To stop daughter from attending Xmas sleepover?

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What would you do?

16 year DD in year 11;has a end of term sleep over planned on Friday night at her friends house.

There'll be 5 of them there all in very close proximity in the same bedroom.

Two weeks ago we had a letter emailed to us by her school from the local council asking parents to support them by keeping transmission rates down.

Some of the advice in that letter was to reconsider allowing our children to attend indoor events,parties and sleepovers.

DD's friends parents are two of the most sensible people I know and are happy to allow the sleepover to go ahead but we've a huge rise in this new variant in the city we live in and we've always had issues with high Covid rates here.

If DD gets Covid it'll be a miserable Christmas;she's also has a really hard to shift cough/chest infection going on for the last two months to the point the GP sent her for chest X-rays so her immune system isn't at its strongest at the moment either.She had her first jab at the end of November so isn't double jabbed yet.

She's absolutely determined to go and say she's 16 and it's her choice.I know she'd be devastated to miss it but to me her health comes first.

I have a 16 year old (in year 12). She’s going to a friends (a group of them) for a sleepover on the day they break up. They spend all day together, have had Covid and are double vaccinated. They’ve given up so much over the last two years (not least their GCSEs!) predominately for the benefit of others - the rise in anxiety and eating disorders amongst their age group has sky rocketed- they need to be with their friends.

The 16 year olds i see at work share swigs of pop, cigarettes and even lip glosses. They'll be no closer at a sleepover than they are at school.

I'd let her go, 100%

Completely understand your concern with her chest problems. They’ve been in school together all week though.
Could you ask her hosts (parents, not her friend) to request a clear lft from everyone?
I would.

I'd let her go too

Have you got plans for Christmas which could be scuppered if she gets COVID?

@Innocenta

Broadly I agree with everyone saying to let her go, but I think one thing to consider is how bad IS her chest? If it's more at the worry level, then you should likely let her go. Or is there an ongoing clinical concern?

Agree, lots of people saying life's too short, mental health is important etc but it's surely not that easy to dismiss the potential risk to her physical health- if she did become ill, I can't imagine her mental health would be intact just because she go to go to a sleepover.

[quote BobbieT1999]@RaPumPumPumPum one assumes they're sleeping under duvets or in decent sleeping bags?

I often have a window open all night for fresh air and I'm a cold bodied soul!

We all did it last year anyway (presumably).[/quote]
Do you mean we all slept with open windows last year cos I didn't - and I don't know why I would have done.

Or do you mean we all had sleep overs? Because again, no.

The covid risk wouldn’t concern me as they’ve been together at school anyway and I’d let my daughter go.

Her attitude that it’s her choice would piss me off though. She’s 16, it’s your choice not hers!

She’s 16, she knows the risks so let her decide for herself.

I didnt mean either.

Last winter people were encouraged to keep a window open when hosting people over because it cuts the risk of contagion.

Many people sleep with a bedroom window open no matter what the weather and don't get hyperthermia.