friends round they all tested without me saying anything and I and my family will be testing on any day when we are seeing people.

If I had elderly people in my household I would absolutely be expecting any visitors to test before coming. It’s painless, quick and (although not 100%) reassuring.

Refusing to test is simply selfish.

Jungfraujoch · 22/12/2021 09:13

Unbelievable- the lack of understanding, social responsibility and pure selfishness is quite staggering.

icedcoffees · 22/12/2021 09:13

I wouldn't test nor would I ask anyone else to take one.

I've been flamed for that on here before but I don't mix with anyone vulnerable and I think we're all adults and capable of deciding whether to socialise or not. If someone had symptoms I would expect them to isolate but I wouldn't ask someone who was asymptomatic and healthy to take a test. The plastic waste is insane for one thing, and they're always accurate either.

Pbbananabagel · 22/12/2021 09:13

Of course we are testing before seeing people, the tests are free and it takes 2mins why wouldn’t you?!

ieatpies · 22/12/2021 09:13

I wouldn’t go if I had it, but am curious if everyone out there is testing.

@Quarks69 yes lots of us are. Daily for work, before going out out, or visiting people.

See also wearing a seatbelt while driving, making sure food is reheated properly, not letting DC stick their fingers in plugs and all those other things that we choose to do to be safe.

Suspiciousmind20 · 22/12/2021 09:14

We are all testing.

CrapDrawer · 22/12/2021 09:14

@Quarks69

Is everyone else having these? My sister in law has demanded this from my side of the family as her elderly parents are going to be at the dinner. With a family of five and three are my busy teens I am worried that we could end up with no xmas day if one of us is asymptomatic (for the second year running obvs).

I do get that we are in bonkers times, but Was so looking Forward to seeing everyone, including my parents, that this is making me cross...isn’t this the point of the jabs!?

It’s the point of LFTs. Do what you can to make sure you haven’t got it and that you don’t spread it around. If you’re asymptomatic you could give someone the virus.

We live in a world at the moment where we should all be prepared that our plans may change at the last minute. Surely you’ve prepared for this eventuality and have a back up Christmas dinner in the freezer. Your SIL could test positive and tell you not to come.

NewbieAlert · 22/12/2021 09:14

I am worried that we could end up with no xmas day if one of us is asymptomatic
Wow. Read that back.

So you’d rather not test, go positive but no symptoms and potentially infect the rest of the people there?

Look at the stats. Being double jabbed doesn’t stop you from contracting or passing on covid.

dizzygirl1 · 22/12/2021 09:15

If we were out seeing family on Christmas day we'd be testing.
We've done lft's today as per of the 'twice a week, even in school holidays' request.
It's not painful and takes a couple of minutes..... not really difficult, do it in between opening presents, don't make s big thing of it or make a 'Christmas in 2021' joke

Staryflight445 · 22/12/2021 09:15

Can’t believe you’d rather go and potentially infect others that could die of it instead of doing an LFT and spending Xmas home by yourself.
So selfish op.

TenoringBehind · 22/12/2021 09:16

Sounds very sensible.

Can’t understand why anyone would object to this.

Staryflight445 · 22/12/2021 09:16

I was looking forward to Xmas too but can’t enjoy now thanks to people like you.

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