How are supposed to feel emotionally connected during sex?

[Justsotirednow]

I just don’t get it / feel it.
Ever.

I’ve heard ”sex is the glue (for the longest time I thought this was an euphemism for cum🤦🏻‍♀️ (sorry TMI)) for a relationship, brings couple together”…. etc

Can’t say I’ve felt it.
With anyone.

I hope I’m not weird.

@HaaaaaveyoumetTed oh sex, it is a lifetime of learning. I don't think I have learned a lot about it in this life.
This is a bit random if you dont think about spiritual things much, but I chat with my friends about stuff like this all the time. bear with me. I believe in reincarnation. I had a really interesting conversation with my male, gay friend yesterday. He went to a psychic spiritual market and he got a past life reading from a woman.

In this life he is gay and he has had a lot of sexual partners. He has sex with two different men every week.

In the psychic reading he got, the woman told him that in his past life, he had lived in a very religious community and they had controlled his sexuality a lot. So he had very little sex. So in his next life, which is this life, he wanted to come back as a gay man and be very sexually free. I believe in reincarnation.

So I sometimes think due to past sex abuse in this life, I will never experience what good sex is in my life now. As I have too much fear of sex.

But in my next life maybe I will get to experience good sex.

Personally, I can't have sex without an emotional connection. I don't feel comfortable being that vulnerable with someone unless we have a bond - and i know that's my hang up and I'm absolutely not judging anyone else. But I am also unlikely to every have sex again. I'm not a sexual but DH died and I don't want another relationship, it would feel like cheating on him. And again, my hang up.

Only ever with dh (cliché I know 🙈).

For me it’s the cuddle that is most important, before I ditched my husband I hadn’t had a cuddle for 10yrs (or anything else) I thought my sex life was over. Then a man I knew asked me for a date, that brought the fun and laughter back into my life, what a revival, even when you are older the passion can return emotionally and physically.