AIBU expecting part-time Dad to Covid test?

[Angie04]

We met up with my youngest children’s’ Dad and his kids/my kids’ teenage half-siblings at a park this afternoon. They see him this way about every 6-8 weeks and haven’t seen their half-siblings since March 2020.

We got to the park before them, so DS (5) and DD (7) were happily playing on the swings when the others arrived. As soon as DS and DD get off the swings their Dad starts talking about everybody getting hugs and kisses. I asked him how recently they’d done lateral flow tests (I’m currently testing daily, as is my teenage son that lives with us, as there are lots of cases around us). Dad says “they tested on Wednesday and I don’t need to because I’ve been doubled jabbed”. I told him being double jabbed doesn’t mean anything, he seemed to think I was talking rubbish.

I told him that under the circumstances I didn’t think hugs and kisses were wise, especially as they live in one of the top three areas with highest cases. He got the hump and made sarcastic comments.

Was I being unreasonable?

Would have been much more helpful to say all that before you met up if it were that important to you.

Did I read this right, you're telling him he cant hug his own children ??

Yes, you were being completely unreasonable.

You're also being unreasonable about testing every day, unless you are personally paying for the tests and not just getting free ones. It's way over the top.

I agree with PPs, this wouldn’t have bothered me at all.

Christ on a bike. It’s his own kids. He doesn’t need to take a test to see and hug his own children

Frankly, you taking one everyday is OTT

Twice a week testing is fine and what's recommended. Unless your children are ECV they shouldn't be denied hugs from family.

I don’t test at all (apart from when Ds tested positive or if I have any symptoms.

Yabvu

Is this a joke?

…. I think I’ve missed a memo somewhere because I only have done LFT when I had contact with someone and was supposed to. Are you saying you and your children do a test every single day as routine?! Where do you get tests from? Aren’t you supposed to have a “reason” to order them??

Honestly feel like I have really missed something here!!!

Christ on a cracker

That's some controlling shit right there to stop a family from hugging each other.

I'm surprised they didn't tell you where to go.

I'm really surprised you did this to your children. If you are very concerned about catching Covid then you should have asked him beforehand. The kids haven't seen him for months and you chose to make it an issue there?

They're MUCH more likely to catch it from school in a class of 30 than from 3 other people.

I feel sad for your kids who Im sure could do with a hug and kiss from dad. If I was their dad id be royally pissed off.

@BabyofMine

…. I think I’ve missed a memo somewhere because I only have done LFT when I had contact with someone and was supposed to. Are you saying you and your children do a test every single day as routine?! Where do you get tests from? Aren’t you supposed to have a “reason” to order them??

Honestly feel like I have really missed something here!!!

Regular LFT testing a couple of times a week was something they recommended at some point, possibly still do, I’ve lost track.

Yabvu

@BabyofMine

…. I think I’ve missed a memo somewhere because I only have done LFT when I had contact with someone and was supposed to. Are you saying you and your children do a test every single day as routine?! Where do you get tests from? Aren’t you supposed to have a “reason” to order them??

Honestly feel like I have really missed something here!!!

To be fair ds’s college hand them out like Smarties. And dhtests twice weekly for work.

Honestly if you are that anxious that you don’t think your kids need a hug and kiss from their Dad, you need to address your own health anxiety. Twice weekly testing is what’s recommended if you’ve not been around anyone with symptoms etc.

So insane this has to be a reverse?

Testing daily and telling a father he can't hug and kiss his kids.

Fuck me, some people really have lost the plot.

You don’t need to test daily. Twice weekly is enough. You’re just wasting tests.

You're being ridiculous
I thought you were going to say he had all the symptoms and hasn't bothered getting a test
You expect him to test everyday?

Yabu. He has as much right to offer physical affection to his children as you do.

If you wanted them to test you should have asked him the day before. To tell a parent they can't hug their child is wrong

@Angie04

We met up with my youngest children’s’ Dad and his kids/my kids’ teenage half-siblings at a park this afternoon. They see him this way about every 6-8 weeks and haven’t seen their half-siblings since March 2020.

We got to the park before them, so DS (5) and DD (7) were happily playing on the swings when the others arrived. As soon as DS and DD get off the swings their Dad starts talking about everybody getting hugs and kisses. I asked him how recently they’d done lateral flow tests (I’m currently testing daily, as is my teenage son that lives with us, as there are lots of cases around us). Dad says “they tested on Wednesday and I don’t need to because I’ve been doubled jabbed”. I told him being double jabbed doesn’t mean anything, he seemed to think I was talking rubbish.

I told him that under the circumstances I didn’t think hugs and kisses were wise, especially as they live in one of the top three areas with highest cases. He got the hump and made sarcastic comments.

Was I being unreasonable?

Yes, he's their Dad. Can't believe you said this tbh.

Yabu.

🙄

Why are you testing daily?

I think this is way over the top.

Is there more to this? And this is just you showing your annoyance over this?

Like why he only sees them in a park every 6-8 weeks?