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To make covid fudge

234 replies

Decorbreadthegingerate · 19/12/2021 12:21

DD, 6, halfway through covid isolation and climbing the walls with boredom. We thought about making fudge today to gift to family members when isolation ends on Xmas eve. Would you eat the covid fudge?

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PussyCatEatingPigsInBlankets · 19/12/2021 15:45

@AllKnowingGerbil

Sorry I wouldnt eat it. I've seen my 7yo bake Grin

Hope she is feeling ok

I can still remember my mum chucking all of my home economics attempts at cooking down the loo. Admittedly the victoria sponge had to be chopped up first (the butter cream melted as the sponges were too hot - I knew this but the teacher was a twat running late as ever) getting rid of the chilli con carne and shepherds pie was a doddle in comparison.

Unfortunately this means I have zero confidence in the kitchen and am still frightened of heat/flames (gas hob is a no no) and knives.

I love summer as I can "cook" a salad...

CrumpledCrumpet · 19/12/2021 15:47

I can understand people not wanting to eat “covid fudge” but the general hang-up about not wanting to eat food gifts from other people is WEIRD and totally irrational.

FluffyBooBoo · 19/12/2021 15:51

I would assume if it were actually possible to pass covid into food it would get killed by cooking

Oh I totally think that would be the case. But I wouldn't assume that, once cooked, it magically cuts itself into squares and puts itself into bags.

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 19/12/2021 15:51

This thread has saddened me. I hadn't realised how many people don't eat homemade gifts and just bin them. I've often baked for friends' birthdays or housewarming etc, thinking it was a nice thing to do. As well as the expense, it's a time investment, which I am more than happy to make if the food is going to be eaten. I might no longer do that, other than for friends who have eaten at my home so are unlikely to bin a homemade gift.

Hesma · 19/12/2021 15:53

No way 🤮

icedcoffees · 19/12/2021 15:57

@CrumpledCrumpet

I can understand people not wanting to eat “covid fudge” but the general hang-up about not wanting to eat food gifts from other people is WEIRD and totally irrational.
Why is it weird?

People eat the way they do for all sorts of reasons - eating disorders, diets, intolerances, texture issues, fussiness and just general limited diets.

As an example, I have Aspergers and have a real issue with certain textures to the point they make me vomit. I would rather turn down someone's homemade food than risk having to run off to the bathroom to be sick.

I also think it's weird that people choose to bake for others (who haven't asked to be baked for) and then get offended when that food isn't wanted in the first place.

Toddlerteaplease · 19/12/2021 15:58

I will never turn down fudge!

herecomesthsun · 19/12/2021 15:58

@RockingMyFiftiesNot

This thread has saddened me. I hadn't realised how many people don't eat homemade gifts and just bin them. I've often baked for friends' birthdays or housewarming etc, thinking it was a nice thing to do. As well as the expense, it's a time investment, which I am more than happy to make if the food is going to be eaten. I might no longer do that, other than for friends who have eaten at my home so are unlikely to bin a homemade gift.
I think most people IRL are happy to eat homemade cake. Our village events normally run on homemade cake, in non covid times! I wouldn't stop baking, it's a lovely thing to do.

The issue here is in large part that the baking involves a small child with an infectious disease (albeit one that usually has airborne transmission)

icedcoffees · 19/12/2021 15:59

@RockingMyFiftiesNot

This thread has saddened me. I hadn't realised how many people don't eat homemade gifts and just bin them. I've often baked for friends' birthdays or housewarming etc, thinking it was a nice thing to do. As well as the expense, it's a time investment, which I am more than happy to make if the food is going to be eaten. I might no longer do that, other than for friends who have eaten at my home so are unlikely to bin a homemade gift.
There's no need to be sad because other people make different food choices to you.

Nobody is saying baking isn't a nice thing to do, but equally nobody should feel obliged to eat anything they don't want to eat.

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 19/12/2021 16:01

The issue here is in large part that the baking involves a small child with an infectious disease (albeit one that usually has airborne transmission)

I know but plenty of people have said they wouldn't eat anything homemade by others at all.

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 19/12/2021 16:03

There's no need to be sad because other people make different food choices to you.Nobody is saying baking isn't a nice thing to do, but equally nobody should feel obliged to eat anything they don't want to eat.

I'm sad because I may have gifted things people didn't want. Wouldn't anyone be sad if people binned a gift, homemade or not? Not to mention the time wasted making them in the first place.

EatSleepRantRepeat · 19/12/2021 16:04

If someone wants to give me a handmade food gift, I'd rather it be something that I've actually asked for, or something I can thoroughly re-heat before eating. A friend made us some lovely little pots of herb & spice mixes and some handwritten recipes of her own - they're fine as they're being cooked for several minutes at a high temperature when I use them. Same principle when visiting for a dinner party - its usually all hot fresh food, and if I think something looks too pink or isn't the correct temperature, I make my excuses and leave it.

