Cheap brother-in-law?

[learieonthewildmoor]

My bil got me in the family Christmas draw. We have a £50 limit. He just texted me asking me to pay the postage on my present because it goes £15 over the limit.
Next year do I ask for a £35 present to account for possible postage and wrapping?

Is he being cheap?

Given the update, I've switched to YABU!

Last week I was going to send an advent calendar. Next day signed for would have cost £12 according to the p.o. Needless to say I sent it normal 1st class which still cost £3 something

That’s so cheeky!!! I can’t believe you asked for something right up to the budget knowing it would then cost more to post. Bloody Hell, talk about fleecing it for every penny.

You've asked for something that totals £15 over budget. Of course you should pay the extra!

You are so rude and cheeky! I can't believe you are suggesting that your BIL is tight, because he doesn't want to spend an additional £15 on you!

Next time, ask for something that comes in at under the budget!

Do you live in Highlands and Islands OP? Anything up Perth is apparently not mainland UK 😀

I think you should pay but I would ask him to send it standard shipping unless you have chosen a gift from overseas?

I had to change my vote after your update. Of course yabu. Maybe ask him if there's a cheaper postage option and say you would be happy to wait. But its not fair to expect him to cover postage costs when you asked for a gift that takes up the full budget.

I also think YABVVVVU to call your BIL 'cheap' for not wanting to pay £65 for a gift you've asked for when the budget was £50

Update changes it entirely!

tell him to get a refund and send you a £50 gift card or cheque.

YABU you specified a gift that was up to the maximum budget and clearly isn't cheap to ship.

Your BIL isn't being cheap, you're being unfair.

Even my 6 year old knows that when he wants something he has to remember postage costs. Yes I am that mean but I do it so as he's prepared later in life to know the full extent of the price of things.

Yabu

Tell him to transfer the £15 to you and you’ll pay the postage.

YABVU and a CF to boot.

Why is he getting express shipping?

Most places offer free shipping with £50 purchase.

What a drip feed....unless it was at one stage possible to buy it with free postage (e.g. you told him in plenty of time to get it from shop a while h does free delivery) but he left it so late he has to pay for express shipping then YABU.

If he was asking for 2 quid he would be tight. But 15 quid is nearly a third again the cost of the present!

Refuse to give him the money but say you don't mind him paying just normal shipping and its fine if the present gets to you a few days late?

YABU

Okay.

No-one in the family draw gets a present less than £50. I have always paid the extra when someone wants something a few pound over the limit.
Next year, I’ll factor in postage.

Given the update, I've switched to YABU!

Me too. Op you cf you!

@learieonthewildmoor

No-one in the family draw gets a present less than £50. I have always paid the extra when someone wants something a few pound over the limit. Next year, I’ll factor in postage.

You’re coming across like a bit of a tool.

So is there a £50 limit or not?

£15 isn’t a few pounds.

I’m afraid I think you are the CF in this situation OP!

@learieonthewildmoor

No-one in the family draw gets a present less than £50. I have always paid the extra when someone wants something a few pound over the limit. Next year, I’ll factor in postage.

Presumably most people buy it from a shop and you've sent him something niche to buy for you?

Oh gosh I hate this way of doing present I really do!!
What's the point??.
It's like extremely wealthy gp sending the gift second class!! And it arrives late and they are the only living gp