To use this baby name?

[Tiredasamf]

So I have 3 children already.. names begin with H, H and T.. the two H’s was unintentional although it is cute because they have a really small age gap between them.

I’m now about to pop with my 4th and again there is a small age gap between this one and the 3rd.. plenty of people saying we should go for a T name so it matches the 3rd but there’s none I like.

However.. there is another H name I’ve now fallen in love with, but family think it’d be wrong to use that and leave the one child without a matching name?

Is this whole thing silly, or do you agree with them that we shouldn’t use a H name?

YABU.. don’t use the H name
YANBU.. use the H name

I'd go for the B.

My siblings all have R and my parents both are M's, I am a S. Honestly never gave it a second thought growing up! If anything, I had it easy as I never got the wrong post

Your child will spend more of their life as an adult and not be thought of as one of a group of siblings...that's only really in childhood. Think about the future adult, rather than the short childhood phase. In that context, initials of siblings don't really matter

How small are the gaps @Tiredasamf?

I don't think a H would be a good idea. I'd be trying for a T because I like symmetry but a B would be preferable to an odd one out

Don't think it's a big deal but it occurred to me too because I have all one initial names. But then II didn't want it to seem like a theme either - a bit twee to all have one letter names IMO

Don't forget that most of one's life is spent as an adult and the initial of your sibling's names really doesn't matter so much then 😀

I have 4 adult children. The first 3 have K names (I know, I know but it was well before that family came to the fore) all unintentional. The first two were named after family members. My last child has a B name. It's caused no problems at all!

I would go for T.

I have 4 DC, the first 2 have A and J as their initials. Then I got pregnant with twins and unintentionally we fell in love with a name that started with A. We didn't want one child to feel left out so we chose a J name for the other twin.

Could you pick the H name you like but stick a T in front of it so the other kid doesn’t feel like an odd sock?

Tharriet, Thugo, Tharold, that sort of thing.

@hotmeatymilk Oh, you mean like a silent T? 😄

Pronounced with an F, like Thea

@hotmeatymilk did you mean pronounced with a T? Otherwise I'm very confused!

@hotmeatymilk

Pronounced with an F, like Thea

Thea isn't pronounced with an F it is pronounced with a TH sound. So sort of Thee-a not Fee--a.

Call your child a name you like and that will suit the child through life. Each child is an individual so doesn’t need to match a sibling.

@QuillBill

Mail!

She's not having her children in the 90's. I've got two teenagers and the only mail they get is birthday cards and the letter from the Child Trust Fund once a year.

So true!

I think those on this thread should come up with T names to persuade you !

Do you know if a boy or girl ?

My T offerings are

Tom
Thomas
Toby
Tobias
Theo
Theodore
Tim
Tate
Tyler
Titus
Troy

Thea
Trudy
Tilly
Tabitha
Tatum
Thalia
Theodora
Tessa

I know someone like this, all of her pets and children were Rs. She was pregnant and I was guessing which R name it would be then she went with something completely random. Choose whatever name you like best!

Tybalt

Talitha nn Tallie

@FuzzyPenguin

I wouldn’t use the H name but that’s because my dad, mum and sister’s name all start with the same letter and I didn’t. Really used to bother me as a kid.

I know another family whether mum, dad and son's letter all start with one letter and the daughter's started with another and I think it bothered her a bit

@jimjamgirl

I'm a "C" and my three siblings are all "S" - never made me feel left out or marginalised in any way! Go with the name you like and don't overthink it.

Absolutely agree!

I think change the name of the T child to a H name and stick with another H for the new baby.