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To cancel family plans for Christmas?

54 replies

deathofastrawberry · 13/12/2021 12:58

DH and I are considering telling both our families that we may not see them around Christmas because of the current covid situation. But not sure if it's the right thing to do or not? Of course we'd love to see them.. and I think we would have, if we didn't have an almost 6mo baby. We weren't going to see anyone else on Xmas day anyway, only the days around Xmas. I just don't want to seem ridiculous as I know how much our parents want to see their grandson around Christmas.

WWYD? Am I being OTT?

OP posts:
Chely · 13/12/2021 12:59

OTT

Piggy42 · 13/12/2021 12:59

Up to you. I’d be upset though if my family did this (to be fair we’ve all had 3 jabs)

TopCatsTopHat · 13/12/2021 13:02

Depends on how you feel about risk. If you catch it the chance of it being serious is tiny. The reason the nation is having to be careful is because on a mass scale that tiny percentage catching it all at once would be too much. So your personal risk is not the same thing as what would happen to the health service if the illness ran unchecked through the population all at once.
You could all do a lateral flow before you meet to reduce the likelihood of passing it on without knowing. Agree to cancel if anyone has symptoms.
Personally I'd keep the plans.

Pleatherandlace · 13/12/2021 13:03

What’s the issue with the 6 month old, why would this stop you from seeing your family?

sunshinelover69 · 13/12/2021 13:04

We're not cancelling any plans to see family and my husband is CEV. We have to get our lives back at some stage.

TopCatsTopHat · 13/12/2021 13:05

Babies first Xmas is so special to the grown ups. The chance of catching it is small would be my feeling on the matter. But everyone is different. Why not chat to your family, then they can realise you're a bit nervous, as a new mum would be, and can give you a bit of reassurance like promising to cancel if symptomatic etc.

Nevertime · 13/12/2021 13:05

Ultimately your choice, but I'd be really upset if close family did this to me now.

DockOTheBay · 13/12/2021 13:06

Why would having a 6 month old baby make any difference? Babies are very very very unlikely to be adversely affected by covid. Does he go to a nursery or childcare setting where he is likely to pick up covid? If so could you pull him out a week before Christmas to give a bit of time to make sure he doesn't have it and pass it on to relatives? If he isn't at nursery I don't understand why it would be a problem at all

MissyB1 · 13/12/2021 13:06

Definitely OTT.

1FootInTheRave · 13/12/2021 13:12

OTT

icedcoffees · 13/12/2021 13:13

It's your choice but I do think it's a bit ridiculous tbh.

Original poster
deathofastrawberry · 13/12/2021 13:14

Thanks everyone for your replies. I do feel like I could be being a bit OTT, I've not really been this paranoid about covid until DS was born. I worked in a pharmacy during the pandemic when I was pregnant so it didn't used to bother me as much. We are all at least double jabbed and no DS doesn't go to any daycare or anything so I guess it should be ok. It's more about the risk of where other people have been. I just don't want to regret it if he ends up catching it. I think it's just since it's got bad again I feel desperate to protect him when actually like pp said the chances of him getting ill with it are very small.

OP posts:
AvonCallingBarksdale · 13/12/2021 13:14

Why would you be cancelling though? Because of the baby? Are you going out to shops/seeing friends? Don’t really get what difference the baby makes. Are all your family jabbed? If not I wouldn’t be seeing them baby or not but if they are then I would say OTT to cancel.

TheCreamCaker · 13/12/2021 13:14

OTT

Incywinceyspider · 13/12/2021 13:15

If the risk to the baby is your only concern, then I'd say don't cancel. The overwhelming majority of children don't have serious illness. My DP both had covid last Christmas. We didn't isolate from DS at all and he showed absolutely no symptoms.

AvonCallingBarksdale · 13/12/2021 13:16

Your baby will grow into a toddler then a little boy who will pick up all manner of nasties at nursery and school. You won’t be able to protect him from everything!!

princessbananahammock252 · 13/12/2021 13:16

I wouldn't cancel, and if it's any consolation, my DS caught covid off my husband in September when he was 6 months old. He was a little fussy, and had one temperature spike, other than that, he was absolutely fine. He had a cold the other week, and he was much more ill from that than when he had COVID.

TopCatsTopHat · 13/12/2021 13:18

I think you're more likely to regret not seeing close family with your beautiful new baby at Xmas. The love he will receive will be huge. Xx

Hemingwayscatz · 13/12/2021 13:19

OTT. I was absolutely terrified of catching covid until I actually caught it and I’ve felt much worse with colds. I had no symptoms at all aside from loss of smell for a few days but that was mostly because my sinuses were blocked as they are during a cold. I don’t think I’m one of the lucky ones either, most people feel ok. My DC were fine too fwiw, just a slight temperature and cough.

cushioncovers · 13/12/2021 13:21

If you're double jabbed and everyone follows good hygiene practices. Washing hands, not kissing the baby, windows open etc then I would still visit family.

mumofbun · 13/12/2021 13:21

i think you're far more likely to regret your family seeing your son on his first Christmas than anything else x

IamnotSethRogan · 13/12/2021 13:23

I would think you're completely over the top

toomuchlaundry · 13/12/2021 13:23

Can you ask them to do LFTs before coming?

RoastedParnsip · 13/12/2021 13:24

OTT. Both my grandparents have cancer and have asked everyone to take a LT test before going over. That's fine and understandable but to cancel all together... YABU.

actiongirl1978 · 13/12/2021 13:25

OTT.