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Anyone gained anything good from Covid

147 replies

kylie122 · 05/12/2021 01:11

Just curious as just seen a post which asked the opposite

For me I was lucky to work during lockdown and have saved so much money

Hope this post doesn't offend anyone

OP posts:
Bigoldhag · 05/12/2021 17:21

For me, its been work related. covid changed my team’s work dramatically and it allowed me to develop quickly - and got the right experience for a promotion.

Like everybody, it had its downsides. I’ve been blessed not to lose anyone through Covid, but I found the lockdowns hard - especially the first one before single people were allowed to bubble - I was incredibly lonely and cried most days for a good three months.

Cryalot2 · 05/12/2021 17:44

Have seen both sides to covid, including deaths of loved ones and other awful.

But you asked for unexpected good things.
Finding out our true friends.
When we all had covid quite a number of people treated us as thought we had the plague, others were kind and offered to get any messages and leave at an agreed spot and waved at us .
At that time it meant a lot.
Discovering local walks which we were able to see a variety of birds and wildlife close up.
Getting life into perspective.
Really enjoying walking.
Being thankful for small things that we tended to take for granted.
Enjoying a holiday without going abroad. ( never thought I could)
Being thankful for our pet, as they helped so much.

5128gap · 05/12/2021 18:03

My life back. I was at point of burn out with 12 hour days including commute and rushing around doing things I didn't much enjoy at weekends. No time to eat well, exercise, sleep properly, no appreciation for the simple things. WFH and the pause button on everything helped me lose weight, get fit, connect with nature, focus on family and develop friendships and relationships (no distraction from conversation when all there is to do is walk!) and I now have a new appreciation for the things I took for granted before. I feel 20 years younger and better than I ever remember feeling. I also feel horribly guilty that I've gained from this awful situation, and channel that into doing my bit to help other people via my job and volunteering.

joynavy · 05/12/2021 18:13

I got about 18 months of furlough payments to cover wages for me and a family member through my limited company, plus a bounce back loan. My business was quieter than it would have been but it was losing money before Covid and I welcomed the break really.

DH has wfh for the whole pandemic, his company were going to ask him to return next January but that's been put on hold. I like having him wfh as he helps out with the DC and also does bits of housework while I'm out with them for the day.

My DD started nursery last year and I've always had to collect her from outside the building, which has meant not having to go up three flights of stairs to drop her off at her classroom and deal with putting her shoes and coat on/taking them off. She'll continue going there until she starts school next September and I don't think they'll ever allow parents inside the building.

Financially I've done very well as I invested into some assets when they dipped at the start of the pandemic, and they've rocketed since then - we're now financially secure for life.

No one in my immediate family has had Covid (or at least tested positive for it) so it's not affected our health at all.

Rocket1982 · 05/12/2021 18:17

My friend got long covid and got a scan to investigate it. They found an incidental cancer (not related) and it saved her life.

yellowflowersintherain · 05/12/2021 18:19

The main thing for me is the way it has changed working patterns. I would never want to WFH full time again but I'm glad that 2-3 days per week at home is now seen as pretty normal. It's made our lives so much less stressful.

Not me, but a friend of mine saved A LOT of money as she was furloughed but got another temporary job during that time so got paid for both jobs at once (not illegal - the rules allowed this!)

SpeckledHem · 05/12/2021 18:24

Yes it was good for us. DH has an e-commerce business and his sales rocketed with everyone being at home, wanting to shop online.
I quickly adapted my job (SE) to on zoom and was also entitled to government grants so we were able to pay for a new kitchen and get a hot tub. Kids loved not having to go to school and happily did their work from home.

Trinacham · 05/12/2021 18:26

Antibodies.
My work continued too, as an essential worker.

Bunnycat101 · 05/12/2021 18:30

I think there was a lot of contrast between the experience of those working and looking after children, those on furlough and those who had an utterly shit time financially. Added to the differences financially, some people lost loved ones, some were Ill themselves, some still have long covid etc.

In lockdown one, we were both working with two children 3 and under. It was hideous and utter carnage and I was quite bitter about my friends on furlough who were having a lovely time playing with their children in the garden. In the longer-term we did well out of that period financially (no nursery fees) and have emerged unscathed health wise so were some of the lucky ones. Some of the friends I was jealous of in march 2020 have been financially crippled and I realise we have emerged in a far better position despite the stress of combining childcare and work.

Downton57 · 05/12/2021 19:08

This is a really cheering thread because so many of these gains - more flexible working arrangements, closer relationships with family/neighbours/colleagues/friends aren't a temporary effect of lockdown, but should hopefully have a positive long term impact on the quality of many people's lives.

silentpool · 05/12/2021 19:13

I think the other thing to remember is that OP asked for the positives. There were also negatives/hard times for me, but that's not what was asked for.

