To cancel last minute

[Fallingtopieces34]

AIBU to cancel xmas plans out with friends later today? Had an extremely busy day yesterday and I've woken up with a bit of a cold and slight sore throat (lateral flow negative) and I've got a really busy week at work ahead. All I want to do is sit on the sofa in my pyjamas.

I would be glad if my friend cancelled as don't want to get ill x

I have pretty much cancelled all arrangements for December in November due to just not wanting to go out or feeling pressured to go to prearranged events & just go to things on the day if I feel like it, I hate the feeling of dread beforehand, I am having a very lazy, chilled out stress free life at the moment, but my pjs are getting tight.

Depends if you genuinely feel ill (then cancel) or if you’re just being a bit feeble and dont want to make the effort.

You're unwell, of course cancel! I cant believe the people saying you should go, spread your virus around just before Christmas!

Agree you can't really cancel on a December weekend. She likely turned down other invitations or even work

I have pretty much cancelled all arrangements for December in November due to just not wanting to go out or feeling pressured to go to prearranged events

Why didn’t you politely decline in the first place? What a shame for those who were expecting you that you just didn’t want to go.

@FreedomFaith

Those saying it's bad form, would you rather spend the day with someone who has possible covid or at the very least a bug of some form, and likely catch it from them? You people are strange... I'd be happy my friend stayed away while ill.

“You people”?

You know we are all individuals and that there is a mixture of responses on this thread?

@ButtercupBlue

Yanbu. I'd be grateful if a friend cancelled rather than turned up with a cold and potentially passed it on.

Presumably you’re not leaving the house at all at the moment to avoid being exposed to viruses in the general population?

To be honest, I'd rather avoid colds, so if you were cancelling with me, I'd be glad! Just say you're feeling unwell and you don't want to infect anyone else!

If you don't feel well/up to it, you should cancel. People who think you shouldn't are odd, why they'd want a friend to go that was feeling shit is beyond me.

Secondly I'd also be pleased for my sake, I don't want whatever you've got.

Cancel, relax & I hope you feel better soon

I've read this as basically the op doesn't want to go. Cold has nothing to do with it.

@GonnaBeYoniThisChristmas

I have pretty much cancelled all arrangements for December in November due to just not wanting to go out or feeling pressured to go to prearranged events

Why didn’t you politely decline in the first place? What a shame for those who were expecting you that you just didn’t want to go.

I honestly don’t know why I said yes to going, I have a lot of different friend groups and it all got a bit overwhelming. Previous times this has never been an issue before. It is a shame, I agree.

Me personally I love cancelled plans. But YABU you don't want to go it's nothing to do with having a cold.

I’d be annoyed if a friend came to meet me with a cold, because I’m going to get it and pass it on to partner and kids

@Fallingtopieces34

But I don't actually have any covid symptoms no cough, difficult breathing or temperature so don't actually qualify for a pcr

It's widely reported that Covid is presenting as cold symptoms and my colleague has just tested positive with fatigue and a cold.

I absolutely hate it when people cancel last minute so I'd be peed off. I'm sure you can manage a few hours.

@Fallingtopieces34

But I don't actually have any covid symptoms no cough, difficult breathing or temperature so don't actually qualify for a pcr

OP my first Covid symptoms were a headache and achy legs and I came on here on about it and was urged to test. I did lft and it was positive. Didn't have the cough for a couple of days.

I'm going to message and let them know how I'm feeling and say if they'd rather I didn't come with my germs then that is fine (they are an honest bunch)! I actually hate cancelling plans normally that is why I posted.

@Fallingtopieces34

AIBU to cancel xmas plans out with friends later today? Had an extremely busy day yesterday and I've woken up with a bit of a cold and slight sore throat (lateral flow negative) and I've got a really busy week at work ahead. All I want to do is sit on the sofa in my pyjamas.

No lateral flow if you have symptoms! You need a PCR!

Only you can weigh up how much you want to stay in versus potential damage (if any) to your friendships/their opinion of you.

but people cancel so regularly, the whole thing might be cancelled.
just go

@Fallingtopieces34

I'm going to message and let them know how I'm feeling and say if they'd rather I didn't come with my germs then that is fine (they are an honest bunch)! I actually hate cancelling plans normally that is why I posted.

And if they say fine to come? You will go?

Many people are cancelling things now due to the risk of having to isolate if a contact of new variant

It pisses me off when people cancel on me. I don't do it and I've brought my DDs up to not do it.
How do you know other people haven't refused other invitations to spend time with you?
Unless your leg is hanging off or something equally serious, cancelling is selfish. Cancelling last minute is selfish and thoughtless and self centred, and unfeeling.

@Sirzy

I would be a bit pissed off if a friend cancelled just because they had over planned themselves and I was the disposable part of the plan.

This