AIBU to give adult kids cash for Christmas?

[Zebra100]

Will also give them small gift of chocolate or wine. Have already bought the grandkids presents.

I’d love my mum to give me cash - sadly she’s not even bought me a present since I was 21!!!

I would love my mum to give me cash

I like buying mine gifts Dh is of the give them money brigade ! But if you want to give them cash its fine I don't have grandchildren to buy for so maybe thats why I still like getting them gifts.

MiL and FiL give us cash for Christmas. FiL just asks us to use it for something nice rather than fritter it away, and to let them know what we did with it. It’s very much appreciated.

I’d appreciate cash if that’s you mum?

I would appreciate it if parents did that, much better than buying for the sake of it

To be fair my dc prefer a gift I don't just buy for the sake of buying.

I'm buying mine foreign currency for their holidays so they won't be able to spend it over here.

Depends on their age / finances. If they’re young and broke cash may make sense but if they have enough money of their own then it’s a weird gift.

I’d be gutted to get cash, to me it’s like being handed a note saying “I don’t really know you anymore and couldn’t be bothered to put thought into this.”

We ask our adult DCs at both birthdays and Christmas. If there is something they'd like (within the budget!) they get the gift. Otherwise cash and a few stocking fillers. My Mum always have us cash which was far better than her buying something we didn't want but there was always a stocking which we loved.

I ask my adult DC what they want for Christmas. If they don't know or can't decide, they get cash with a few bits and pieces. No grandchildren yet.

I would love cash, my mum only ever buys me stuff like slippers or a dressing gown Which I never wear

My PIL do cash but expect thoughtful presents from their adult children - it makes their kids feel like they just can't be arsed

My DS (20) asked for cash for Christmas, then realised that one of the speakers in his car has blown, so he has asked if he can have a replacement and the balance in cash.

He also has a stocking.

TBH I think it depends - I'd rather be given something even if that something is cash but designated for something - so for example my mum has said did we want a weekend away for christmas, she's actually giving the cash for us to pay for it - but the gift is the time away

I would love this! Absolutely perfect. Wine, chocs and a bit of cash to buy something you want or need in the sales. Something for kids to open. Far from unreasonable - incredibly generous!

There does come a point, from Grandparents especially, when money is far more acceptable than yet another weird, unwanted, unusable gift, especially clothing, that just goes in the cupboard of doom, to be donated to charity or to the next school xmas fair.

I always guy gifts for my DD's but they are teens/twenties, so always lots of thing they want or need.

@Skysblue

Depends on their age / finances. If they’re young and broke cash may make sense but if they have enough money of their own then it’s a weird gift.

I’d be gutted to get cash, to me it’s like being handed a note saying “I don’t really know you anymore and couldn’t be bothered to put thought into this.”

I think this is a fair summary - I can see it is a decent gift for the young and broke but we earn good salaries and would rather someone thought about what we like and picked something out than gave us cash.

Definitely great! We tend to ask what people want, but cash or a voucher would be standard if they don't know.

This is what we're doing this year. They range from 16 to 30 and all 'need' very little. We asked them first and they are quite happy with this and a small gift!

I asked what they wanted they requested cash to spend as they want so that's what they've got.

Nope, they'd probably prefer it.

My parents have a budget for each of us and ask if there's anything specific that is big/within that budget which we'd like, if not, we get the cash. Little things go in the stocking regardless.

"I can see it is a decent gift for the young and broke but we earn good salaries and would rather someone thought about what we like and picked something out than gave us cash."

But then you can buy anything that you want. So it becomes a matter of if you like random stuff.

If I have cash I will use it for the food shop and that does not a present make.

Like everyone else, if I was young and / or broke then yes but now, no. I get no surprises on Christmas Day. I have people from November asking me what the kids want, what my husband wants, what we should get the PiL as a joint present. I know every thing that will be under that tree on Christmas Day. And then if no one can even be bothered to think of a present for me after all that effort I’ve done sorting presents for everyone from them then actually I’m just a bit sad.