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AIBU expecting part-time Dad to Covid test?

38 replies

Angie04 · 12/12/2021 16:28

We met up with my youngest children’s’ Dad and his kids/my kids’ teenage half-siblings at a park this afternoon. They see him this way about every 6-8 weeks and haven’t seen their half-siblings since March 2020.

We got to the park before them, so DS (5) and DD (7) were happily playing on the swings when the others arrived. As soon as DS and DD get off the swings their Dad starts talking about everybody getting hugs and kisses. I asked him how recently they’d done lateral flow tests (I’m currently testing daily, as is my teenage son that lives with us, as there are lots of cases around us). Dad says “they tested on Wednesday and I don’t need to because I’ve been doubled jabbed”. I told him being double jabbed doesn’t mean anything, he seemed to think I was talking rubbish.

I told him that under the circumstances I didn’t think hugs and kisses were wise, especially as they live in one of the top three areas with highest cases. He got the hump and made sarcastic comments.

Was I being unreasonable?

OP posts:
Landof · 12/12/2021 19:00

I can't believe you deprived your children a hug off their own father because he hasn't tested in 4 days. The recommendation is twice a week and also if your children are at school, I doubt half of the pupils are testing twice weekly. Poor kids.

Yahyahs22 · 12/12/2021 19:32

This is gross. What's the point in having a vaccine if you can't even hug your own children?
I feel so bad for their father and I have a suspicion you've made being their dad really difficult for him.

user1473878824 · 12/12/2021 19:36

Sorry, never mind how unreasonable you were: part-time dad?

snackess · 12/12/2021 19:45

If someone told me I couldn't hug my boy the next thing they'd hear from me is my court application.

They're his children as much as yours.

You're being totally OTT regarding covid & testing.

Their dad wanted to hug them not take them to a covid party,

penguinwithasuitcase · 12/12/2021 19:51

@user1473878824

Sorry, never mind how unreasonable you were: part-time dad?
Glad I wasn't the only one who balked at this...
Waxonwaxoff0 · 12/12/2021 19:53

YABVU. As a divorced parent I'd never ask my ex husband this. Get a bloody grip.

MarbleQueen · 12/12/2021 19:58

I told him being double jabbed doesn’t mean anything

You are barmy. You either need to stay home and tremble behind your sofa If you’re so scared or stop being controlling.

Being controlling about covid doesn’t make you a good person.

Your poor kids must be terrified.

Nicknacky · 12/12/2021 19:59

Isn’t he “dad” rather than part time dad?

Do you have any concept of how unreasonable you are being?

Nidan2Sandan · 12/12/2021 20:04

@Nicknacky

Isn’t he “dad” rather than part time dad?

Do you have any concept of how unreasonable you are being?

I'm guessing not, since she hasnt come back
SamMil · 12/12/2021 20:21

Yes sorry you are being unreasonable. I've never asked anyone when their last LFT test was before they're allowed to hug my daughter. But, even if I did, it was only 4 days ago, so how is that a problem..?

Daily LFTs is overkill, unless there is some sort of big backstory.

LethargicActress · 12/12/2021 21:02

If you were going to try and enforce something as drastic as no hugs without LFTs, you should have said before hand.

Darkpheonix · 12/12/2021 21:16

I assume the part time comment is due to him inly seeing them in a park every few weeks.

Bur since op is so ott, I can't help wonder if this is a rule she is enforcing due to covid. Though I wonder why he isn't fighting it.

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 12/12/2021 21:22

My mum and sister have just popped round. I assume my sis is lfting regularly as she visits schools. My mum has never done a single test. Lots of hugging and kissing here. Because we. You know. Love each other 💕

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