To ask the worst behaviour at Christmas you’ve witnessed by an adult?

[SoniaFouler]

Mine is:

Drunk cousin (24 at the time) shouting and arguing with everyone for most of Boxing Day three years ago, then topped it off when someone told her to stop being stupid by standing up and scraping the entire contents of her dinner plate all over the table and made my aunt cry.

Went out for lunch on Xmas Day - MIL's BF had stayed up all night watching TV so promptly fell asleep at the table in the restaurant. We crept out and left him there.......

My little pathological sister EVERY YEAR, classic narcissist hates it when she's not centre of attention and we have big family get togethers yearly where there's 20+ of us all catching up so hard for one person to have sole attention. Every year she'll start a big argument about nothing, then cries like she's the victim and storm out, followed by her putting annoying passive aggressive crap up Facebook (than denying it) about families being a hard work like she's not to blame. She never apologises, and on it goes...Think of me this Boxing Day when we have another one due!

Father and his husband ( parents divorced) arriving at 5:30, we host in the family house, after a recent bereavement, funeral nine days earlier (beloved mother) me and partner with a baby and a toddler ( the heating had stopped working). Sister arrives at 5:55. Auntie and Wife arrive, at 6pm as we sit down to eat, my auntie and my father start bickering. My partner and I go upstairs to settle baby. When we come back down at 6:15, my father and his husband are leaving. We are stunned. Our toddler is crying and fussy. My auntie and her wife get horrendously drunk and stay until midnight. Sister leaves 8ish. Partner and I are exhausted. The baby cries all night.

When my siblings and I were young, our father, just before xmas, announced that he had single-handedly and without asking anyone else, decided to change the xmas eve/ xmas day arrangements that we had always done between him and my mother (divorced). My mother objected, we the children objected, we were all crying, dad was shouting, and he crowned it all with slamming the front-door and storming off down the driveway shouting 'FUCK YOU ALL'

Ah happy christmas memories!

A parent throwing out the Christmas tree in a drunken rage.

Brother in law getting agated from 0 to 100 immediately when his brother was standing in door way smirking after having blazing row with a-gated brother in laws, sister … having assaulted her also … I was 5 months pregnant .. stressed and upset … argy bargy .. my hubby had to calm things down with others and my response was … let’s go home … ( this was Boxing Day )

My brother. He won’t acknowledge my children when he sees them at my mums house because he is jealous and is constantly on the lookout for any perceived unfairness in the treatment of my niece compared to my children. He ignores my children even though they are young toddlers and won’t have anything to do with them. I don’t care that he hates me but it’s so hurtful that he treats them this way.

Me. I'd bought my now long ex DH a big beautiful print and had it framed. He hadn't bought me anything. So I jumped on it.

Well this isn't necessarily worse behaviour by an adult. Unfortunately as a child whilst dm made Xmas utterly magical, the way she dressed the house etc the atmosphere, candles music... Beautiful food... Unfortunately her and dad where at war. So we had plenty of plate smashing, hours spent on food for it to be thrown down a wall type thing which was so gut wrenching and heart breaking and a disabled sibling stuck watching this crap to boot.
. However my most miserable xmasses have been with dh family.
They are extremely well off.
They live in a large house.
Yet over Xmas an extreme parsimony descends.

Every moment the air is infused with how they cut costs on this or that and money talk.. And Mil speaking like a money saving guru talking to absolutely wild spenders (dh and I). It's like a show put on to show us what frugality is.
She'll tell us how she sourced our food so cheaply.. But there is never any music in the background.
Shell serve up something like tesco rolls and make it seem like she's really spoling us or say sadly how she had to buy something in bulk to save.. They don't chat. No one says... I'm dreaming.. What's going on with you... The only chat is about their frugality and Mil throwing in negative comments all the time pitting people agaisnt each other.
Once there were about 9 of us sat in total silence.
Mil got a really nice gift once but it was so large we literally couldn't fit it in our house

I think those few xmsses I spent there depressed me more than the ones of my childhood because It could have been so great, had they popped music on and didn't feel the need to drag the spirit down.

In among the fighting at home there was music, warmth, atmosphere... Buzz!! Beautiful decorating, fires... Games.. Df chatty, dm mum chatty..

One year we had both sets of grandparents to us - DS was a toddler & my mother excelled herself playing "who's the favourite grandparent?" & rearranging the carefully-thought-out place settings so she could be next to him for Christmas dinner

My inlaws were so fed up with her they stormed out & went home on Boxing Day morning, before DH was even up & dressed. My mum then cut the joint of beef for that evening in half & shoved one piece in the freezer as we'd not been needing as much

This is my friends story. Invited FIL and BIL for Xmas dinner (BIL unmarried in 40s).
Came an hour before dinner to give time to open presents. Left BIL/FIL in living room whilst they finished dinner, 2 children had gone to play upstairs.
In the short time left alone BIL ate every single scrap of chocolate/sweets/treats in the living room (friend said the children had been given a lot of stuff) but also including all her expensive chocolate presents because he was ‘starving and being made to wait to eat.’
He then gorged himself on dinner and puddings (friend said there was absolutely loads including 3 different meats and they should have had loads for Boxing Day, but nothing was left). He then complained there hadn’t been much to eat.
He had a massive tantrum the year after when friend wouldn’t let him come again.

