Annoyed with Neighbours

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I live in a small apartment block. About 12 flats. Only lived here about 2 months but also im always working so only met one neighbour (who let me in once before). Locked myself out by mistake. Wanted to be let back in. Tried every single house number no one answered. About half an hr in, an uber driver comes. They answer the door to him! I was literally so irritated! Tried to ring back but they didnt answer me. Then about an hr later a man walks out with his dog! Told him off but he just ignored me. I am so annoyed it is unbelievable. Want to leave a note at the entrance saying something. Husband says it’s petty but I am so annoyed Right now!

Id like to add it was late, dark and freezing cold! And im a woman! Small! Not a huge person that would freak someone out!

I know ppl r cautious but to not answer at all! Or even ask why I am ringing their bell. What kind of world do we live in! R ppl really becoming so unhelpful and horrible. Or are we becoming anti social? I know a lot of ppl dont have house phones or if they do they dont answer but who doesnt anser the door!? Just made me lose all faith in ppl honestly!

Had to let tht out but rant over now.

Aibu or should I leave a note saying something?

[quote AllThingsServeTheBeam]@Fabrique to just ignore the buzzer completely though? That's the odd thing about it. I find it really bizarre.[/quote]
It has a camera. You can see you don't know them, why bother telling them to piss off when you can just turn it off and ignore.

You don't let randoms into blocks of flats, it's a safety issue.

Because I'd want to know what they wanted. It could have been a real emergency.

Also - how would it have been better OP if several of your neighbours had answered the buzzer and then simply told you no, they don't let strangers in?

Also if you had no keys what where you going to do once you got into the lobby?

@AllThingsServeTheBeam

Because I'd want to know what they wanted. It could have been a real emergency.

If you get 4-5 buzzes a day every day for years and it's never for you, or an emergency, you soon get fed up enough to stop getting up to answer the buzzer each time.

@AgentProvocateur

They’re probably all mumsnetters. They’re the only people I know who don’t answer the door unless it’s a prearranged call. I find it really weird not to answer a buzzer or a doorbell.

@AgentProvocateur thats so funny, i dont know anyone irl who wouldnt open the door or at least look out the window :)

@cabingirl out of the cold atleast. Better than being outside in the freezing cold and as its quiet area and no one else around I just didnt want to be outside alone

I lived in a city centre apartment that got buzzed randomly quite often, we didn't have video so I had all sorts of people argue with me over why I should let them in. Someone else in the building was in the habit of letting people in so there was some vandalism, setting off of fire alarms and a neighbour's bike was stolen. I never forgot my keys in all the years I lived there and if I had I wouldn't have expected a neighbour to let me in, it's just not what you do in that kind of building.

Don't write an angry note, you'll only alienate your neighbours even more.

If I lived in a block of flats with buzzers that had cameras and someone buzzed me who I didn’t know and it was dark, I think I would learn pretty quickly not to bother answering the buzzer, never mind opening the door for them.

@cabingirl noted. From the previous responses too. Its jus not tht lind of busy area where people ring the bell 4-5x a day so didnt think of tht. Never going to do tht again am I, lesson well and truly learnt this time. Got lucky last tome so probs why message didnt sink in not to do it again 😂😂

We had to sign on our lease a section that said not to let in people we didn’t know for security reasons so I can understand if they didn’t know you. We also turn off the buzzer at night because we have young kids and delivery people ring our mobiles to be let in. Our neighbours on our floor however would let us in if they answered the door as such as we know them and say hello in passing. That said if it was dark I wouldn’t necessarily expect the buzzer to be on at all like ourselves.

Lived in flats for a few years and never ever buzz anyone in unless I knew them. Yabu with the note. What it achieve? Makes you seem pretty. Sorry with your DH here.

OP - Hi Mumsnet, AIBU?
MN - Yes
OP - no I'm not, you're all wrong!

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Loads of people I know turn their buzzers off and if they do go they look through camera and if they dont know them then they wont answer

I’m confused, why haven’t you answered why you didn’t follow the Uber man in? Or the dog Walker?