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Annoyed with Neighbours

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Middmary · 14/12/2021 18:48

I live in a small apartment block. About 12 flats. Only lived here about 2 months but also im always working so only met one neighbour (who let me in once before). Locked myself out by mistake. Wanted to be let back in. Tried every single house number no one answered. About half an hr in, an uber driver comes. They answer the door to him! I was literally so irritated! Tried to ring back but they didnt answer me. Then about an hr later a man walks out with his dog! Told him off but he just ignored me. I am so annoyed it is unbelievable. Want to leave a note at the entrance saying something. Husband says it’s petty but I am so annoyed Right now!

Id like to add it was late, dark and freezing cold! And im a woman! Small! Not a huge person that would freak someone out!

I know ppl r cautious but to not answer at all! Or even ask why I am ringing their bell. What kind of world do we live in! R ppl really becoming so unhelpful and horrible. Or are we becoming anti social? I know a lot of ppl dont have house phones or if they do they dont answer but who doesnt anser the door!? Just made me lose all faith in ppl honestly!

Had to let tht out but rant over now.

Aibu or should I leave a note saying something?

OP posts:
imnotacelebritygetmeoutofhere · 14/12/2021 19:24

Oh I honestly thought this was going to be a thread about the TV programme, Neighbours, and now I’m disappointed.
(Sorry your neighbours are crap and unhelpful.)

Original poster
Middmary · 14/12/2021 19:25

@SnackQueen it was twice. Not a million times. And chill out. U would be slightly irritated waiting outside for 6 hrs. Regardless of cause being u left the key behind. So chill out. Stuff happens. Sorry ur so perfect

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Missey85 · 14/12/2021 19:26

I live in a block of flats and I don't let anyone in I don't know especially at night our landlord also told us not to

Ariann · 14/12/2021 19:28

No, I would not have answered the door to you or let you in.

So what if you are a woman. Look at the NEWS. There are plenty of dangerous and evil women about so just because you are a woman, don't expect special treatment that a man wouldn't get. The people in those flats don't know you - you didn't introduce yourself when you moved in, and neither did they, so it looks like everyone wants to keep their head down.

Original poster
Middmary · 14/12/2021 19:28

@CheesyWeez haha love that idea. Ill have to do that.

@imnotacelebritygetmeoutofhere Thank you!

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AvocadoTrees · 14/12/2021 19:29

[quote Middmary]@SnackQueen it was twice. Not a million times. And chill out. U would be slightly irritated waiting outside for 6 hrs. Regardless of cause being u left the key behind. So chill out. Stuff happens. Sorry ur so perfect[/quote]
You’ve lived there for two months and you’ve locked yourself out twice already?

Probably best to toss your keys and just make friends with everyone so they know who keeps buzzing them to be let in.

ABCeasyasdohrayme · 14/12/2021 19:31

[quote Middmary]@SnackQueen it was twice. Not a million times. And chill out. U would be slightly irritated waiting outside for 6 hrs. Regardless of cause being u left the key behind. So chill out. Stuff happens. Sorry ur so perfect[/quote]
Maybe you should chill out a little, not berate your neighbours for behaving perfectly reasonably, and then one might like you enough eventually to do you a favour.

hufflepuffnstuff · 14/12/2021 19:31

Yes, time to make friends with someone in the building or have another key made that you can keep in your bag at all times.

BumCatSmile · 14/12/2021 19:35

If you've lived somewhere 2 months and already locked yourself out twice then you really need to sort yourself out.

If you lived in a house you'd have to pay £150 a go for a locksmith.

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Middmary · 14/12/2021 19:36

@ABCeasyasdohrayme im chill dw about me. How about u chill. Its a question on mumsnet. Dont know why u all r getting so angry over it. I said i get ur pov. Just wasnt something i was used to. Whats big deal. We learn from other ppl. Thats why i posted. To ask wht other ppl thought. So u chill

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 14/12/2021 19:37

I knew you'd get all these odd responses to this OP. MN is a very weird place. I don't know anyone in RL that doesn't just, you know, answer the door!

