To not feel Christmassy?

[Livingthroughcrazy]

I’m just not feeling it despite:

• eating dozens of mince pies, including the MILs
• attending a masked Carol concert with my three DC’s, one of whom shouted “not wuv this, I wuv wheels on bus ‘stead mummy - waaaaaaa”
• significantly contributing to amazons net profit for this quarter
• having a house interior that resembles a garden centre Xmas display
• wrapping presents while making “play me Christmas tunes, Alexa!” demands

In honesty I’m feeling bloody exhausted and running low on reindeer dust too.

Maybe I need to make eggnog? Although the thought of drinking raw eggs gives me the boke. Dress up the cats?

Yup, we've all got the 10 million tests later definitley not Covid cold, which has wiped what tiny Christmas spirit I had.

I'd over a mince pie but everywhere here has wold out of gluten free and I'm intolerant.

Also stressing as we've ordered some meat from a really nice small outdoor bred farm but the last two orders we've had from them have come on a 48hr del (not next day as they're supposed to) now panicking that if we're on a 23rd Dec delivery slot we're not going to get our Christmas Dinner!

I'll wager you're not drinking nearly enough Sherry/Baileys/Port (other festive spirits are available).

Not feeling so Christmassy either here

We have no decorations up as we are all ill (COVID).

The presents are bought and wrapped but that’s it. No Christmas food in, no tree up, nothing

DH and both working til Christmas Eve and both annoyingly really busy, and both have our boosters this week. Very very happy to be boosted, but everyone I know has been wiped out for about 24 hours, so have to try and factor that into the week as well.

We are watching Christmas films, eating mince pies etc and the house is covered in twinkly lights but still not getting the fluttery feeling either :(.

Just feels like we need to 'make it' to Christmas Eve before Christmas can actually start.

I might feel Christmassy once I'm done with work, and I can stop shoving mince pies in my mouth purely in order to avoid telling people to fuck right off.

Not feeling it at all here either. It's been a really shit time lately. I'm heavily pregnant and not feeling good (SPD and sickness), we've got a close relative on end of life care and expected to go at any time, threat of lockdown looming. But we have 2 small children and I'm determined to give them a good Christmas so I'm slapping on a brave face each morning!

To be honest, I haven't felt Christmassy since I was about 14. I always find it a difficult time of year because I feel like I should be feeling something that I'm just not. It all seems to be based around obligation rather than enjoyment.

I reckon you’re not feeling Christmassy because you’re running yourself into the ground trying to have the experiences / decor / activities etc that everyone tells you are essential for Christmas.

This is the season to rest, reflect and be at peace. What would make you feel relaxed and happy and calm? Try and identify that and then do it. You deserve a break! Is it watching Christmas films with your feet up, going to the cinema, baking something, reading a book in the bath, going for a walk somewhere beautiful, drinking sherry and scrolling on MN, etc? Find your peace and insist upon it.

Massively sulky here because Cancelmas is now just endless childcare with nobody else to help. And cooking and cleaning. Fucking joy. They don't even go to bed so we can't have joy adult evenings.

jolly adult evenings

Also not feeling it. I'm never hugely Christmassy before Christmas Eve anyway but this year is even worse. I burst in to frustrated tears when Dh got home last night, the angry sort, I miss my Dad & have a family member (to whom he was very close) dying so I think it's just grief rearing it's head again. But I feel bad for it because of the children...oh well DH is working tonight so I'm planning a nice glass of wine & folding washing to trash tv once the children are in bed. It won't make me feel festive but it might help me relax.

I’m usually very Christmassy but this year I’ve had enough. DD with Covid so Christmas plans all cancelled, snowed under with work, still absolutely shattered from my booster. Hoping when I finish on 23rd I’ll feel like less of a grinch...!

It is the relentless bleak news pouring out of every news channels telling us things could be cancelled with a minutes notice. It is not knowing what the hell is happening one day to the next. It is ridiculous language like 'bombs going off' 'tsunami of infection heading YOUR way right now towards your small lovely children' It is the battering of the government even if some of it is deserved, it is NOT nice to listen to at Christmas.
The sheer fucking lack of actual good will.

