Aibu - husbands drinking

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DH goes out weekly with same group of mutual friends, I go occasionally.
Half the time he returns in reasonable condition, half the time drunk to the point of falling asleep on stairs, stumbling into kids bedrooms waking them etc
He gets irritated the next morning if I tell him it's unacceptable as we have teens in the house and I don't want them to see us "stumbling drunk"
He says they laugh at how drunk he was so it's ok. Its not. Aibu to keep saying it until it changes, I sound like a nag

Hello OP - just giving your thread a bump so it doesn't get lost.

Do his hangovers stop him from working.

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If he doesn’t like criticism or questions about his drinking that’s a red flag but needs to be part of the whole picture.
Waking your children up when he’s drunk is unacceptable, they could actually laugh because they’re frightened.
If he does have a problem it’s better tackled now than leaving it.

YANBU

My ex used to come home drunk, wake our son up / spend all day on a Sunday hungover. I left him because I didn't want my son to grow up thinking this behaviour was acceptable.

It wouldn't be ok with me OP. Sorry you're experiencing this. My parents didn't drink heavily around us, but I remember her getting very drunk on whisky and being brought home by a neighbour (and bringing her cups of tea the following day as she was ill!) I didn't feel scared or unsafe, I just think it's interesting that the one time she was very drunk, I remember it. These things stick. And I reckon your DC will remember.

It's hard to have these kinds of conversations with someone, is there anyone else close to him who you could ask to broach the subject?

'Her' being my mum, oops!

It’s very unattractive, that’s for sure. You could tell him that.

Yes, I’d keep confronting it. The real worry is it will get steadily worse and you’ll be living with an ageing drunk.