XenoBitch · 05/12/2021 19:32

Mine is nothing major compared to some, but I discovered one of my friends was willing to break lockdown rules to ensure I was safe and mentally well. Everyone else just let me rot. She said she would do it again if needed. I struggle to make and keep friendships, so I was very touched.

FinallyHere · 05/12/2021 20:37

Thank you for this thread, OP. We know that so many people have had a really tough time of it, so have tended to keep quiet about how lucky we have been. Both closer to retirement than not, DC all grown up with their own DC.

We both had jobs where overseas travel was commonplace. In our 30 year relationship, 20 years married, this is the longest we have ever been able to spend time under the same roof together.

DH is getting on a bit and has for some time had some physical constraints. He had been increasingly complaining about how he hated the travelling. It's taken actually being together for me to realise what he actually meant and why it had become too much. It was mega fortunate that this realisation came when travel has not been possible for a while so there was no chance of him continuing to travel.

I dread to think how much longer he might have continued to travel, without the wider disruption brought on by covid.

DM died at the end of 2019, the last few months spent in a care home. We could only be relieved to know that she had not had to live through a time when we couldn't visit her.

And on a trivial point, as someone who never seems to have any cash, it seems that pretty much everyone now accepts payment by cards/contactless/phone Apple Pay etc, with no minimum payment.

Even places who used to insist on cash.

Can't remember the last time I needed cash for parking, or anything else. We were at Burnham Beeches today, all their parking meters now accept Ringo, result.

It took a pandemic ...

dudsville · 06/12/2021 11:58

On a weird positive note, I think it's sad but so fortunate, were it but for the pandemic I never would have learned I have sensory issues and ask but just socially awkward! I got tested. And from what I understand there are a fair few in this particulaboat with me. I had no idea what I was coping with in a daily basis. Now that I do I can manage so much better. Also on a weird positive note, I think it's a shame that it takes a pandemic for the world to shift ever so slightly towards being more acceptable for introverts, but what a helpful insight this has been on that front too. I now get to fully recharge and I so much enjoy socialising now and connecting with people.

cereallover · 06/12/2021 12:18

Got married before second lockdown. As a couple who don't have any friends this was perfect as didn't need a reason why we weren't having a big party for our reception.

Then in June this year we had our little boy.

cereallover · 06/12/2021 12:20

Also now we have deliveroo and ubereats and more choice on just eat.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 06/12/2021 12:23

Not really tbh

IgneousRock · 06/12/2021 12:25

Wfh has been positive for me and DH. We both worked fully from home for several months, and now partly wfh / partly going in to work. We've saved a lot of money on commuting, and it's been nice to see more of each other and the kids. We eat together nearly every night now. (The DC were old enough to be fairly independent during the home schooling periods, so we didn't have a complete nightmare trying to wfh and home school.)

Sittingonabench · 06/12/2021 12:51

While I have struggled particularly last year with the level of change and that has impacted my overall mental health - I have also lost 5 stone and I am physically much healthier. Mental health is stable and trying to get back to a good place feels possible now. Financially we took a hit but I also changed jobs for which I’m grateful. But of a mixed bag I think for most people, some good and some less good challenges.

HereticFanjo · 06/12/2021 13:01

Changed careers, work from home, have time for me and my family now instead of firefighting all the time. Life is much better albeit I earn less.

Hoppinggreen · 06/12/2021 13:51

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

My life totally changed for the better over covid. Just before it started my life totally fell apart my husband of 20 years left out of the blue. I was extremely unwell. I couldn't afford to live in the house anymore. Several people I loved died and I lost my job. I decided a total change was new and moved to the west country. I got a new job in the NHS bought a cheaper house and settled in literally a month before covid kicked off. Due to our lack of staff I got promoted very quickly to fill the gaps, got my severe psychiatric condition diagnosed and treated after 50 years and have made loads of new friends. I am finally at peace after years of turmoil and being locked down gave me the opportunity to reflect on and turn my life around 360 degrees. I am finally home.
That’s really lovely to read
Mypathtriedtokillme · 07/12/2021 00:38

DH has loved working from home (he was previously interstate half the week) and is continuing to work from home 3-4 days a week which means he is home for school drop offs and pick ups (which he enjoys and has realised how much he misses with the kids not being involved in the day to day boring stuff)
I can go back to work longer hrs as he can pick up the slack rather than me having to fit everything in which is good for my mental health & super balance (which needs a top up after time out having kids) and has lifted a heap of the mental load off my shoulders.

Our relationship is better now than prior to covid.

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