It is going to take more than carols op and eggnog!

It's never felt Christmassy since we had those proper snowy Christmases around 2010. It's not even frosty in the mornings here!

We started off the festive period really well with a lovely trip to a Christmas tree farm in the snow blasting Christmas tunes as we drove along with the tree on the roof, it felt amazing. Then DD tested positive the following day so we started a two week battle with covid in the house as the toddlers came down with it and I did too. We didn’t sleep properly for two weeks straight, it was bloody horrible. We’ve just come out of the other side of that and had a lovely weekend visiting Santa at a national trust place and watching a street nativity in a local village so I’m feeling a bit better now. Looking forward to Christmas Eve, it’s always my favourite day and I booked a Christmas event which I’ve kept a surprise from DC so excited for that.

I should add I’m also steering clear of the news unless it’s happy stories like the people donating presents to vulnerable families or the knitting Nanna’s who have been knitting Christmas bollard covers.

Glad I’m not alone. I feel knackered and not Christmasy, middle child in particular is being hard work, he’s 8 and in the everything is terrible awful, your mean and shouting(I’m not, yet). Just want to cry. Feel like school not opening from lockdown or because of lack of staff is overshadowing any weak Christmas spirit for me because I feel like I’ve already begun to marathon that is 24/7 childcare/cleaning/feeding.
And then, I think of all the people desperately waiting for things like chemotherapy/operations etc., and feel so sorry for them as I still recall the stress of waiting for appts when husband had his treatment just before covid.
If someone finds the magic button to restart Christmas spirit let me know!

Yes, I do think that's adding to it with a lot of people Fairy, myself included. Just constant bloody doom & uncertainty. I do have pineapple rum to crack open though, that might help.

On a serious note, we have banned the news, keep only heart Xmas on, but what made a difference was a lovely walk collecting holly and ivy and winter evergreens with the dc.

Not feeling it either.

We had covid about six weeks ago which really knocked me, I had the booster yesterday which is making me feel awful, there are builders here who keep coming up with excuses as to why nothing has been finished, everything is covered in dust, I've spent too much money, we haven't got a tree yet, no decorations are up, DH was in charge of dinner this year and hasn't done anything about it, day after day of fucking low cloud, I've got an assignment due on Christmas Eve, we promised DS1 we'd move him in to his own room for Christmas - nothing has been done on that front, and the ILs Boxing Day gathering has been cancelled.

Just feel really miserable with nothing to look forward to!

I’m usually the most festive person I know and usually get so excited about the lead up but right now I’m just meh. I don’t know what it is, whether it’s the fear that someone’s going to test positive on Christmas Eve and everything being cancelled again, or just the endless bad news coming from the media, it just makes it all so hard to relax and just enjoy to festivities.
You are not alone OP in this feeling, I think many people are feeling it

@LindaEllen

To be honest, I haven't felt Christmassy since I was about 14. I always find it a difficult time of year because I feel like I should be feeling something that I'm just not. It all seems to be based around obligation rather than enjoyment.

Perfectly put, and your comment applies to many, but they are unable to articulate it for fear of the Grinch moniker being applied.

One day and it's done thankfully. Everyone is different and there are no rules, but there are expectations from many that the world should act like performing seals in the run up to and on the day. It doesn't apply to everyone.

Same, have avoided any nice Christmas outings/events because worried about getting covid (me, DH and DS1 & 2 not had it yet) and not being able to see elderly family for Christmas Day. Feel flat and bored, eating loads but not doing stuff I need to do eg wrap presents and check if need to get any extra shopping. After losing my brother and MIL a nice Christmas would have been some relief. Feel like we're all waiting for it to be cancelled...

Classic FM is always beautiful to listen to at this time of year.

Agree with the poster who hasn’t felt Christmassy since about age 14! I thought having kids would bring me some Christmas magic in my soul - but no I am actually quite enjoying the fact that they are pre teens now & I don’t feel the pressure to faff around with Santa visits and reindeer sprinkles and all that extra shizzle..
The news being ridiculously grim doesn’t help this year