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WhatamI87 · 04/12/2021 20:32

My partner works full time I'm at the moment on maternity leave. As soon as he finishes work he plays games. It's now the weekend I'm in the living room with our baby and he's playing games Instead of spending time as a family

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WhatamI87 · 05/12/2021 21:02

I'm not going to get pregnant. As I'm on the pill. You said I shouldn't have maybe done the post. But I honestly think it gave me the confidence to have it out with him. The problem is we don't talk about things. Hopefully by me saying everything things will change. Everyone needs a second chance.

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JurgensCakeBabyJesus · 05/12/2021 21:27

Yep he's definitely going to completely change and become a loving, devoted, conscientious father and partner.

Auntycorruption · 05/12/2021 21:56

@WhatamI87

Yeah I didn't trap him. He would always say I want to... In you so he knew I could get pregnant. He has no interest in our relationship at all. As I said I'm on maternity leave at the moment. I spend every single minute of my day with my litte one and I wouldnt want it any other way. What happens when I go back to work he will have to spend time with the baby then. We never go out as a family our weekend consists of staying in him watching football then all Saturday evening playing games same on a Sunday
He doesn't want to be a family.

He didn't want the baby.

He told you he wasn't going to change.

You either need to accept the above or leave. Who pays the rent etc?

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WhatamI87 · 05/12/2021 22:04

We both share the rent.

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sst1234 · 05/12/2021 22:14

How old are you OP?

nimbuscloud · 05/12/2021 22:17

If you split how would it work financially?

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WhatamI87 · 05/12/2021 22:26

We are both in our 20s. He works full time I'm going back to work part time

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nimbuscloud · 05/12/2021 22:33

How much maintenance will he pay?

Masdintle · 05/12/2021 23:08

No wonder you don't have sex - last time he ended up with an unwanted baby. It's not a great place for you or your child to be in, I think you'd be better on your own. Harsh to hear, I know.

Feelingoktoday · 05/12/2021 23:08

If you go back part time how will you manage financially when he leaves you. He is just waiting for someone else to come along. I’m really sorry but we have to listen to what people are saying and he said he didn’t want a baby. He is now avoiding sex with you. Tell him to leave. Good luck OP.

girlmom21 · 06/12/2021 09:37

@WhatamI87

We are both in our 20s. He works full time I'm going back to work part time
Don't go back part time while you can't trust him. If the relationship breaks down (officially I mean, it's clearly already broken down) you're going to struggle financially.

He's also going to expect you to do all the housework and childcare.

Did he explain the lack of affection, pushing you away etc? Or is he only stepping up with the practical stuff?

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