OK, I'm probably not, but the way mothers did things back then? Their attitude is really getting on my nerves...

[AwayInAMunker]

So you didn't breastfeed. So you weaned early. So you made up bottles at room temperature. So you put your baby on its front to sleep. So you slung a carrycot across the back seat of the car and didn't strap it in. So you let your kids play outside till all hours and ignored their protestations of Old Mr Todger scaring them with his white-eared elephant impersonation.

Just because not everybody wants to follow in your footsteps, do try not to get thickly indignant about it all, there's loves.

Some people prefer to think about how they do things, research, help other women to achieve their own goals, and, do you know what, they don't need scorn and derision heaped upon them by morons.

ROFL. Great post hunker. Scorchio!

Yeah!

and you had a fag whilst making up the bottle...

YANBU

Oh come on, Hunker, why don't you get off the fence and say what you really think.

You're all as bad as one another.

and remember you'll be a mil one day

I love that one. Remember you'll be a MIL one day. Brilliant.

and of course the old 'I was smacked as a child' and 'it never did me any harm' grrrr....

And I was weaned at ten days old. Look at me, I'm just fine. All this science is nonsense.

Lol, love it

The carrycot on the back seat of the car thing. There weren't quite so many cars on the roads then and perhaps they didn't go so fast, but still makes me cringe to think we did it!

We used to love (in the 70s) standing up with one foot in each footwell, hanging onto the front seats and pretending to waterski

[nostalgia]

Don't forget the brandy in the bottle to help them sleep!

not nice at all.
You let yourselves down.
Are you like this in RL?

What, pissed off sometimes? Yep.

The OP probably was ill-advised.

But I can't be saintly all the time, can I?

It's about a bit of balance though surely?

Some people can get too precious and anal with the whole baby thing.

You have to retain a sense of perspective whilst also listening to all the recent science that has now proved some old pratcises to be ....well........bad pratice.

Loving your work, hunker

v. sensible Eric. and just because you may not want to read reams of research right now, plus you have raised your DC pretty well considering, despite weaning at 4 mths or WHATEVER, that doesn't mean you think its a good idea to do such obviously stupid things as, say, not strap them into their car seats ffs

Well, yes, it's about balance and giving enough info for people to make informed choices, if that's what they want.

If they don't want to do that, that's up to them, but they really shouldn't be having a go at those who do.

I think this thread's OP balances the other thread's OP very neatly.

And a 100% saintly Hunker would be a bit bleaaarrrghh tbh.

DingDong, I was exaggerating for effect, not saying all those things were equal.

About to be come a 1st time mum, and what really worries me is that there is still so much conflicting advice about! And thanks to things like the internet there is virtually limitless information, which can be overwhelming - but inconclusive.
Which is why I value so much the experiences of mums (and dads!) who post on here talking about what worked for them.
But even then, every baby is different - what might work for one baby, might not work for another!