To ask the worst behaviour at Christmas you’ve witnessed by an adult?

[SoniaFouler]

Mine is:

Drunk cousin (24 at the time) shouting and arguing with everyone for most of Boxing Day three years ago, then topped it off when someone told her to stop being stupid by standing up and scraping the entire contents of her dinner plate all over the table and made my aunt cry.

[TwinMama6]

@sjxoxo

My younger brother, about 24 years old- came home from pub on Xmas eve, absolutely, totally pissed. Went for a wee in the downstairs loo, came out with no trousers or pants on, proceeded to march into the lounge where my parents, our 2 sets of elderly very proper Grandparents, some neighbours, and a couple of my parents friends, we’re all sat eating choccies and chit chatting.
Brother didn’t seem to notice everyone at all; got a handful of choccies and spent 30 seconds looking in various plug sockets for his phone charger, bearing all!!!!!

No one said a word, apart from my Grandad who is like an elderly version of Mr Carson from Downton Abbey: “I think we can all agree that women are by far the fairer sex. Men really are ugly beings.”

Haha!! X

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂

[TwinMama6]

@SallyWebsterr

When I was 19 I was dating a 22 year old guy whose mother was very involved. We had been together around 2 years at this point so it wasnt a new relationship. He was a much wanted only child (and still lived at home until he was 36). He invited me over on Christmas night and I arrived, after both our families had eaten dinner, at 7pm. She threw a massive strop because he gave me a necklace and he didnt get her one. He had already given her gifts earlier in the day but started banging things round and then had a very loud row with her husband in the kitchen about why "SHE" (me) had to come round and then debated why I had to even exist at all and how she wished I didn't. Odd thing was we got on great 99% of the time but whenever she felt I was getting something she wasnt or her sons attention she would go mental. I instantly made my excuses and tried to leave but BF & his dad convinced me to stay by saying it would cause a bigger atmosphere if I left. She then began to say it would be best if she kept hold on the necklace for safe keeping incase I lost it and, if I wanted to wear it for an occasion, I could just ask her for it. We then sat and watched a film. Her and him on one couch and me on the other next to his DF.

What!!!!!

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

@UsernameInTheTown

My DSIS37 always forgets that she is vegan at Christmas and DSIS43 forgets she has 'allergies' as they both enthusiastically dig in to the trifle. Undermining the trifle, in order to snaffle more of the sherry and fruit soaked sponge, leaving the custard, cream and peach slices in a precarious Jenga style avalanche hazard. This disgusting behaviour has resulted in many a Christmas Day spat and once an all out flounce in DP's house

Frankly, I'd stopmaking trifle.

[IggyAce]

I’m so sorry to those that suffered horrific Christmas’s, some of them made me cry.
Mine are mild in comparison but one awful Christmas was when dd age 2 threw up in the car Christmas Eve travelling back from my aunts. She was just starting to get Christmas and had been excited, however she was miserable and tired on Christmas Day.

[carolineal]

Quite a few Christmases with my brother drinking or on pain meds - they were fairly hairy. He is now dead (due to the above!).

However, one funny Christmas when we were kids... it was when VHS video players came out. My brother got given a brand new VHS video. I think he would have been about 11. I was 8 and got given a copy of the Children's Bible. Pretty much figured out where I stood in my mother's eyes from that day forwards!!!

[AnnieSnap]

@MrsBobDylan

I'm sorry *@AnnieSnap and @Justilou1* - some people shouldn't be allowed to have children.

It's sad when you think of women who couldn't have kids who could have loved us.

I always feel like a lost child because nobody really loved me, so I didn't bring the sort of joy that I have experienced as a Mum.

It is a bit like I arrived with a present but my parents didn't want it. It's one of the reasons I love making my kids happy - it makes me feel like I'm giving that gift.

I'm glad to hear you both didn't attend the funerals and that it felt 'ok'. I won't go to my Mum's - it would feel fake and even with her lying in a coffin, she would still make me feel afraid. If anyone could come back from the dead, it would be her!

My mother always said that if I ever let her go into a care home, she’d come back and haunt me. I did and it’s about 9/10 years since she died (it’s not been on my radar enough to be sure) and she hasn’t made an appearance yet!

[MaHBroon]

@Fluffycloudland77

I wonder if other religions have these problems too at their major celebrations.

I’m told Eid can be interesting in one family members home but it’s never because of alcohol and I wonder if that makes it worse as what else could you blame a Barney on.

Bottom line is that wherever there are people in the world there’s a chance of a Barney.

[AnnieSnap]

Regarding conflict at gatherings in other religions, of course there will be conflicts, but alcohol is often part of the worse behaviours, as it is disinhibiting!

[ChannelLightVessel]

@Fluffycloudland77

I wonder if other religions have these problems too at their major celebrations.

Having spent several years in the US, I think part of the problem in this country is that it’s the one big holiday of the year, so everything has to be ‘perfect’. In the States, Thanksgiving is the extended family/big meal holiday, while Christmas is more about presents/seasonal treats (eg gingerbread, lights etc), so there isn’t the same focus on doing everything at the same time. And some people prefer to do their big family meet-up for the 4th of July.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

I haven’t spoken to his rancid ditch pig of a mother since. (and my DC hate her now too)

Normally I would try to encourage separated parents to bury personal resentments and to encourage children to still love and respect their grandparents on both sides, but in the case of your in-laws - esp MIL - I absolutely agree with you 100% 2laila747

That's a bliddy HORRIBLE thing to do to a child - any child. If I had a completely strange child in the house I would ensure they got a present, but for a child of the family (which your DD was), to single her out like this was beyond cruel.

Your in-laws, and your ex, are total tw*ts!

