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To break self isolation (back story please read)

163 replies

scared2postthis · 18/12/2021 12:48

ok so basically I tested positive for Covid on the 11th so one week ago. I live alone in a one bedroom flat with no garden. None of the people in my block of flats know I've got covid so they wouldn't snitch on me. My parents have been bringing me groceries.
Anyway I have a huge history of mental illness which has required hospitalisation on multiple occasions. Depression, anxiety, panic attacks, suicide attempts, etc. One of the things that really set me off is feeling trapped, so I get really panicky when there's too many people and I can't move, but also as it turns out when I'm stuck in the same room for nearly a week. My mental health has gone so downhill, I have been having multiple panic attacks a day and it's getting really bad. What I really need is to go out for some fresh air- it has been a week since I tested positive and I can't take this anymore. I've been trying to get through to the doctors but they don't have any appointments.

Would I be totally unreasonable to don a mask and go out for a walk tonight? I would go at around 11pm-midnight where there would be less people around, I would even go at 4am if I had to. I wouldn't go near anyone but my god I just need a quick escape from this hellhole. I can't even be that infectious after a whole week surely?

Please tell me if I'm being a selfish cunt I won't go if that's the case but I don't know what to do I can't take this much longer

OP posts:
Skiptheheartsandflowers · 18/12/2021 12:51

Do it. I would go out when it's quiet and cress the road if needed to keep away from anyone else out. I wouldn't wear a mask outside - ventilation is your friend.

hardboiledeggs · 18/12/2021 12:52

Go for a walk just keep your distance. I don’t see an issue with that.

MoiraNotRuby · 18/12/2021 12:52

In your shoes I would, obviously stay away from people and don't touch anything. Also are there any help lines you can call? I truly hope you feel better soon, dealing with mental health problems is exhausting and hard and you are doing amazingly.

DemBonesDemBones · 18/12/2021 12:53

I couldn't do it, no.

AD80 · 18/12/2021 12:53

I would in your situation. If people have a garden they are allowed in it despite that neighbours might be close by, so I can't see why a walk would be so bad! Fresh air is good for you too, it might be officially against the rules but being cooped up in a flat for 10 days is no good for anyone covid or not.

Butchyrestingface · 18/12/2021 12:53

Sounds fine. I'd do it.

ComDummings · 18/12/2021 12:54

Go for a walk. I hope you feel better soon Flowers

MarcelineMissouri · 18/12/2021 12:54

You should absolutely go for a walk.

Summerbaby2020 · 18/12/2021 12:55

I would do it OP. Make sure you have all you need to keep others safe mask, antibacterial gel, some antibacterial wipes if you have to touch the door or banisters to go out and make it a quiet time when no one is about. I just had to do a 19 day stretch because we all tested positive at different times. We were so lucky we had a big garden but you don’t so for your mental health I would say do it. My mental health took a dip during that time too never mind being in your position. Hope you feel better soon Flowers x

ivfbabymomma1 · 18/12/2021 12:55

Yes do it!

KilmordenCastle · 18/12/2021 12:57

YANBU to go out for some fresh air for the sake of your MH. But please don't go out for a walk by yourself in the middle of the night, that is too risky for you.

Maybe go early in the morning? Frankly any time of day is better than 11pm, but obviously I get why you want to go when there's not many people out and about. Just wear a mask and keep away from people as much as you possibly can, go somewhere quiet.

Doubleraspberry · 18/12/2021 12:57

Where I live it’s legal to go out for up to two hours a day with Covid, as long as you stay away from others. That’s been agreed by our public health team as the balance of harm was that for some people the effect of being stuck indoors for so long was so bad that it was a risk worth accepting.

KatyRebecca84 · 18/12/2021 12:57

Definitely do it.

Bettyboodoingthedo · 18/12/2021 12:59

I would absolutely do it. Sounds really tough for you. The idea that going out for a walk in a mask at night might potentially risk anyone else is crazy but of course we are all living in a state of fear! It's a sad, miserable time.
I hope the walk does you some good and you're able to get the help you need x

TeacupDrama · 18/12/2021 12:59

yes go out when it is quiet

EmmaGrundyForPM · 18/12/2021 13:00

I am.a "stick to the rules" person, but I think you should do it. You would be posing little risk to others, and minimising the risk to your mental wellbeing.

Sideorderofchips · 18/12/2021 13:00

Where I am you can go out for a walk for 2 hours a day even if positivd

gogohm · 18/12/2021 13:01

Go for a walk at a quiet time avoiding routes that include pressing crossing buttons etc. wear a mask if you are likely to see others. I went out and shopped when we both had covid back in March 2020, living in a new area, no help set up at that point so had no choice

MrsJBaptiste · 18/12/2021 13:01

Absolutely go. In fact if I was you, I would have already gone before now.

MuchTooTired · 18/12/2021 13:01

Normally when I click on these sorts of thread titles about breaking the rules I think to myself ‘no, you dickcheese, you can’t break the rules for no reason’. Obviously I don’t post that but click off of the thread instead.

In your case though, I’d absolutely go out. You sound so lovely and considerate of others, and I’m sorry your MH has taken such a battering whilst isolating. I hope you feel better soon 🌸

ChimChimeny · 18/12/2021 13:01

Definitely, presumably there won't be many people around and it sounds like you really need it

Loudestcat14 · 18/12/2021 13:02

Do it. Go out late at night like you've suggested. Clearly you are having a mental health crisis and you need to do this before you spiral beyond help. Plus it's seven days since you tested positive so I reckon if you did a LFT it would be negative now. Maybe take one for peace of mind?

100problems · 18/12/2021 13:02

Definitely do it. I'm going to do it myself this afternoon. My MH is very precarious and likely to take a dip if I don't get out.

HesterLee · 18/12/2021 13:02

Do it. You are taking the precautions to keep away from other people. But I would also urge you to go out earlier than 11pm. Obviously we don't know the area you live in, but keep yourself safe too.

AvocadoAndToast · 18/12/2021 13:03

Do it! I’m not sure a walk alone at 11pm is the safest thing ever though? I’d go first thing in the morning.