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The way DP watches films is sooo annoying

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alienbaby · 12/12/2021 11:10

So I recommended DP watch the power of the dog. Told him it was an intense psychological drama.

So it gets to the point where (keeping this vague to avoid spoilers) she is trying to get the melody, and he subjugates her psychologically. It's a really tense moment and it forms the basis for a shift in the dynamic and what happens next.

Right there, in the 2 minutes that this is unfolding, DP gets off the couch without pressing pause. To go and make a fucking sandwich.

It really pisses me off! Just wondering if it would annoy anyone else or am I just tetchy today 😁

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Needcoffeecoffeecoffee · 12/12/2021 11:14

Does he do this with all films ? Or maybe wasnt enjoying it and left it on for you yo watch
Dd is the worse to watch films with. She will get 75-90% of the way through and stop it and not want to watch anymore. But then wont let anyone else watch it either until she decides she wants to watch it again - this could be a year later.
It drives me batty! I've been known to watch the end of childrens films in the evening just to find out what happened!

Sux2Buthen · 12/12/2021 11:15

I had a worse experience recently. I put National Lampoons Christmas Vacation on and my boyfriend had never seen it.
He didn't laugh 😑

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alienbaby · 12/12/2021 11:16

@Needcoffeecoffeecoffee
Not with all films but he does do it quite often. Like we could be watching a series, 5 minutes to the end of an episode and he will go and get a beer. But anything could happen in those last 5 minutes! 😱

I dont say anything obviously as that would be controlling but it annoys me!

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TheIncredibleBookEatingManchot · 12/12/2021 11:17

Could it have just been too tense for him and he couldn't bear to watch it?

MagpiePi · 12/12/2021 11:17

Why is it annoying if someone else leaves during a film? Maybe he was feeling a bit overwhelmed by it and took himself away without wanting you to have to turn it off? The equivalent of hiding behind the sofa when the daleks came on! Did he come back and watch the rest?

ShirleyPhallus · 12/12/2021 11:19

I thought that film was so deathly dull that making a sandwich would have been like fireworks going off in comparison

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alienbaby · 12/12/2021 11:20

@TheIncredibleBookEatingManchot
Nice of you to try, but no; he just wanted a sandwich.

@MagpiePi
Why is it annoying if someone else leaves during a film
🤔 I cant put my finger on why exactly

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PlanktonsComputerWife · 12/12/2021 11:21

My husband cannot watch a film for more than 45 minutes. He has to have a cigarette or make a coffee. "Keep watching," he urges. "What happened, oh, did X turn out to be his mother after all, and where's this, is this Eastern Europe now..." he speculates aloud for five solid minutes when he finally gets back.

He doesn't do this when we go to see Disney shite with DD at the cinema. Oh no, then he manages to go to sleep in the first ten minutes. The lucky, lucky bastard. I came out of Encanto bitterly quoting Al Pacino in Scarface's thoughts on Colombians, and DH goes, "Oh was it set in Colombia? I dropped off."

Christ I'm bitter about that.

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alienbaby · 12/12/2021 11:21

@ShirleyPhallus
My mum also hated it, found it extremely boring and didnt watch the last half hour (!!!!).

I was the opposite and was totally immersed in it, didnt want it to end!

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DaisyNGO · 12/12/2021 11:21

Is he bored? I was bored watching the trailer.

DaisyNGO · 12/12/2021 11:22

X post 😂

Plantpot75 · 12/12/2021 11:23

I’m sorry OP but the image of him getting up to make a sandwich made me smile!
I can just imagine a telling and poignant moment unfolding on the screen and you’re poised for his reaction with bated breath. And he’s thinking, ooh I could right fancy a cheese and pickle sarnie right now…

ApricotStew · 12/12/2021 11:23

I think maybe he's not finding it as interesting as you do. Sometimes if dh wants to watch a particular film I'll sit in and sort of half watch it and it either takes my interest or it doesn't. I wander off and make a cup of tea. We don't share the same taste in films. If it gets gory I'm disappeared.

SparklyLeprechaun · 12/12/2021 11:27

So he doesn't find the movie that riveting, what's the big deal?

Thatsplentyjack · 12/12/2021 11:27

You sound like my dp. He likes to try and make me watch films and wants me to be as invested in them as him. He will sit and watch my reaction to the film. If I want to go make myself a sandwhich or coffee or whatever during said boring film that I'm not that interested in, then I will.

magicstar1 · 12/12/2021 11:28

Omg I didn’t know DH had another wife!
Mine does exactly the same thing. Ten minutes left and he’ll go to the toilet, but take his phone and I’ll hear him laughing at TikTok. Or go to make tea etc. He doesn’t pause it, so I do, and wait for him.
Even worse, he falls asleep during a movie he wants to watch, and when I say do you want to see the end, he’s not bothered. I have to know the end lol.
He also has a habit of flicking through the tv and watching a movie that maybe started twenty minutes ago….I can’t do that, I have to see it from the beginning.

Thatsplentyjack · 12/12/2021 11:29

@Sux2Buthen

I had a worse experience recently. I put National Lampoons Christmas Vacation on and my boyfriend had never seen it. He didn't laugh 😑
Well that's because it's not funny.
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alienbaby · 12/12/2021 11:33

I just walked past and said so did you see the banjo scene? He said no but I get the idea.

Actually you dont...

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PlanktonsComputerWife · 12/12/2021 11:33

I tried watching Goodfellas with an ex and he didn't find it funny. Reader, that is why he is an ex.

gannett · 12/12/2021 11:40

YANBU, this would drive me up the wall.

DP gets distracted while watching things, which is annoying enough but it's even worse when he then talks over scenes to ask questions about the plot and characters. You'd know the answers if you'd been paying bloody attention!!!

When I watch films and shows I'm all in. No distractions, full attention, if you must speak or ask a question or leave the room you press pause and you don't do it in the middle of a scene. Maybe taking Art seriously makes me the insufferable one but I don't care, them's my rules.

DecayedStrumpet · 12/12/2021 11:43

Sorry, I understand your frustration but this did make me laugh.

Maybe you need to accept he's not into the same type of films as you?

JustLikea · 12/12/2021 11:47

I do this with films I've already seen, am not interested in or scenes that make me feel uncomfortable. Sometimes I just go for a lie down and hope no one's noticed as they're too immersed in the film to care.

godmum56 · 12/12/2021 11:48

so he doesn't want you to make the sarnie or pause the movie? I'd say YABU

StoodOnAPlug · 12/12/2021 11:56

@PlanktonsComputerWife

I tried watching Goodfellas with an ex and he didn't find it funny. Reader, that is why he is an ex.
You think Goodfellas is a comedy?
PlanktonsComputerWife · 12/12/2021 13:02

@StoodOnAPlug Many parts of it are wildly funny, amid the grisly scenes, which is part of what makes it such a rollercoaster of a film. When Karen and her mother both stand up at the exact same moment to berate an errant Henry? Tommy's mother's dog painting? The way Morrie's wig comes adrift when Jimmy is garotting him? The timing of Carbone's missus coming in with the mink coat to the Christmas party? "2R Rossi is a whore"? I die every time.