OK, so I am veggie, have been all my life - please be kind. I love food in general, but can never share that passion with my DH as he is a complete carnivore. Kids used to be veggie until they could make up their own mind which they did and now they eat everything. My DH and extended family's consumption of meat never bothered me until recently. Whilst I never used to have a problem with him cooking, eating, etc, at home - it's his house too and we have separate pans, pots, etc (legacy from DMIL) - I have realised, now that I am the only veggie, they actually don't eat anything other than meat. I guess everyone made more of an effort when the kids were veggie too, although always carb heavy - pasta, potatoes, bread.
Anyway, here we are today, Xmas is at ours this year, and turkey and lamb were mentioned. I don't like the smell of lamb, never have, never will, but tolerated it because my DH loves a good lamb shank or curry even though it makes me churn. I don't know why it is bothering me so much now, maybe age, menopause, lifes too short, and all the rest. As we have gotten older, it seems like I have become even more veggie and he has become even more carnivorous.
AIBU to just have turkey and all the trimmings without also having a leg of lamb staring at me and filling the house with its pungent aroma.
I am now riddled with guilt for saying we are only having turkey (there will be sausage stuffing, pigs in blankets, sprouts with bacon, etc) - and feeling very selfish, after all, when you have people over, it is about them as they are your guests, but I just can't do it and everyone is in shock that we are only having turkey.
(Have just realised unintended irony of username
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