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Christmas morning Covid test being demanded

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Quarks69 · 22/12/2021 08:27

Is everyone else having these? My sister in law has demanded this from my side of the family as her elderly parents are going to be at the dinner. With a family of five and three are my busy teens I am worried that we could end up with no xmas day if one of us is asymptomatic (for the second year running obvs).

I do get that we are in bonkers times, but Was so looking Forward to seeing everyone, including my parents, that this is making me cross...isn’t this the point of the jabs!?

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 22/12/2021 08:27

But if you are positive you shouldn't be going.

AtillatheHun · 22/12/2021 08:28

Pretty normal and totally reasonable if it’s LFTs

Nacknick · 22/12/2021 08:28

Seems sensible to me

Meadowblossom · 22/12/2021 08:28

Your sister in law is correct. Think about the most vulnerable. You aren’t being asked anything unreasonable.

Missushbb · 22/12/2021 08:29

it does seem a bit ott but i can see her point. however i don't have a lot of trust in lateral flow tests as mine was repeatedly negative when i had symptoms, got a PCR and was positive. Even people with symptoms are saying they're ok as the lateral flow was negative. in my experience that didn't matter.

Twentypast · 22/12/2021 08:29

I'm asking my 12 guests to test too. I will have 3 people over 80 coming. All jabbed and boosted but they can still catch it.

Anyone asymptomatic but positive could put them at risk so no one minds testing.

Original poster
Quarks69 · 22/12/2021 08:29

@AllThingsServeTheBeam

But if you are positive you shouldn't be going.
I wouldn’t go if I had it, but am curious if everyone out there is testing.
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Thatsplentyjack · 22/12/2021 08:30

Hang on, you don't want to test incase one of you is asymptomatic? So you want to live in ignorant bliss and go spread covid to her elderly parents so you can all have a lovely christmas day?

wateraddict · 22/12/2021 08:30

We are testing before we go shopping or see anyone, every time.

Deisogn · 22/12/2021 08:30

We are all testing before seeing people. It's really just being responsible. I can't see why this would annoy you? She's trying to protect her elderly parents.

Timeforabiscuit · 22/12/2021 08:30

What's the problem? Do you not like your sil? You do tests before a big meet up.

brightblueskies80 · 22/12/2021 08:30

We always test before seeing people. YABU

GalesThisMorning · 22/12/2021 08:30

Would you rather your teen inadvertently gave covid to an elderly relative? Everyone I know is testing before meeting up with vulnerable people these days. If you are worried get your teens to curtail some activities a few days beforehand (probably too late for that now though).

Anyway, your sil is being entirely reasonable to want to protect her parents health.

TheFlis12345 · 22/12/2021 08:31

So you would rather risk giving SIL’s elderly parents Covid than test and have to stay home if one of you is positive?!? That’s ridiculously selfish.

Alayalaya · 22/12/2021 08:31

It’s entirely sensible to test if you’re going to be in a room with elderly people all day. It’s not exactly difficult or expensive, I don’t know why you wouldn’t?

ColitisSucks · 22/12/2021 08:31

We will be doing LFTs before meeting my 96 yr old DGM on Xmas day, and my 83 Yr old MIL in new year (if Boris doesn't cancel it!)

Of course you don't want to miss out, neither do we, but surely it's common sense to make sure you're not putting someone particularly vulnerable at risk?

dotmckee · 22/12/2021 08:31

There is a risk you or your kids could have it and be asymptomatic but if you don't test, and spread it to your elderly parents they might not be so lucky as to be asymptomatic even if they are triple jabbed. Why would you risk that for the sake of a quick test? Our family are all taking LFTs before meeting at the moment, it really isn't too much to ask.

Squirrelblanket · 22/12/2021 08:31

I'm not routinely testing before meeting up with people but I wouldn't object if asked. If there is going to be elderly or vulnerable people there I think it's fair enough.

RedskyThisNight · 22/12/2021 08:31

If one of you is asymptomatic, isn't a good thing that you pick it up and don't pass it on to elderly relatives? More important than you going to someone else's house for Xmas Day?

lap90 · 22/12/2021 08:31

It's not that unusual for people to do a lateral flow test before they meet up with others IMO.

Jelly0naplate · 22/12/2021 08:31

You seem more bothered about youR Christmas socials than you do about potentially spreading it to elderly relatives. We're doing lateral flows Christmas morning to protect elderly parents. We have a last minute back up plan in the freezer incase we test positive.

Weepingwillows12 · 22/12/2021 08:32

I am doing them because I don't want to make my family ill if any of us have it and don't know. I also have limited seeing people as Christmas is my priority but one of my parents is immuno compromised.

Amongst friends it seems to be 50 50 on who is doing them but I think the host gets to decide. Fingers crossed your tests are fine.

WeeFae · 22/12/2021 08:32

Sounds very sensible.

luckylavender · 22/12/2021 08:32

@Quarks69 - but you won't know if you've got it if you don't test.

ReeseWitherfork · 22/12/2021 08:32

Personal I'd do one Christmas Eve evening. I know everyone says they can change quickly, but dealing with potentially bad news on Christmas Day isn't an ideal scenario. Different situation if you've got vulnerable family members or symptoms though.

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