To not mind having majority custody?

[Majoritycustody]

Split with my child's dad when she was 18 months. He was a covert gambler and I now believe he almost groomed me tbh.
He's good with her but tends to have her on his own terms ie he'll have her 3 night some weeks then not for 2 weeks which infuriates me. He also has issues doing weekends. Anyway she's due at school in September and we've decided he'll do 1 in 4 weekends and 1 to 2 nights a week on regular nights. Aibu to not mind having majority custody?

@TinselTitsAndGlitteryBits

I don't know anyone who doesn't want majority custody of their child.

Parents are usually over the moon if the court decides they can have their child most of the time.

It causes so much angst in child arrangements, sorting out birthdays/Christmas/holidays.. one parent always misses out at least once a year.

I'd be grateful you didn't have a battle on your hands to be honest.

I am grateful i don't have the battle! His job involves shifts and means he works bank hols so ill always have easter, xmas etc.

@babywalker2

Erm, from what you've said, I wouldn't be leaving my child with him at all.

Why?

Your friend sounds weird🙄

@Kitkat151

Your friend sounds weird🙄

I think OP and her friend both sound weird

Does your friend want to you
To spend more time with her and finds the kids get in the way of that? Has she got a bit needy recently or has some stuff going on?

My friend raised 3 kids alone so I just think she doesn't want me doing the majority of the work.

Thanks for telling me I'm odd with no basis

Your asking if you should push to have less time with your child, this place isn’t odd, you are!

@Fet2021duejuly2022

I think it’s odd leaving a child with a man who has a gambling problem

He's the father.

The OP won't have a choice.

Children are left with far worse.

Many people feel that children now need their fathers as much as their mothers (not saying that's my view)

So the OP isn't 'weird' or 'odd'. It's not that she wants less time herself, it's whether the father should have more.

I don't think being a covert gambler disqualifies someone from seeing their child. Some of the posts on here.

OP, I would have hated 50/50 as a child of divorced parents. Too disruptive. It was much better being in one home more.

My dd sees her dad for 2 hours a week and I wouldn't have it any other way, it's draining but I'm glad she's with me 99.9% of the time

I don’t know anyone personally who has 50/50. I have majority custody, ex wouldn’t have childcare in place for school runs and while he’s working. It’s pretty common from what I see for one parent to have children most of the time.