HeyFloof · 19/12/2021 16:05

@bookworm14

MN at its batshit best. I don’t know a single person in real life who would refuse to eat homemade food.
I would accept home made food, be thrilled about it to your face, thank you profusely. And then go home and not touch it. My Dh might eat it, but I wouldn't. I only eat food I've prepared, or that my Dad has. I don't really like eating out in restaurants after working in them.

I know a family up the road from me who makes and bakes all together. They are absolutely lovely. They've had worms more times than I've had hot dinners and the kids hands are always either picking their bums or in the mouths.

icedcoffees · 19/12/2021 16:06

@RockingMyFiftiesNot

There's no need to be sad because other people make different food choices to you.Nobody is saying baking isn't a nice thing to do, but equally nobody should feel obliged to eat anything they don't want to eat.

I'm sad because I may have gifted things people didn't want. Wouldn't anyone be sad if people binned a gift, homemade or not? Not to mention the time wasted making them in the first place.

No, I can't say it would bother me really, but then again, I don't tend to ask people what they've done with gifts after I've given them, anyway.

And presumably you bake in the first place because you enjoy it, so it's not really a waste of time in that sense. You could always just bake for your immediate family or for bake sales or something in the future if you're worried about it going to waste.

RobinPenguins · 19/12/2021 16:13

@RockingMyFiftiesNot

This thread has saddened me. I hadn't realised how many people don't eat homemade gifts and just bin them. I've often baked for friends' birthdays or housewarming etc, thinking it was a nice thing to do. As well as the expense, it's a time investment, which I am more than happy to make if the food is going to be eaten. I might no longer do that, other than for friends who have eaten at my home so are unlikely to bin a homemade gift.
It is a nice thing to do, please don’t start second guessing yourself. I don’t know anyone who behaves like this in real life. Of course, perhaps as pp have observed they’re all just nice to your face and slinging your handmade gifts in the bin when they get home but that doesn’t accord with my experience of things being brought into work etc.
RockingMyFiftiesNot · 19/12/2021 16:28

And presumably you bake in the first place because you enjoy it, so it's not really a waste of time in that sense. You could always just bake for your immediate family or for bake sales or something in the future if you're worried about it going to waste.

Oh I love baking and will continue to do so for those I know appreciate it (ie have consumed my food in front of me). What I will no longer do is spend time baking for people who might put it straight in the bin. Which is a shame because chances are they would have eaten and enjoyed it.

Sorry if I've derailed your thread OP I was just taken aback by people saying they wouldn't eat home made food under any circumstances.

polkadotpixie · 19/12/2021 16:30

COVID isn't transmitted by food...if your DC had Norovirus it'd be a hard no but I'd eat COVID fudge 😊

clary · 19/12/2021 16:31

I think it’s a really nice and kind idea but personally I never eat and don’t know many people that do eat handmade gifted food, it ends up in the bin.

Wow really? I made a Christmas cake for a friend (at her urgent request) so I will be sorry if she now bins it. I am not a professional baker but I know about washing my hands and other hygiene-related practices. Do you never eat out or at anyone's house @Wavypurple?

Justkeeppedaling · 19/12/2021 16:32

You can't catch Covid from eating fudge - the virus is airborne.

So send it all to meeeee Xmas Wink

Whinge · 19/12/2021 16:37

Wow really? I made a Christmas cake for a friend (at her urgent request) so I will be sorry if she now bins it.

She's unlikely to bin it if she asked you to make it for her.

BritWifeInUSA · 19/12/2021 16:39

Yes, why not?

Frankii · 19/12/2021 16:39

"I'm so sad, I bake all the time and i won't anymore" - why? Confused

Okay, you'll never know for sure if someone has physically swallowed the stuff you've given them (short of staring at them as they chew) but so what?

Chances are they will anyway (given that loads of posts on this thread say so), but even if they don't, or they change their minds or have a stomach bug or something, why is it so personally hurtful?

icedcoffees · 19/12/2021 16:42

@clary

I think it’s a really nice and kind idea but personally I never eat and don’t know many people that do eat handmade gifted food, it ends up in the bin.

Wow really? I made a Christmas cake for a friend (at her urgent request) so I will be sorry if she now bins it. I am not a professional baker but I know about washing my hands and other hygiene-related practices. Do you never eat out or at anyone's house @Wavypurple?

Why would she bin it when she's specifically asked for it? Confused
RockingMyFiftiesNot · 19/12/2021 16:52

@Frankii

"I'm so sad, I bake all the time and i won't anymore" - why? Confused

Okay, you'll never know for sure if someone has physically swallowed the stuff you've given them (short of staring at them as they chew) but so what?

Chances are they will anyway (given that loads of posts on this thread say so), but even if they don't, or they change their minds or have a stomach bug or something, why is it so personally hurtful?

If this was aimed at me, it's not exactly what I said.

But anyway, I'm sad that I've potentially given unwanted gifts, it's the wasting of time and money that could be put to better use that makes me sad.

St0rmTr00per · 19/12/2021 16:53

No, but i also wouldnt eat cold or flu fudge. I would worry someone had coughed or sneezed in it., not that it carried covid.