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Original poster

To use this baby name?

72 replies

Tiredasamf · 15/12/2021 18:31

So I have 3 children already.. names begin with H, H and T.. the two H’s was unintentional although it is cute because they have a really small age gap between them.

I’m now about to pop with my 4th and again there is a small age gap between this one and the 3rd.. plenty of people saying we should go for a T name so it matches the 3rd but there’s none I like.

However.. there is another H name I’ve now fallen in love with, but family think it’d be wrong to use that and leave the one child without a matching name?

Is this whole thing silly, or do you agree with them that we shouldn’t use a H name? Hmm

YABU.. don’t use the H name
YANBU.. use the H name

OP posts:
BiscuitLover3679 · 15/12/2021 19:15

It depends how similar the names are.

If it's Harry, Hatty, Hammy and...Tarquin then it might be odd. Even then, you'd just say those are the names you love.

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Tiredasamf · 15/12/2021 19:17

@PatriotCanes Not Paul made me laugh 🤣 hopefully they wouldn’t call T ‘Not H’!

@Skeumorph maybe it’s the Tiramisu that sounds odd 😂 just joking, when i say them all out loud I know what you mean.

@Mylittlecoconuts I never clocked that that’s why they’d named them that way!! And I was a fan of the family when I was younger so I think you’re a secret super fan 🤣

OP posts:
watingroom2 · 15/12/2021 19:28

it will be awkward when they start getting post to H Whatever- and don't know which H

1concernedmummy · 15/12/2021 19:29

Yabu to have a 4th child given the state of the world and global warming.

ApolloandDaphne · 15/12/2021 19:34

@1concernedmummy

Yabu to have a 4th child given the state of the world and global warming.
Is there really any need to be so horrible? This baby is on the way and is going to be an actual person. As my granny used to say - if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.
ItsAllAboutTheLighting · 15/12/2021 19:46

We have 3 A's here, all males, confuses the crap put of me.

I go through all their names before I get to the right one, often starting off with the correct one!

I would be happy to have another A name though, if I liked another A name.

Don't worry about it.

ItsAllAboutTheLighting · 15/12/2021 19:46

(It wasn't planned that way! Not consciously!)

Luredbyapomegranate · 15/12/2021 19:48

Anyone who cares has way too much time. Do what you want. Your kids will spend much more time as adults than kids and they won’t hang around together all the time.

COPPER3 · 15/12/2021 19:52

I think another 'T' name would be nice actually! However, you must go with the name you love! I regretted that I didn't with my youngest son. x

gofg · 15/12/2021 19:52

You are overthinking this - just use whatever name you like and stop focussing on their initials.

Lemoncurd · 15/12/2021 19:52

Without realising it we have 3 with one initial and 2 with another in our household. Not been an issue.

NoBetterthanSheShouldBe · 15/12/2021 19:59

Adult DC has the same initial as me and a very cavalier attitude to their mail; will often bin it unopened.. I have a persistent niggly thought about someone stealing my identity with their post.

smashingbaubles · 15/12/2021 20:07

So I’m going to go against most responses and say don’t do this - my friend is one of 5, they all have J names apart from her, who is (inexplicably) Susan. She’s not even the youngest so it sticks out like a sore thumb! Relatives always comment on it and so does everyone now who meets or hears about her siblings. She laughs it off but she has confided in me she finds it quite irritating how many people comment on it and also it used to make her feel weird when she was a kid. I think her siblings used to tease her about it as well, in that sibling ‘you’re adopted’ way.

MabelsApron · 15/12/2021 20:14

I think it’s less about the initials and more about whether the names are consistent.

So if it’s Harry, Helen and Thomas don’t name the fourth one Hydrangea or what have you.

steff13 · 15/12/2021 20:20

I know it sounds silly, but if I saw a family with Harry, Hillary, Thomas, and Howard, I'd wonder why Thomas had a different initial. I'd do Harry, Hillary, Thomas, and Timothy or whatever.

Saoirse82 · 15/12/2021 20:26

Just use the name you like. You're definitely over thinking things.

Elisemum · 15/12/2021 20:45

@PatriotCanes so a Paul and Pauline had a daughter Paula? Jesus 😂
OP I’d try going for a non H name if you can.
Not a huge deal but the T baby may feel a bit left out. But if you love the H name sooo much then go for it.

Tastyyellowbeef · 15/12/2021 21:15

Depends on if this H name is shit or not tbh 😂

MrsJBaptiste · 15/12/2021 21:59

Definitely go for a T name 👍

BiscuitLover3679 · 15/12/2021 22:12

@1concernedmummy

Yabu to have a 4th child given the state of the world and global warming.
🤣 Pathetic
Shiningpath · 15/12/2021 22:22

We all have the same initials in my house. It’s a continual annoyance so I’d avoid more of the same if you can.

I’d also feel bad for T being the odd one out.

7eleven · 15/12/2021 22:34

I wouldn’t use the H name.

17caterpillars1mouse · 15/12/2021 22:38

Since everytime I watch the Grimwades it annoys me that all the children have H names other than Reu, and he's not even the youngest, I think I would avoid another H name but wouldn't feel the need to use a T name either

Sosigsandwich · 15/12/2021 22:46

Absolutely batty! Who has what initial is absolutely irrelevant!

Dixiechickonhols · 15/12/2021 22:48

I wouldn’t do a H. It could be commented on and hurtful to child T. Are you willing to share name. There may be similar feel name.

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