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Christmas: would you go? Pregnant, relative just tested positive

65 replies

ThatCampWitch · 06/12/2021 17:07

Apologies, this is a repost. I originally posted on the Coronavirus topic, and the responses have been very helpful, but I wonder if I’m getting a possibly ever so slightly one sided sense of opinions, as those posters are more likely to have a vested interest in the topic.

DH and I were due to spend Christmas with family who live 4-5 hours away from us. Unfortunately one relative (primary age child) has just tested positive. They are now in 10 days of isolation. Ordinarily this wouldn’t be too much of a big deal, and in theory, once relative was out of isolation we’d have travelled up as planned for Christmas. The major hitch is that I’m just entering the third trimester of a very high risk pregnancy, I’m taking a lot of medication to sustain the pregnancy, and we have been so, so careful and cautious. I WFH and quite literally only go to the supermarket. Relative will be out of isolation before Christmas, but I still feel very nervous about it. I’ve had one Pfizer jab, second one due in January. What would you do in my shoes?

YANBU: don’t go
YABU: go

OP posts:
Suzanne999 · 06/12/2021 17:47

Stay home. You’ll be worried the whole time and that’s not good for you.
High risk pregnancies are stressful enough without adding to it.

AdventStar · 06/12/2021 17:51

Don't go. Keep yourself and your baby safe.

CloudyStorms · 06/12/2021 17:53

No one can decide for you the ultimate decision lies with you.

Hankunamatata · 06/12/2021 17:55

I wouldn't be travelling anywhere with high risk pregnancy

TurquoiseDragon · 06/12/2021 17:55

I wouldn't go with a high risk pregnancy. Just have a small Xmas at home.

RuggerHug · 06/12/2021 17:55

Not for love nor money would I consider it.

Hankunamatata · 06/12/2021 17:56

I wouldn't even mention covid if you cancel. Just say your not feeling overly well and not up to travelling

Aprilx · 06/12/2021 17:56

I don’t think the family having covid in early December is any reason to not go, but I can’t think why you would go anyway. It would surely be better to have a quiet one at home this year.

negomi90 · 06/12/2021 17:56

If you are in the third trimester of a high risk pregnancy, I wouldn't be going far from my hospital regardless of other people's illnesses. Covid wouldn't factor into this decision.

CovidCurious · 06/12/2021 17:59

I wouldn't dream of going that far away from my primary care hospital in your situation, Covid or no.

HollowTalk · 06/12/2021 18:04

Another no hear. That's 100%.

ParisinNovember · 06/12/2021 18:04

Having spent three years trying to get pregnant and having IVF to conceive I am in a similar boat, and can hand on heart say don’t do anything that’s going to make you uncomfortable. It’s hard enough when things aren’t easy, let alone adding covid in the mix.

ThatCampWitch · 06/12/2021 18:05

Thanks for the responses. We’re definitely not going, I just needed a sounding board before telling family. Thank you so much to those of you who wished us well. A quiet Christmas it is!

OP posts:
WonderfulYou · 06/12/2021 18:11

But they’ve just had Covid - they are probably the safest set of people you can be around.

I agree.
I would rather go to theirs than anyone’s else’s as they’ve had it/isolated just before Xmas.

TheDaydreamBelievers · 06/12/2021 18:12

With a high risk pregnancy I would just bed down at home and hibernate. There will be more Christmasses in future

Huy456 · 06/12/2021 18:15

I would be getting an online shop too. Supermarkets are super spreader events. Probably riskier than a small gathering where everyone has just had covid

Darkstar4855 · 06/12/2021 18:17

I wouldn’t go - not because of the relative being positive because they’ll be out of isolation by then. But you aren’t fully vaccinated and you’re pregnant which makes you high risk anyway, plus you have other issues with your pregnancy. I’d be isolating as much as I possibly could for the rest of my pregnancy.

Wisewordswouldhelp · 06/12/2021 18:19

No.

vickylou78 · 06/12/2021 18:21

I agree with most others. I've got covid currently and even being double jabbed it's not nice. I wouldn't risk going anywhere inside with other households. I think the person who tested positive would be fine but the rest of family may catch it from them.

Just stay hunkered down I would! Get Tesco delivery and enjoy a quiet one!

BluebellsGreenbells · 06/12/2021 18:23

Depends

Child tests positive - how many others in the household? Have adults had Covid? Their isolation could go on for weeks if one after the other tests positive.

You need more answers.

JaninesEyePatch · 06/12/2021 18:28

@BluebellsGreenbells

Depends

Child tests positive - how many others in the household? Have adults had Covid? Their isolation could go on for weeks if one after the other tests positive.

You need more answers.

Think she said upthread - 8 household members.
getsanta · 06/12/2021 18:33

I would rather go to theirs than anyone’s else’s as they’ve had it/isolated just before Xmas.

True. But if I were in the OP's position, i wouldn't go anywhere.

Deisogn · 06/12/2021 18:34

Not a chance. You can't risk your baby.

Crispyturtle · 06/12/2021 18:34

Not a chance in hell.

You’re not fully vaccinated, there’s a new strain ripping through the population, and you’re having a high-risk population. Pregnant women are much more vulnerable to covid, to needing ITU admission than non-pregnant people, and to preterm or still birth. Just not worth the risk.

Crispyturtle · 06/12/2021 18:35

I mean pregnant women with covid are more vulnerable to preterm birth or stillbirth