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Those that honk at you

36 replies

Whatwouldscullydo · 17/12/2021 09:20

When there is no where to go. Y? Do you think I'm going to take on a truck or leave myself sticking out obstructing traffic when the lights inevitably go back to red.

Do you think it's OK to try and intimidate people with your lights and horn when you can see the keep clear lines or the box junctions and the massive lorries that haven't even managed to fully get round the corner themselves yet?

Would you do it to a guy? Or is it jusy women you do it too.

You are even more annoying than the dickheads who change lanes at the last second filling the gap you are about to take leaving u on the box junction only to hold me and everyone else turning right up while you try and bully your way back into the left hand lane. God forbid you have to wait like everyone else.

Aibu to think there's no need. Traffic is frustrating I agree but nothing will be achieved if you encourage people to drive into the side of tankers.

Just piss off

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SituationCritical · 17/12/2021 09:30

I had this the other day. I was turning and the man behind me honked (he was turning too) as I obviously was being incredibly selfish not wanting to drive into passing traffic. There was no way on earth anyone could have gone, it was a line of traffic, no big gaps. Why he beeped is beyond me. Ignored and made the turn when the traffic was clear. I do think sometimes people do it for the reaction.

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Whatwouldscullydo · 17/12/2021 09:41

I was also always told not to block exits/junctions. Is it a " misery loves company" thing? We aren't going anywhere therfore we should stop others from being able to go anywhere too?

I did chuckle on one occasion when sone dickhead tried to move me along. A fire truck came out the turning. If I'd have gone I'd have blocked the way.

If they don't have blue lights going on their cars and vans they are no more special than the rest of us. Why does 6ft matter so much to them

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Mouseonmychair · 17/12/2021 09:47

I have been honked at for not stopping on a keep clear sign. And I do the same to others when required when their driving is obviously wrong. I wouldn't try the oh sexism line though because looking right the way through a car past the drivers headrest you can't tell who is in there.

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Whatwouldscullydo · 17/12/2021 09:55

They can tell when they attempt to go round you though.

Like the dickhead this morning. Who felt he could do so much better than me by going in the righthand lane only to discover that both lanes were blocked by lorries and he couldn't go anywhere either Grin

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HibiscusIsland · 17/12/2021 09:58

I hate this. I had People queueing for petrol past my house when we had the shortages and would be hooted for "pushing in" when wanting to turn into my own drive and not buy petrol.
I live just outside Croydon and there are some aggressive drivers round here. I was thinking the other day I'd like to move somewhere where the roads are more civilised

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Whatwouldscullydo · 17/12/2021 10:00

Oh god I was nearly driven into for this reason.

You had to use the righthand lane as the queue blocked the.left all the way down..so.panicked were others you that were pushing in when all you were trying to do was get round the queue and get on your way they'd literally drive at u

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Russelhobskettle · 17/12/2021 10:06

@Mouseonmychair

I have been honked at for not stopping on a keep clear sign. And I do the same to others when required when their driving is obviously wrong. I wouldn't try the oh sexism line though because looking right the way through a car past the drivers headrest you can't tell who is in there.
The horn isn't there for people to cast a vote on others driving "wrong". It's there to alert others of your presence. You don't need to pass comment on other people's driving unless you think there is some danger.
girlmom21 · 17/12/2021 10:15

Would you do it to a guy? Or is it jusy women you do it too.

95% of the time you can't tell whether the person in front is male or female.

Your points are very valid but it doesn't need to made into a sexist thing when it's just people being impatient idiots.

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Whatwouldscullydo · 17/12/2021 10:20

The impatient idiots very often ( for me anyway) happen to be of a particular sex. The punishment for not driving through the car in front seems to then be to stick to your arse the rest of the way. Honestly if these guys were aby closer I'd be peeing on a stick in a month. Vans seem particularly to be the vehicle of choice for this. One even ha the nerve to indicate to my dd to turn vack round when she looked out the rear window to see what was going on

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OneTC · 17/12/2021 10:26

If people beep me I go into slow motion. Extra slow motion if it includes gestures or aggression

Wotrewelookinat · 17/12/2021 10:33

@OneTC

If people beep me I go into slow motion. Extra slow motion if it includes gestures or aggression
I do this too and also with tail gaiters. It can be very satisfying!
Sparklesocks · 17/12/2021 10:35

I think sometimes people beep just to express frustration rather than expecting any action to come of it. But it’s pointless and just makes the situation worse. I once sat in gridlocked traffic on the m25 due to a serious accident and the car behind me starting honking away. God knows what that’s meant to achieve.

