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hazelnutpraline · 2021-12-12T11:18:37+00:00

Was just watching a thing on TikTok where people were submitting particular things that had given them ‘the ick’ about partners, it was quite funny. The one that comes to mind for me is the time my ex came and sat on the sofa after a bath. He was wearing a dressing gown and was in a bad mood about something. I remember looking across at his long skinny limbs sticking out of the dressing gown and the petulant expression on his face and thinking he looks like an overgrown grumpy toddler. That was it for me, maximum ick and I ended things shortly after. Anyone else?

Spitspotsput · 12/12/2021 11:24

Well done you. Influenced much?

LittleDandelionClock · 12/12/2021 11:25

When I was 8 and a half stone aged 17, and I was dating a boy - yes BOY - of 19. I had been dating him 4-5 weeks, and he put his arm around my waist in the pub, squeezed/pinched me, and said 'YOU can pinch an inch eh?' I said' WHAT?' with a kind of look. He said 'you've got a little roll of fat there...' and then gave me a stupid fucking grin.

8 and a half stone I was at 5 ft 5, and I had a 24" waist.

Ick factor secured. I dumped him that night. Walked out of the pub and refused to ever speak to him again. He didn't know what he had done apparently. So he doesn't think there is anything wrong with fat shaming a girl then? Cunt.

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hazelnutpraline · 12/12/2021 11:26

@Spitspotsput huh?

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hazelnutpraline · 12/12/2021 11:26

@LittleDandelionClock ugh what a loser, well rid!

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mykiki · 12/12/2021 11:28

@Spitspotsput

Well done you. Influenced much?

Someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning.

MaxNormal · 12/12/2021 11:30

Well I love threads about The Ick

Spitspotsput you sound in need of a coffee.

MaxNormal · 12/12/2021 11:34

Mine was, got together with a guy one evening, him buying me a rose should have been an alarm bell as it was but realised that his catch phrase, instead of saying "let's go", was "let's make a sexual departure and fuck off".

Feeling slightly revolted just typing that.

LittleDandelionClock · 12/12/2021 11:34

[quote hazelnutpraline]@LittleDandelionClock ugh what a loser, well rid![/quote]
I know right. And I HAD no bloody roll of fat anyway! Not that it would have been acceptable if I had!

gannett · 12/12/2021 11:35

[quote hazelnutpraline]@LittleDandelionClock ugh what a loser, well rid![/quote]
From someone who was mocking a man's skinny limbs FOUR posts previously, this is an amazing about-turn to suddenly be against body-shaming.

LittleDandelionClock · 12/12/2021 11:35

@MaxNormal

Mine was, got together with a guy one evening, him buying me a rose should have been an alarm bell as it was but realised that his catch phrase, instead of saying "let's go", was "let's make a sexual departure and fuck off".

Feeling slightly revolted just typing that.

LOL

Did he whisper 'penetration' in your ear?

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hazelnutpraline · 12/12/2021 11:36

Just thought of another one, an ex referred to chocolate as ‘choccy’ and I just couldn’t look at him the same way after that

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MaxNormal · 12/12/2021 11:36

LittleDandelionClock I remember that post! It was hilariously repulsive.
Luckily I scarpered before we got anywhere near the penetrative stage!

ForbiddentoForbid · 12/12/2021 11:37

My ex called me sweetie pie 🤮

LittleDandelionClock · 12/12/2021 11:39

@hazelnutpraline

Just thought of another one, an ex referred to chocolate as ‘choccy’ and I just couldn’t look at him the same way after that

Oh that reminds me, I did date someone briefly when I was much younger (for 2 or 3 weeks,) who thought it was adorable when he talked like a baby 'do you wike my cutiesy wootsie bunny wabbit?'

and 'don't be mad I am just a pwitty iccle teddie bear!' URGH!

Why a 24 year old man thought it was OK to talk like that just eluded me

TedMullins · 12/12/2021 11:41

He turned up to our second date in a grubby hoody emblazoned with his university rugby team logo and mismatched joggers. I should’ve dumped there and then but I overlooked it as he was nice. We both wfh and I have my own place whereas he house shared so he spent a lot of time at mine. He would leave half drunk coffee cups everywhere and sit in the middle of the day working in my lounge with the blinds shut, in the same grubby tracksuit from date 2, with the hood up. Always with the fucking hood up, like a teenage gremlin sat in the gloom. The hood made his head look triangular and emphasised his double chin. The ick truly amplified when I told him off about leaving his coffee cups everywhere and putting a muddy footprint on my rug and he just grimaced at me and didn’t apologise. Dumped him that day.

LittleDandelionClock · 12/12/2021 11:41

@MaxNormal

LittleDandelionClock I remember that post! It was hilariously repulsive. Luckily I scarpered before we got anywhere near the penetrative stage!

hardtimeadjusting · 12/12/2021 11:42

@ForbiddentoForbid An ex of mine called me that too! He also "jokingly"'referred to me as his "concubine" 🤢🤮 He was overly macho and full of swagger (with zero intelligence). I don't know what I was thinking!

LittleDandelionClock · 12/12/2021 11:42

@TedMullins

He turned up to our second date in a grubby hoody emblazoned with his university rugby team logo and mismatched joggers. I should’ve dumped there and then but I overlooked it as he was nice. We both wfh and I have my own place whereas he house shared so he spent a lot of time at mine. He would leave half drunk coffee cups everywhere and sit in the middle of the day working in my lounge with the blinds shut, in the same grubby tracksuit from date 2, with the hood up. Always with the fucking hood up, like a teenage gremlin sat in the gloom. The hood made his head look triangular and emphasised his double chin. The ick truly amplified when I told him off about leaving his coffee cups everywhere and putting a muddy footprint on my rug and he just grimaced at me and didn’t apologise. Dumped him that day.

Urgh! Well rid of him you were!

inmyslippers · 12/12/2021 11:43

I came home from work to my then boyfriend sat on the sofa eating haribo playing computer games. Not got dressed that day just sat around smoking weed

hardtimeadjusting · 12/12/2021 11:44

One thing that gave me the ick in a guy I was seeing was catching sight of him brushing his teeth. He has somehow turned the toothpaste into a foam and it covered half his face. He looked like a five year old playing with shaving cream.

MrsWhites · 12/12/2021 11:44

When I was really young I went on a date, very let’s just see if I like him type of thing so when he suggested Pizza Hut I thought he was just trying to keep it light and casual. Anyway, at the end of the meal he whipped out the receipt and worked out to the penny how much each of us owed....including the additional toppings I had on my pizza!

Titsywoo · 12/12/2021 11:45

Went on a double date with a guy I really liked as a teen plus my friend and her boyfriend. Went for dinner and drinks but later they took to the park and were slow dancing with us under the stars and gazing into our eyes. I'm sure lots of women would have loved it but cheesy romance gives me the major ick so I didn't go out with him after that

hardtimeadjusting · 12/12/2021 11:46

Black satin sheets

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hazelnutpraline · 12/12/2021 11:48

@gannett it wasn’t actually his skinny limbs that were an issue, I did and still do like skinny guys. It’s was the combination of dressing gown, facial expression and his long legs sticking out that all together made me feel a bit repulsed. I think it was mainly the dressing gown actually, not many people look good in them IMO

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Sparklesocks · 12/12/2021 11:49

Once I popped round to see him and he was eating the smelliest soup, it was like cabbage and onion and all sorts.
After that I went right off him because I would remember the smell. Really small and weird thing but I just associated him with the bad smell!