To be annoyed by the quote ‘You Are Enough!’

[ChockaChick]

…’Cos maybe you’re not. Maybe the other candidates for the job are more qualified and experienced than you are. Maybe you’ve got a bit complacent and some clients are about to make a justified complaint about you. Maybe you just don’t have sufficient talent g for a lead role in a West End show. Sorry.

[quote ChockaChick]@HangingDitch that is such a good question!

I really screamed at my kids today for no good reason other than that I was tired of them whinging and a bit overwhelmed. I’m not proud of this and aspire to improve.[/quote]
It's not saying you should be proud of yourself though. It's saying you don't need to prove yourself worthy of your existence, you are enough to deserve love and respect.

It doesn't mean don't ever strive, or behave like a twat any time, it doesn't matter.

Oh my god, a chance to post one of my favourite photos. THANK YOU

I think it's meant to be about self-worth, not job performance or competitive talents.

Oh I love it @Somebodylikeyew

I seriously know a woman who says she repeats this to herself as an affirmation regularly, including on the tube. She does live at the end of the line so hopefully she just means when the carriage is empty.

Another of her favorites was ‘I believe in me even if others don’t.’

I think the quote means: you don't have to be a West End star or get the top job in order to have self-worth and treat yourself with respect and consideration or expect others to treat you well. You are enough without jumping through hoops. Your worth is intrinsic, not measured by socail or career prestige.

@Somebodylikeyew

Oh my god, a chance to post one of my favourite photos. THANK YOU

LOL at 'for only £10.99 you can let visitors to your house know you are struggling'

@ChockaChick

Another of her favorites was ‘I believe in me even if others don’t.’

A street preacher once said to meGod loves you even if no-one else does”

I was well offended! ERM I AM QUITE POPULAR HERE ON EARTH ACTUALLY THANKS MATE!

Aside from career success and exceptional accomplishments, what if you’re genuinely just not a very nice or good person?

Does the quote apply to absolutely all of us? What about Arthur’s killers? We’re they enough too?

@Somebodylikeyew what an assumption!

In the case of the person I know, I think it probably true that nobody else believes in her. She actually said so herself. Plus she’s always launching new social media incarnations for her various businesses, presumably because all previous ones have flopped.

I think you're totally misunderstanding the point of the quote.

It doesn't mean "you're an evil cunt but don't worry, you are enough so it doesn't matter".

But sometimes, just maybe, someone who is struggling mentally, or trying to be "perfect" and then feeling like a failure, needs to hear that they are enough. Flaws and all.
If you've never been in a place where hearing that has brightened your day then bully for you. Aren't you fucking lucky.

Enough for what specifically though?

Just "enough"
"Enough" to not spend the day crying and wondering what you did to deserve whatever shit you're going through.
"Enough" to not kill yourself.
Just "enough"

It means everyone holds innate value despite all of those things.

@MoonbeamSprinkles

I understand it as each human having innate value.

This.

It doesn’t mean that you can’t improve or that you’re perfect at everything.

It means that you by virtue of you being alive as a unique individual you already have value.
And that should be your starting point rather than doing things to prove your worth.

Some people don’t need to hear this, and some do.

This. If you’re lucky enough never to have suffered from low self esteem then the saying is not aimed at you. Just ignore it.

I think it's fine as an affirmation to yourself if you have low self esteem. It all depends on context.

I know I'm going to get beaten up for this, but I see a lot of mums (I'm not one) doing the whole..."To all the mothers out there, you're all wonderful and are doing the most amazing job".
Whereas the reality is that I know some incredible mums, some decent mums and some crap mums 🤷‍♀️

Guess it's time for a user name change then!!

@YouAreEnough🤣

Surely the idea is that you are enough as you are. If you don’t have buckets of talent or an amazing singing voice, you are organised, you make mistakes.. you’re still enough. You are a valuable human being who is enough. Not everyone is needs to be a high flyer, there’s a lot of societal pressure to constantly better ourselves and push ourselves and sometimes it’s nice ego remember to stop and enjoy where we are. We are all valuable human beings as we are.

@hivemindneeded actually you wrote what I wanted to say in a much better way

I really hate “she believed she could, so she did”

As if all you need is belief, not competency, enough funds and a bit of luck to achieve what you what to.

I do take the point that self belief is a critical component too, but that wouldn’t be as catchy I suppose!

That’s not what it means OP.
It’s about innate value.

See also 'You are loved.'
No, I'm not.