Sparklesocks · 17/12/2021 10:38

Also recently a car behind me was honking as I queued to join a busy roundabout despite there being no gaps in traffic and I wasn’t even waiting long. When he got on he literally mounted and drove across the grass on the roundabout itself - some people would apparently self combust and die if they had to be patient.

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Whatwouldscullydo · 17/12/2021 10:41

That's basically what the Highway code says isn't it? If you are tailgated, increase the gap between u and the car in front.

I've usually got a child in the car so I don't deliberately prove a point as such but I may occasionally smirk when they change lanes to get round me then get stuck behind someone turning right then expecting me to let them.back in.

No chance mate.

One of the worst I think was when I had 2 lorries behind me. I was going the speed limit but still that wasn't fast enough they decided to over take me . Both of them . However there was only room fir one of the lorries.

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Whatwouldscullydo · 17/12/2021 10:42

Sparkles I've had cars iver take me in the ering lane on a roundabout..I mean seriously u can see there's no gap in the traffic

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galacticpixels · 17/12/2021 10:43

I'm a learner driver and a couple of people have been very unfair with their beeping. Recently the man behind me beeped at me loads when I was stopped at a t-junction before turning left. However he could see a huge truck had pulled up beside me but a bit too far out ahead, blocking my sight entirely, so there was no physical way for me to see what traffic was coming down from the right. Not sure what he thought beeping would do apart from stress me out even more.

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Whatwouldscullydo · 17/12/2021 10:48

Take no notice of them gal

I always give learners space. We have all been there after all. Intimidating them just makes then nervous and more likely to stall or take a chance they shouldn't.

And yy to the cars who block your view. There are lines on a roundabout lane for a reason. They r usually the ones who pull.out in front of you aswell so you know that they will just pull right out onto the round about being narrowly missed by the cars coming from the right. So there's no way I'm.going. much to the disgust of the one behind me though.

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Malibuismysecrethome · 17/12/2021 11:16

I’d like to shove their hooters where the sun doesn’t shine. Everyone seems to do it now and for no reason. I’m not going to pull out in front of an artic on a roundabout just for some tosser.

Mouseonmychair · 17/12/2021 12:22

@Whatwouldscullydo

The impatient idiots very often ( for me anyway) happen to be of a particular sex. The punishment for not driving through the car in front seems to then be to stick to your arse the rest of the way. Honestly if these guys were aby closer I'd be peeing on a stick in a month. Vans seem particularly to be the vehicle of choice for this. One even ha the nerve to indicate to my dd to turn vack round when she looked out the rear window to see what was going on
And often the slower drivers seem to be of the same sex and often age too.

All most people want is to make progress within the laws of the road. Dawdling on a green light when safe to go or simply ambling along at indicated 27 (so a real 24) in a 30 isn't going to help. Nor is (round my way) people stopping in the access road to work out which car park on the business park they want to park in.

Mouseonmychair · 17/12/2021 12:25

Just to reiterate there is no room for bad driving either excessively cautious or too aggressive. We need to make progress safely and quickly and these silly small engine SUVs don't help there.

daimbarsatemydogsbone · 17/12/2021 12:29

There is a particularly bad roundabout with a box junction near me where thick ignorant twats sometimes beep me for not moving when I'm obeying the box junction, the thick ignorant twats.

WorraLiberty · 17/12/2021 12:30

@girlmom21

Would you do it to a guy? Or is it jusy women you do it too.

95% of the time you can't tell whether the person in front is male or female.

Your points are very valid but it doesn't need to made into a sexist thing when it's just people being impatient idiots.

That's exactly what I was thinking

Plus, men who act like that behind the wheel tend very much to do it to anyone IME.

And nearly every physical incident of road rage I've witnessed has been male on male.

Sidge · 17/12/2021 12:30

It doesn’t matter if you’re going the speed limit, if you’re in the wrong lane you should move over.

If you’re getting honked at often I’d take a look at your own driving! I can’t remember the last time I got beeped at.

Mind you some people are especially impatient and there’s no excuse for driving over pavements etc.

daimbarsatemydogsbone · 17/12/2021 12:30

@Mouseonmychair

Just to reiterate there is no room for bad driving either excessively cautious or too aggressive. We need to make progress safely and quickly and these silly small engine SUVs don't help there.
these silly small engine SUVs don't help there.

Eh? What the hell are you on about?

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Whatwouldscullydo · 17/12/2021 12:34

I.live somewhere where there are lights after lights after lights with box junctions too. Very often there's only room for 2 or 3 vehicles between the lights before you are either over the crossing, or cant fully get round the corner. Lorries in particular can not complete the turn if thr secind set of lights goes red as they are turning.

Causes alot of back.up which often results in your right turning being blocked when you come back the other way.

There's also a merger just after the lights too so people zoom down the right hand side then cant go anywhere

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