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Original poster

DS went on a trip to a local soft play place last week really annoyed about helpers

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ineedapoo · 18/12/2007 23:05

We were told only 2 parent helpers first come first served. One Mum who goes on every school trip wasn't first but her ds moaned so much he wanted her to come school let here. I don't think that is fair aibu

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coldtits · 18/12/2007 23:06

Do you know that's why she got to go?

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ineedapoo · 18/12/2007 23:07

That what she said her ds was so upset they asked her to go so he would be happy what sort of message does that give everybody else who wanted there mums to go

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hatrick · 18/12/2007 23:07

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DaisyMoo · 18/12/2007 23:08

I'm surprised they could get any volunteers to go to a soft play centre

hatrick · 18/12/2007 23:09

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ineedapoo · 18/12/2007 23:11

ds was upset but doesn't show it at school. That is what the Mum said ahe went as an extra helper for her ds

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edam · 18/12/2007 23:12

It's just possible she may not be telling the truth, the full truth and only the truth, you know.

Personally I'd be bloody grateful to be spared a trip to a soft play place esp. if I was expected to be responsible for a party of small children!

Bauble99 · 18/12/2007 23:14

Is your DS in Reception?

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ineedapoo · 18/12/2007 23:14

yes

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Bauble99 · 18/12/2007 23:18

Our school doesn't allow any parent helpers in to school during the first term for precisely this reason - other children get upset that their parent isn't there.

Does her DS have special needs?

hatrick · 18/12/2007 23:18

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ineedapoo · 18/12/2007 23:19

No special needs

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coldtits · 18/12/2007 23:21

I used to go to all ds's trips. What I said was that he wanted me to go. The truth was that I didn't think irt was fair for the staff to have to clean him up on a trip if he soiled himself, as they would have so many other things to do.

So you may not know the whole truth. Parents often lie about their child's special needs, because some people really do not understand, and a "If you take my advice you'll slap his arse for that" doesn't always go down well with me.

hatrick · 18/12/2007 23:22

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Bauble99 · 18/12/2007 23:24

He may be in the statementing process and doesn't have an LSA yet?

Snaf · 18/12/2007 23:24

Good points, well made.

melinda · 18/12/2007 23:24

I always go on trips (or my dh does). My son has special needs that probably aren't visible to just anyone. And I don't broadcast his medical history to anyone. If that means they bitch about me behind my back, so be it.

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ineedapoo · 18/12/2007 23:25

Sorry I just feel sorry for ds

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melinda · 18/12/2007 23:25

I mean I don't broacast his medical history to everyone.
It sounds like the sort of thing I may say, actually.

melinda · 18/12/2007 23:26

Kids with special needs are everywhere. They aren't always obvious. It's a bit of a sore subject!

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coldtits · 18/12/2007 23:29

I can see why he would want his mummy there. I can see why they all would. But a want is not a need, and children with special needs have special needs.

discoverlife · 18/12/2007 23:30

My DS is special needs, I have always deliberatly avoided being a helper at any of the functions, as he would then expect me everytime and anytime.

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ineedapoo · 18/12/2007 23:30

I agree with all your points just worried about the message it gave to ds so and so cried so there Mummy came is what he said. He enjoyed it but said he wanted his Mummy there just feel I've let him down

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ineedapoo · 18/12/2007 23:32

Sorry coldtits I disagree all children have emotional needs some are more verbal than others this boy appears bright and bubbly but very spoilt. I'm not sure he has special needs

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