I'd be pissed off too

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Middmary · 14/12/2021 19:38

@BumCatSmile hahah tell me about. I have fmily with keys unfortunately we all work rotas and mad hours so everyone was too busy and not answer Their phones to let me in

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Middmary · 14/12/2021 19:39

@AllThingsServeTheBeam finally! Someone who agrees with me! 😊😊

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WhenISnappedAndFarted · 14/12/2021 19:40

YANBU to want someone to let you in however YWBU to have a go at your neighbour. He might have his buzzer off, he might have not heard it for any reason such as headphones, he might have been busy when it went off and assumed someone else would answer it. There's plenty of reasons so that berate him is going to do you no favours with your new neighbours.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 14/12/2021 19:41

I wouldn't leave a note or mention anything to them though. Annoying as it must've been.

5keletor · 14/12/2021 19:41

I'd answer the buzzer, still wouldn't let you in though. Maybe harsh, but even if I can see you over video, I'd still have no idea if you were actually a neighbour if we hadn't previously met.
If you're prone to getting locked out, do you have family or a trustworthy friend nearby who could have a spare key? If I lived in a block of flats, I think I'd quickly get annoyed if someone kept buzzing to be let in, even if I knew they were definitely a neighbour.

godmum56 · 14/12/2021 19:43

None of the neighbours are your Mum or your keeper...you lock yourself out, its not their problem. What will you do when you grow up and own a house? no one to let you in when you lock yourself out then

DartmoorChef · 14/12/2021 19:44

Why didn't you just go in when they opened the door for the food delivery or the man with a dog walked out?

Rogue1001 · 14/12/2021 19:45

Why didn't you go in when the uber happened?

You told one of your neighbours off? What did you say? Why didn't you go in then?

FabriqueBelgique · 14/12/2021 19:45

@AllThingsServeTheBeam

I knew you'd get all these odd responses to this OP. MN is a very weird place. I don't know anyone in RL that doesn't just, you know, answer the door!

I'd be pissed off too

Really? I think OP’s responses are the odd ones. It’s been pointed out that people in tower blocks only let in people they know for the security of the whole building and apparently that’s hilarious Hmm
AllThingsServeTheBeam · 14/12/2021 19:46

@Fabrique to just ignore the buzzer completely though? That's the odd thing about it. I find it really bizarre.

WoofWoofMooWoof · 14/12/2021 19:53

I lived in the bottom flat of a block, right next to the entrance door. My buzzer used to go constantly for anyone and everyone who wanted to get in/left their key etc. The door was right next to my DCs room and it woke them up every time. I used to get buzzed by some drunken idiot at 3am who'd left his key in his flat. My buzzer got turned off at night and I wouldn't let people I didn't know in anyway.

InTheLabyrinth · 14/12/2021 19:53

Why didn't you just catch the doors when the person wanting the uber or the dog walker came out?
But if you didn't have a key, you still wouldn't have got home, just into a lobby?

Not sure if I'd have answered if I'd seen on the camera it wasn't for me. I do answer the doorbell at home - but that's the only way to see who us on the other side (unless you hang out of the bathroom window, which is what I did when the doorbell rang at 4am - it wasn't for us)

cabingirl · 14/12/2021 19:55

@AllThingsServeTheBeam

I knew you'd get all these odd responses to this OP. MN is a very weird place. I don't know anyone in RL that doesn't just, you know, answer the door!

I'd be pissed off too

You've obviously never lived in a block of flats on a busy street in a major city. You get buzzed ALL the time and 90 percent of the time it's not for you. It's really disruptive to have to keep getting up - going into the hall, checking the camera if there is one, or trying to find out who it is over a crackly intercom if there isn't.

Like others I disconnected my buzzer in the evenings when I wasn't expecting anyone.

And in some blocks of flats you can hear the buzzers going off in all the flats around you, or from your front window if you are near to the entrance so you know that someone is trying to get inside by ringing every single bell.

OP - why didn't you go in when the Uber person came?
I can't believe you told the neighbour with the dog off - he's very unlikely to want to help you in the future now.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 14/12/2021 19:56

I have actually. Twice. Bottom floor on one occasion too.