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How to get 5 year old to eat more

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AliveAndSleeping · 06/12/2021 22:34

Apologies but posting here for traffic.

DD is on the 2nd centile for weight and the 15th or so for height though she was born on the 75th. She's been seen several times by a pediatrician but they can't find anything wrong. I worry because she doesn't have as much stamina as other kids and it's starting to knock her confidence. Both the lack of stamina (and not being able to keep up with other kids physically) and always being the smallest. She keeps getting told that she's tiny by her classmates (and some adults) and it's starting to get to her. Doesn't help that she's the youngest in her class as well.

She just doesn't like to eat. She never seems hungry. She isn't super fussy but her portions are tiny. She's also a very slow eater. She just wants to talk or dream away. There are a few things that she seems to like but she doesn't have much of them either. Even chocolate she refuses most of the time (unlike her mumhmm) though she does like it.

We've tried everything. No pressure approach, bribery, getting her involved in food prep, playing games over dinner and setting a timer. At school she eats even less.

I'm getting desperate but I don't know what to do. All her clothes are too loose (and short) for her. Any ideas?

(She likes healthy food like vegetables and fruits but it's difficult to get enough calories into her. I add fat (olive oil or butter) to her food and am trying to increase her protein intake. She has a bottle of pediasure every day as well).

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skybluee · 04/01/2022 14:03

Is she constipated? That can have a massive impact on appetite and ability to eat/feeling too full.

georgarina · 04/01/2022 14:30

How did she naturally stabilise? Do you mean by doing nothing? did she just start putting on weight after a while? Or start eating a bit more?

She seems happy and healthy in every other way though she definitely doesn't have the same strength or stamina as other kids.

My parents didn't do anything, she just changed as she grew up. It is definitely good you're looking into it though as she shouldn't bee feeling weak or tired

DirtyDancing · 04/01/2022 18:17

Have you looked into nutrition shakes for children?

ancientgran · 04/01/2022 19:06

My DD was a terrible eater, she just didn't really want anything. GP said if she lost anymore weight, even half a pound, she was going into hospital. He said give her cake, chocolate anything to get her to eat.

The breakthrough was her teenage big brothers coming home with spicy pepperami pizza, she had a slice and wolfed it down and had another. I had fallen into a trap of giving her blander and blander food thinking it was inoffensive. She thrived when given chillies, curries, spicy pizzas and lashings of marmite on everything. I think it is probably unusual but might be worth a try.

AliveAndSleeping · 04/01/2022 21:08

@DirtyDancing

Have you looked into nutrition shakes for children?
Do you mean nutrition shakes like pediasure?
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AliveAndSleeping · 04/01/2022 21:10

@ancientgran

My DD was a terrible eater, she just didn't really want anything. GP said if she lost anymore weight, even half a pound, she was going into hospital. He said give her cake, chocolate anything to get her to eat.

The breakthrough was her teenage big brothers coming home with spicy pepperami pizza, she had a slice and wolfed it down and had another. I had fallen into a trap of giving her blander and blander food thinking it was inoffensive. She thrived when given chillies, curries, spicy pizzas and lashings of marmite on everything. I think it is probably unusual but might be worth a try.

Dh and me love spicy food but DD doesn't. She's tried it lots of times but she really kind of hates it. She does like salty food so I'm trying to add more salt.
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Stormwhale · 04/01/2022 21:21

My ds is a terrible eater and went through a period of about 6 months where he basically existed on air. We added this to his milk and anything else we could to add extra calories. Its expensive, but completely flavourless, doesn't change the taste or texture at all, but adds extra calories.

www.neocate.com/shop/hypoallergenic-formula-and-products/duocal

He has allergies so it was our only option. There might be a cheaper version you could find to add into her milk and any liquid foods. We added it to gravy, porridge, pancake batter, all sorts.

He is a little better now, but he is only 2, so the things we have done I'm sure you have already.

My brother was very similar to your dd and my best advice would be to do the opposite of my parents. They turned it into a huge battle and by the time he left home he ate about 5 foods in total. Once he left home and the pressure was off him and he was able to choose his own food, he gradually started to eat a wider variety of foods. He will always be picky, but it is so much better than it was. He was terrified of food and it felt completely out of his control as my parents were constantly trying to force him to eat.

Stormwhale · 04/01/2022 21:22

We were told to give ds anything, whether it was healthy or not. The aim was to get him eating something, then slowly make changes to healthier options. That is what we did and he definitely eats a wider range of foods, but still such a small amount. Sad

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