Should I have lied to the school? Aibu...?

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So a few months ago I got into an argument with my sons dad. It was a very horrible and he grabbed me by my jumper. He has never hit me or anything of the sort this is the first time something like this has happened and we are no longer together. My son saw this (he immediately let go when he realised what he was doing) but my son told this to a teacher at the school. They called me and asked if I was OK as ds said we were fighting and it was physical. I panicked in fear and told them it wasn't true and that nothing happened at all. I'm absolutely petrified that the school are going to call social services. I'm not excusing this behaviour at all but it was a one off and we have been on much much better terms since that big blow out. I am wondering if I should have just been honest and said it was just a horrible argument and it got out of hand it has never happened before and has never happened since. I'm just so scared they will call social services or something. I can't stop crying now.

Well done, OP. Ignore the ranters.

It's absolutely normal to lie in panic when something like this happens out of the blue. And of course neither the school nor you will have said your son lied.

You did the right thing, you'll reassure your boy that it's okay, and the school are comfortable with your answer.

Of course, if your son's dad should ever get physical again, it would be another matter. But you know that.

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You did right explaining it but I also understand the instinct to lie, especially when shocked.
Even if SS got involved - it wasn't you that did anything physical.

You absolutely need to correct this with the school, appalling that you would let people believe that your son would lie about something so serious.

Well done Op, you have done the right thing.