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To cancel family plans for Christmas?

54 replies

deathofastrawberry · 13/12/2021 12:58

DH and I are considering telling both our families that we may not see them around Christmas because of the current covid situation. But not sure if it's the right thing to do or not? Of course we'd love to see them.. and I think we would have, if we didn't have an almost 6mo baby. We weren't going to see anyone else on Xmas day anyway, only the days around Xmas. I just don't want to seem ridiculous as I know how much our parents want to see their grandson around Christmas.

WWYD? Am I being OTT?

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PinkiOcelot · 13/12/2021 13:26

OTT. Carry on with your life.

Thegreencup · 13/12/2021 13:26

It hasn't got bad again through OP. Cases have been at similar levels throughout the summer since restrictions were lifted.
If you thought it was OK a week or two ago, then really not much has changed in that time.

HeronLanyon · 13/12/2021 13:26

Sibling (cev) and I just agreed we’d play it by ear, distance/mask and if any of us felt concerned we could rearrange and do zoom drinks in the meantime.

logsonlogsoff · 13/12/2021 13:28

OTT but your decision. If you’re vaccinated and have a booster and have no other health issues, then catching Covid shouldn’t be dangerous to you.
My mental health is more important to me at the moment, so that means seeing family at Xmas.

whymewhyme · 13/12/2021 13:41

Crack on with life

toomuchlaundry · 13/12/2021 13:46

@Thegreencup depends where you live. We've got one of the highest rates in the country, whereas previously we had one of the lowest. We've had schools having to close year groups and go back to remote provision due to number of cases.

Dontforgetyourbrolly · 13/12/2021 13:48

the cynical in me would be asking if you were using it as an excuse ......

Disfordarkchocolate · 13/12/2021 13:50

I'm getting quite nervous about this. I'm going to base what we do on risk, there are a lot of CEV in my family.

Hopefullywaiting01234 · 13/12/2021 13:51

I would be more concerned about passing it onto parents then I would them passing it to a 6 month old. I have not heard of any babies/small children who are otherwise healthy becoming seriously unwell, I do understand you get more anxious when they are very small but you would feel the same about them catching a cold or sickness bug!

Sally872 · 13/12/2021 14:18

I would ask them to do lateral flows before visiting and not to come if they have a cough or other symptoms unless negative pcr.

Boshmama · 13/12/2021 14:26

OTT - I’ve a four month old and haven’t even considered this. His older sister is at preschool so it makes no difference 🤷‍♀️

MummytoaMiracle · 13/12/2021 14:52

Me, my partner and my 9 month old have covid at the moment and my little girl has had colds worse than this . I was told to just keep an eye on her but it effects babies differently and is like a cold to them . They are more resilient than we think . I would let your families see your baby on his first christmas.

LikeSomeKindOfMadness · 13/12/2021 16:05

I think for me it would depend on how many people and how careful they are otherwise. I have a new baby and I am not taking him out unnecessary at the moment. And I wouldn't meet people if they have been to big parties or big crowd recently I think.

Maybe people think that's OTT but while it's easy to say babies don't get seriously ill some do and so do some parents. So I personally like to avoid it.

guardiansofthegalaxychocs · 13/12/2021 16:08

OTT

MarshaBradyo · 13/12/2021 16:10

Ask people to do LFTs?

I wouldn’t cancel though

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 13/12/2021 16:11

I think it’s OTT

There’s got to be an element of holding our nerve over the next week or so and seeing how things pan out.

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deathofastrawberry · 13/12/2021 16:12

@Dontforgetyourbrolly

the cynical in me would be asking if you were using it as an excuse ......
Haha no definitely not, I do want to see them 😆

This thread has given me reassurance and a better perspective on the situation so thanks everyone ☺️ just an anxious ftm over here haha

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Theluggage15 · 13/12/2021 17:58

You do not have zero protection with 2 vaccines. Please don’t post misinformation.

milkandone · 13/12/2021 18:02

If your really worried about your DC catching it can you speak to your family and ask them all to do an LFT before you see them and say you will do the same just to be on the safe side?

waterrat · 13/12/2021 18:04

Unvaxxed Children and babies are less at risk from covid than vaxxed 25 year olds. That is how little risk poses to young children .

WhatToDo1988 · 13/12/2021 18:07

You could suggest everyone does LFTs on the morning. We are doing this in my family.

DockOTheBay · 13/12/2021 18:32

Maybe people think that's OTT but while it's easy to say babies don't get seriously ill some do and so do some parents. So I personally like to avoid it.
A tiny percentage of babies get seriously ill. Like a tiny percentage of babies get seriously ill from colds, flu, chicken pox and other ailments. I didn't see anyone in 2019 telling me not to take my baby to see her grandparents in case they gave her a cold.

Scarby9 · 13/12/2021 18:40

We are prioritising seeing family this Christmas over almost everything else.
So not shopping except early morning or late night, not going to any other indoor social events etc.

HandScreen · 13/12/2021 18:43

Completely OTT

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