To think sister's family shouldn't self isolate with elderly parents over christmas?

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My sister and her husband, and their children come over to the UK for christmas every year. Obviously covid meant that they couldn't last year. They live in Vienna so would need to do all sorts of covid tests when coming over.

They have flights booked to the UK on Christmas eve. The new testing rules mean that they would have to self isolate until their day 2 test came back. Because it's Christmas, it could take longer than usual.

They stay with my elderly parents (84 and 86). This would mean that they would have to self isolate too, until the results came back. So firstly there is the risk of covid being brought to their house.

But secondly. It would mean that my children wouldn't be able to see their grandparents on Christmas day/Boxing day etc. I raised this with my parents and they didn't seem massively concerned, and said we would manage something and just meet outside in the garden (not allowed if self isolating).

AIBU to think they shouldn't self isolate with them over christmas? or am I being a bit selfish as I get to see my parents all year round, as I didn't decide to move to Austria.

I’d get round this by you all going there on Christmas Day anyway and sod ‘self isolating’, personally.

I can see it doesn’t suit you - but it’s up to your parents and them isn’t it?

Don’t get bent out of shape, just do a second C’mas day btwn C’mas and NY.

I’m not entirely sure why you’re asking… it’s entirely the choice of your parents and they seem to be happy with your sisters plan.

Xmas is just a day … doesn’t have to be the day the calendar says so. You get to see your family all year round and she comes around and has to accommodate you?? You sound selfish. Why don’t you celebrate Xmas together on the 26-27-28?

I agree with others that I don’t think your parents have to self isolate. But I might be wrong about this.

@How2Help

I think the problem here may be that you spend most days of the year looking out for you parents: from doing odd jobs, to making sure they have got toilet rolls when there is panic buying, to making sure their heating is on, to changing lightbulbs - or to some degree of full on caring. Then you are considered selfish for not giving up the opportunity to share an enjoyable family day of the year with them do that the absent family members can - having not been consulted and just told what will be happening.

Been there, done that and this makes me err towards YANBU.

The thing you have forgotten here is that yes OP might be the sibling who has done all this. But without a doubt also the sibling who has childcare in form of grandparents at the drop of a hat.

The thing about living abroad winds me up no end. It isn't a holiday it is just life in a different country, without your family. Quite often it isn't what you really want but it is what is best professionally or financially.

As you can tell I'm the sibling that moved abroad.

Yes OK so your kids don't see their grandparents on Xmas day, but how often do your sisters kids see them?

At the end of the day this is all futile anyway. Nobody in their right mind will be traveling from Austria into the UK come Christmas so their trip would likely be off anyway

I am assuming the sister and family are coming on Xmas Eve for a reason rather than a few days earlier. Getting annual level off work, kids being at school will all determine when they can fly.

You sound very self-centred in your OP, especially your point about your children not seeing their grandparents.. your sister and her children haven’t seen your parents for almost TWO years.

YABU.

I find it hard to believe that a grown up would think the way you think in your OP. Is there some sort of back-story? Why do you resent your sister so much?

@DebIr

Easy to get results within 24 hours using a drive through. No requirement for anyone to isolate unless they travelled so your parents don’t need to isolate.

Where?

Since the get brought in the 2 day test to release a couple of days ago the providers seem to have withdrawn the rapid PCR for arrivals-but it is still available for departures.

So unreasonable. What on earth qualifies you to say that it'll be longer at Christmas? It wasn't longer in the summer when it was all new and loads of people were travelling.
Plus, why would your parents self isolate? I read the rules, I can't find that part at all.
Given all the restrictions in Austria at the moment, you are very unreasonable to think that in the land of 10 masks for £5, your sister's family are going to be the ones that are a danger to your parents. Take a look at yourself. For so many reasons.

I’m fairly sure and the current guidance your parents would not have to self isolate with them.

The thing you have forgotten here is that yes OP might be the sibling who has done all this. But without a doubt also the sibling who has childcare in form of grandparents at the drop of a hat.
Well I can’t speak for OP but as this was in response to my post I can tell you without a doubt that this is 100% not true in my case.

The thing about living abroad winds me up no end. It isn't a holiday it is just life in a different country, without your family. Quite often it isn't what you really want but it is what is best professionally or financially.
This is such a ridiculous thing to say. The whole point I was making is that a decision such as moving abroad (as you say, for your own professional and financial benefit) often has an impact on other family members that gets ignored. This wasn’t about the difficulty or necessity of moving abroad, it is about looking more broadly to understand why the OP might feel aggrieved.

As you can tell I'm the sibling that moved abroad.
Indeed.