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

@Laila747*, not 2Laila747

Sorry

[Ddot]

Woke up Christmas day feeling odd, went to my mams early with husband and his face (he didn't like my family). Then went to his mothers for the rest of the day. As time ticked by I felt more and more unwell. About 4 I asked husband if we could go home as I was now in pain. He shouted and hissed at me saying I had spoilt his Christmas being so miserable, at this point I was hunched in a ball on the floor, he said to go home on my own, which meant walking two mile. He took me home about 9 in the evening. Turned out I had flu and it took me three weeks to get back on my feet. The house was a complete shit tip as he refused to do any sort of house work. Prick left moldy pots in the kitchen waiting for me. I lived on toast and tinned soup for a week. Oh he is my ex husband now.

[PooBearnow]

Wow, some of these are horrendous.

Mine was my first Christmas at home after I had lost my dad and a few weeks after my husband had had a bad accident (he had recovered by Christmas Day). I hosted IL’s as usual. We pay, we prepared and waited on them despite having very young kids who I was desperate to spend time with. They are not interested in the kids.

Got through the day with my sanity stretched but intact.

When they came to leave, MIL had to be “encouraged” out the door by FIL as she was shouting at me, as she had told me the day after my husbands accident, that a family event was cancelled, but it hadn’t been, and it was my fault for not knowing that and not keeping the day free. I stood there speechless and said nothing back.

We got No thank you. No appreciation. Nothing.

Nothing has changed. I try to avoid hosting now.

[PanicPrevention]

My drug addict brother stole my sons Christmas money.
Ive not seen him since and have no intention of having anything more to do with him until I'm invited to his funeral.
I tried to help and support him and he threw it all back, he's crossed many boundaries of mine over the years and I kept trying to help because he's my brother and I love who I know he is deep down but when your fuckedupedness directly affects my child the line is drawn.

[AlasAnotherEtonMess]

I organised a lockdown works Christmas party for myself and some chums under the guise of a meeting where cheese and wine merely appeared to be served.

I use the term 'organise' loosely as I normally couldn't organise my way out of a wet paper bag let alone a piss up in a drinks Cabinet

Alas someone let the cat out of the bag so I had to let her take the rap and get rid of her today. I let her resign to save face. Mine mainly.

Alack, my job appears to be untenable on grounds of morally reprehensible behaviour but am hopeful I will remain in for another term. Mainly because I have a career founded on a catalogue of morally reprehensible behaviour and there's usually a fall guy waiting in the wings I can pin the blame on. Those blighters in the 1922 Committee let me get away with far worse.

Yuletide Felecitations et al.

[Justilou1]

@AlasAnotherEtonMess
GOLD STAR

[AlasAnotherEtonMess]

[Ddot]

Plank

[Ddot]

As a child, last of five, I realised very quickly that my father had very little time for me. Eg.. each child born was given a premium bond, their are 4 bonds 🤣 tins and tins of pictures of all the kids, one photo as a baby of me and that was a group shot. The list is endless, anyway one Christmas my sister and I ran down stairs to get our presents. The gifts were on armchairs, one chair each and had our names on them (apparently) but in the excitement we didnt look. I got hers she got mine, best Christmas ever 🤣🤣🤣

[Roselilly36]

@Battygirll

Office party. Head of HR got shitfaced. Stripped to waist and ran around the room with her tits out.

Really? Showing off her Human Resources 😂 it never ceases to amaze me, what alcohol does to some people.

Many years ago when I was first going out with DH, he bought me a ticket to his work (banking) dinner & dance, in a posh hotel.

At the end of the meal his colleague jumps up on the table, drops his trousers & pants!

He was celebrating his recent promotion apparently, I kid you not! The promotion was cancelled on the Monday, he kept his job though, this was in very late 80’s.

Never forgotten it. My DH was so embarrassed for taking me & kept on apologising, for what his colleague had done.

[AlasAnotherEtonMess]

@Ddot

Plank

[NoraEphronsNeck]

The year my SIL brought round sackful of presents for each of my three DSC and their half-sister but nothing for my two DC from previous relationship (we'd been together 7years by this point). Slightly worse than the previous year when they'd been given a pair of socks each.

I didn't say anything at the time but she has never been allowed in my house again.

Chickens are coming home to roost this year as she has no-one to spend Christmas with as she has driven everyone away with her superior attitude.

My DH would have her in a heartbeat - but knows that won't be happening.

[Happy1982ish]

@NoraEphronsNeck

The year my SIL brought round sackful of presents for each of my three DSC and their half-sister but nothing for my two DC from previous relationship (we'd been together 7years by this point). Slightly worse than the previous year when they'd been given a pair of socks each.

I didn't say anything at the time but she has never been allowed in my house again.

Chickens are coming home to roost this year as she has no-one to spend Christmas with as she has driven everyone away with her superior attitude.

My DH would have her in a heartbeat - but knows that won't be happening.

Your DH would have her over on a heartbeat?

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

[quote CaveWoman1]@Santahatesbraisedcabbage

It was mostly brussel sprouts they threw. I remember looking down at the floor which was just littered with them[/quote]
The Devil's Warhead,

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

@DillonPanthersTexas

Not so much a Christmas day dust up but extreme CF behaviour in the supermarket. I saw a women start taking packs of sausage meat out of an unattended trolley and place it in her own before quietly moving on. It was a few days before Christmas so lots of basic staples were missing and folk were getting desperate but witnessing the trolley theft really annoyed me. The trolley owners were a couple of pensioners and I just thought of my folks being ripped off. Completely childish behaviour on my part but I followed the CF women around the aisles and sure enough at one point she left her trolley unattended in the 'world foods' aisle and I swapped the sausage meat with a few bags of bombay mix and returned the sausage meat to the original owners.

Brilliant!

Serves the bugger right!