AIBU to be peed off ...

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DH thinks I'm over reacting, but he would given the sexist assed nature of my complaint

So AIBU to think that addressing a card to Mr & Mrs DHs Christian name Rockin is sexist shit & pretty fucking rude when it comes from long time mutual friends

Not a huge deal granted, but unless over 80 & my over 80s family wouldn't surely it takes 1 second not to be a sexist arse 🤷‍♀️

Generally it doesn't bother me personally but I saw my MIL write out a card like that to one of dhs cousins who hasn't changed her surname after marrying and it really annoyed me, im sure that particular person would be really cross about it.

It is old fashioned but it was considered to be the correct form of address for a married couple and I don't take exception to it on correspondence addresses to us both. However, I have a cousin who insists on sending my birthday card addresses to Mrs, husbands initial and then surname. This I do take exception to. Although when she was at secretarial college in the sixties it was considered correct.

YANBU.

It IS sexist. I got married, I didn't give up my complete personhood and become some weird growth/symbiotic being of my husband's.

It bothers me too OP. Two recent examples for me were architect drawings and a building invoice - one listed the client as 'Mr Mummabubs' and the other was 'Mr and Mrs (DH's first name) Mummabubs'. Felt extra insulting as neither had ever even spoken to my DH, I'd sourced them, contacted them, met them and also paid them!! 🙄

@NovemberNovemberDarkNights
Very good point

I don't know why posters have been accusing you of tantruming and massively overreacting when you clearly haven't and have explained so. 🙄
I wouldn't like it either, depending on who it was and if it was meant to be passive-aggressive or not, I might mention it next time I saw the sender.

It may well be sexist by today's standards but addressing a couple , in correspondence, by saying

Mr and Mrs S Clematis

Is actually correct.
Yes, I know it's outdated and annoying.

Are people confusing Christian name with surname?

It's shockingly sexist. I can't believe the replies here.

@mummabubs

It bothers me too OP. Two recent examples for me were architect drawings and a building invoice - one listed the client as 'Mr Mummabubs' and the other was 'Mr and Mrs (DH's first name) Mummabubs'. Felt extra insulting as neither had ever even spoken to my DH, I'd sourced them, contacted them, met them and also paid them!! 🙄

That would REALLY annoy me!

It’s irritating but if someone had taken the trouble to write and post a card to me I couldn’t get too upset over the way the envelope is addressed. It’s the thought that counts.

I enjoy receiving cards. I know it’s the most un-MN thing to do and I should be sent to the stocks for it.

I hate it!! Hate it!!