These are hilarious.

@Hazey19

These are hilarious.

I’ve just read on and ok not all of them are But some of them truly are. 😂

@HerkyBaby

Mother refusing to accept Christmas presents given to her by grandson aged 10. He even tried to pass them to her through her open car window which she then closed . It was Christmas Eve. He was heart broken.

Oh my god. That’s heartbreaking. I’m so sorry she did that.

@Margerine78

My little pathological sister EVERY YEAR, classic narcissist hates it when she's not centre of attention and we have big family get togethers yearly where there's 20+ of us all catching up so hard for one person to have sole attention. Every year she'll start a big argument about nothing, then cries like she's the victim and storm out, followed by her putting annoying passive aggressive crap up Facebook (than denying it) about families being a hard work like she's not to blame. She never apologises, and on it goes...Think of me this Boxing Day when we have another one due!

A family member has similar form. She kicked off, one day, I cracked up laughing, she said, 'what are you laughing at?'

I laid out, pretty much word for word, blow by blow, her party trick. She huffed off, sulked, we all ignored her, and it didn't happen again. . .

I don't understand why nobody had ever thought of that before!

My ex-father throwing bricks through the window and smashing up the tree and presents.
This was one of many growing up in an abusive household though

@SeaToSki

What a bitch did you say anything?

That's so nasty, I've had a similar situation with a relative coming empty handed forward the youngest child m

'Lady Malfoy, if you die in childbirth or just after,I dont mind taking the baby' SIL
8.2 months pregnant at the time.
A week after this I was admitted to hospital due to stress.
I really hate her.

Im with you on this.. as you get older it just appeals more?!

@TwoleftUggs

Mil wanted our dd to open presents from her on Xmas eve. We said not til xmas day. She threw a massive strop and chucked all our presents down the stairs one by one.

Please tell me you told her to pack and go home!

My grandparents also ate all the pigs in blankets the bastards.

The gold medalists of Christmas food abuse, no appeals will be considered!

My Nana. The year previously I had given her some earrings and she had loved them (she never really liked anything) so I thought I'd repeat the trick. I bought her some lovely antiquey small drop earrings the next year. On Christmas morning we took the presents round, she opened hers, not liking anything but not saying a word. Then she got to the earrings which she opened, looked at for a full 30 seconds then threw at my head. We never found out why. She was completely mental. The year my Grandad died and she'd punched me in the face at his funeral for making my 9month pregnant auntie a cup of tea my Mum refused to have her for Christmas and she went to her sisters and slagged us all off. My Mum had several phone calls telling her how hard hearted she was.

My parents were young when they had my brother and I. 20 when they had him, 23 when they had me. They were about 28 or 29 at the time, it was Xmas eve abs my mum had popped round her friends house to wrap my dad present.

They had friends over and my dad was pretty drunk. Me and my brother asked if we could open a present and he said we could open them all. We had a great time. Mum came home and we thanked her for our gifts. Understandably (now anyway) she was not impressed!! Fun times lol

@Imdreamingofapeacefulxmas

I didnt call her out on it at the time as it was the first time something that this had happened so blatantly, and I was just shell shocked. I smoothed it over and we just carried on. (And quietly found a spare gift for the forgotten dc and pretended it was from Granny)

It opened my eyes to some other stuff that had been happening and when the dc were little and more easily hurt I covered up the meanness, when they got a bit older I just stopped and then when one of them was targeted we just sat down and talked about it. How they felt, why Granny might have done that, that all people have their upsides and downsides, that they could choose to stay engaged or disengage - that was in their control.

Its interesting to see what has happened now they are almost all young adults, they mostly enjoy her company when she is around but make no special effort to seek her out or engage with her as they know she isnt truly interested in them. Whereas their Grandad will always ask them what they have been doing, will remember it and check in etc etc. The dc are happy to send him emails etc

@DimplesToadfoot

I was a single parent, on my knees financially, with no family of my own I had no help from anyone, the only presents my DS 9yo got were what I bought and it was never much. I scrimped and scraped to buy a remote control car, DS was playing with it on the driveway, the car was on the cusp of the driveway and pavement and had stopped moving, before either I or my son could get to it a man crossed the road and stomped on it, obviously shattering it into pieces. I shouted after the man but I'm disabled I couldn't give chase :-( my son was heartbroken and there was absolutely nothing I could do :-( eventually months later I had the money for another car, he didnt want one :-( Christmas never was the same for my DS after

What an absolute bastard! People can be so fucking awful it's unreal.