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Original poster

To want to eat what i want without commentz?

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malificent7 · 08/12/2021 12:46

Why do people think that its ok to comment on what your eating in the staffroom.
I was eating a tuna salad and someone asked me if i was eating dog food. How rude! Will eat in the car from now on. Fed up with everyone commenting at each others lunch. Back off!

OP posts:
Aprilx · 08/12/2021 13:36

@malificent7

Why do people think that its ok to comment on what your eating in the staffroom. I was eating a tuna salad and someone asked me if i was eating dog food. How rude! Will eat in the car from now on. Fed up with everyone commenting at each others lunch. Back off!
I think for someone to make a comment like that, you must have been stinking out the place to high heaven. In which case, yes probably is better if you eat in your car.
lololololollll · 08/12/2021 13:37

Ffs tuna is a very common lunch food you are all full of shit pretending you wouldn't eat it if the smell offended someone else!

Sweetleftfood · 08/12/2021 13:41

Yeah tuna is not particularly smelly, would you ban a tuna sandwich from Tesco as well? Yes don't sit in an open plan office but in staff room/canteen perfectly fine

Original poster
malificent7 · 08/12/2021 13:43

It did look like a caeser dog food yeah...but please...no comment! Rude, rude,rude!

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PinkAndPurpleClouds · 08/12/2021 14:01

@dropitlikeitsloth

Benefits of WFH. I used to get passive agressive commments on my portions like ‘oooh is that all for you?’ and ‘you’re not eating again?’ 🙄 Yes, yes I am and what of it 🤣
YEAH, this! ^ @malificent7 YANBU. I HATE people commenting on what I am eating. The 'you'll get fat' comments boils my fucking piss. Nearly always come from men too. Hmm

However, I have to say I do hate it when someone has smelly. Pot noodle (VOM) fish, eggs, curry etc...

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 08/12/2021 14:07

that was nasty of them

but if you reply with "mind your own business" they get butthurt and call you a bitch🤬

tbh I find that the best weapon is humour. I would've said something like: "dog food? no, I used it up yesterday when I made your sandwich"

mwahaha 😉
don't get mad, get even

Mankyfruitbowl · 08/12/2021 14:23

Cold tinned tuna is absolutely fine OP. Completely different from heating up fish in the microwave, which fills the whole office like a Glade Smoked Haddock Plugin.

WomanStanleyWoman · 08/12/2021 14:29

Benefits of WFH. I used to get passive agressive commments on my portions like ‘oooh is that all for you?’ and ‘you’re not eating again?’ 🙄 Yes, yes I am and what of it 🤣

I also hate this. Too many people come out with this kind of dig under the guise of ‘making conversation’. Making judgements more like.

My office has some nice cafés nearby (or at least it did the last time we were allowed there!), so if someone had a nice-looking takeaway box I might ask where they got it so I could try it out. But if I thought it looked like someone had puked in a Tupperware, why the hell would I say so? No one wants to hear that! The same for portion size - unless you’re Gillian McKeith, your views on how much I’m eating are of zero interest.

Original poster
malificent7 · 08/12/2021 14:31

I never comment on peoples lunches and accept that food smells.

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dropitlikeitsloth · 08/12/2021 14:32

@WomanStanleyWoman

Benefits of WFH. I used to get passive agressive commments on my portions like ‘oooh is that all for you?’ and ‘you’re not eating again?’ 🙄 Yes, yes I am and what of it 🤣

I also hate this. Too many people come out with this kind of dig under the guise of ‘making conversation’. Making judgements more like.

My office has some nice cafés nearby (or at least it did the last time we were allowed there!), so if someone had a nice-looking takeaway box I might ask where they got it so I could try it out. But if I thought it looked like someone had puked in a Tupperware, why the hell would I say so? No one wants to hear that! The same for portion size - unless you’re Gillian McKeith, your views on how much I’m eating are of zero interest.

I know, and the comments on the calories too. Thank you but I would like to shove a cake in my mouth without being told how much sugar, calories and fat is in it thank you… I do know, I just don’t care haha
Pedalpushers · 08/12/2021 14:34

These people with extra sensitive noses need to stop making their intolerance everyone else's problem. If you can't be around tuna or food scent perhaps a canteen isn't for you and YOU should go elsewhere.

roarfeckingroarr · 08/12/2021 14:35

Not all food smells. Those tuna tins do smell like dog food.

emmathedilemma · 08/12/2021 14:36

I used to work in an office where someone commented on practically everything I ate. It drove me crazy! Seemingly they'd never been exposed to someone who eats fruit and veg before. oooh, you're healthy eating rabbit food...... yet I'm sure if i'd said something about their daily heart attack fodder from the canteen there'd have been a backlash!!

Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 08/12/2021 14:36

Take egg sandwiches tomorrow op...

Iamthewombat · 08/12/2021 14:43

I think i will eat in the car. I eat fish as its healthy and helps maintain my weight but i get that everyone else finds it smelly.

Eh? You’re bringing in food that you know to be smelly, but eating it in a communal area anyway? Why would you do that?

Your colleague was clearly remarking on the smell.

You later mention that you are bringing in containers of tuna that you know to be smelly because you ‘want to maintain a 2 stone weight loss’. Well, nobody in your staff room gives a stuff about your weight loss and they aren’t going to give you a free pass to eat anti-social smelly food for that reason.

I’ve worked in buildings where selfish gits eat smelly stuff and, worse, microwave smelly stuff, spreading the stench over the entire area. Of course, they usually sit far away from the microwave so it troubles them less. I once asked a woman nicely to stop microwaving fish every lunchtime. She went screaming to HR about being ‘victimised’. The OPsunds like that type, so flouncing off other car to eat sounds like a good solution.

Iamthewombat · 08/12/2021 14:44

Flouncing off TO her car, that should say!

DrManhattan · 08/12/2021 14:45

Urghhh tuna. Its a bit rude to be fair.

musicviking1 · 08/12/2021 14:46

I think it's rude. I wouldn't eat tuna in a staff room though. I sat on a 12 hour flight with with a stranger who thought it was a good idea to eat a homemade fish dish then leave the smelly empty container in the footwell. It stank to high heaven. I had to hide in my blanket for most of the flight.

1forAll74 · 08/12/2021 15:01

You must be working with some immature and silly people,if they have to spend time talking about someone elses food choices. Don't bother about what they rabbit on about,

timestheyarechanging · 08/12/2021 15:12

Not staffroom but classroom.
I sent my son into school with mackerel salad for his packed lunch thinking it was a good, healthy lunch and he was bored of sandwiches.
Got a 'word' off his teacher - she apparently said to the class that the room smelt (after lunch) and my son said - I think it's my hands. It was! 🤣
I switched him to school dinners after that.

Starcaller · 08/12/2021 15:14

I understand heating up smelly stuff, but cold tuna in a salad or sandwich? Nah. I have tuna sandwiches all the time. It wouldn't occur to me not to eat one in a work canteen or something.

WomanStanleyWoman · 08/12/2021 15:41

@Iamthewombat

I think i will eat in the car. I eat fish as its healthy and helps maintain my weight but i get that everyone else finds it smelly.

Eh? You’re bringing in food that you know to be smelly, but eating it in a communal area anyway? Why would you do that?

Your colleague was clearly remarking on the smell.

You later mention that you are bringing in containers of tuna that you know to be smelly because you ‘want to maintain a 2 stone weight loss’. Well, nobody in your staff room gives a stuff about your weight loss and they aren’t going to give you a free pass to eat anti-social smelly food for that reason.

I’ve worked in buildings where selfish gits eat smelly stuff and, worse, microwave smelly stuff, spreading the stench over the entire area. Of course, they usually sit far away from the microwave so it troubles them less. I once asked a woman nicely to stop microwaving fish every lunchtime. She went screaming to HR about being ‘victimised’. The OPsunds like that type, so flouncing off other car to eat sounds like a good solution.

What a pointlessly arsey response. The OP has said she’d switch to eating in the car if it bothered people - yet you’re STILL being shitty with her for ever having eaten tuna in the staff room in the first place. And apparently the OP is the dramatic flouncer!
Youngatheart00 · 08/12/2021 15:42

Yuk, no one should eat fish in the office. It stinks.

tintodeverano2 · 08/12/2021 15:45

One of my colleagues brought in boiled eggs or egg mayo sandwiches every day. That's got to be worse than tuna!

NynaeveSedai · 08/12/2021 15:46

@Sweetleftfood

Yeah tuna is not particularly smelly, would you ban a tuna sandwich from Tesco as well? Yes don't sit in an open plan office but in staff room/canteen perfectly fine
Not particularly smelly?!?? Your sense of smell must be dodgy