AIBU to give adult kids cash for Christmas?

[Zebra100]

Will also give them small gift of chocolate or wine. Have already bought the grandkids presents.

I give my DS and DIL cash for Christmas. My DIL has a very eclectic taste so I won’t want to waste money buying her something that she would stick in the back of the press.

I always give my adult kids, their partners and the grandchildren cash for Christmas.
I also give the adults a bottle of their favourite alcohol and the grandchildren some little stocking filler bits.

@Ponoka7

"I can see it is a decent gift for the young and broke but we earn good salaries and would rather someone thought about what we like and picked something out than gave us cash."

But then you can buy anything that you want. So it becomes a matter of if you like random stuff.

Yes, I like a suprise. I am fortunate that I have enough disposable income that I can buy myself pretty much anything I want so I would like a present which is a suprise. Choosing something for myself doesn't really appeal.

My PIL do cash but expect thoughtful presents from their adult children - it makes their kids feel like they just can't be arsed
In my in-laws case I suspect it is more from fear of not getting us something we appreciate whereas they are just grateful to be thought of.

@Skysblue

Depends on their age / finances. If they’re young and broke cash may make sense but if they have enough money of their own then it’s a weird gift.

I’d be gutted to get cash, to me it’s like being handed a note saying “I don’t really know you anymore and couldn’t be bothered to put thought into this.”

But it’s not. Not always. They can know you and what you want. What if you don’t need anything? My mum knows my tastes in clothes, accessories, fragrance etc. however she also knows how much I have of things and if I’m fully stocked, won’t buy for the sake of it. But may give cash so I can get new perfume later in the year, or jewelry when it’s needed to go with a new outfit etc.

I think it's fine, I don't think many adults will expect Christmas presents from parents, especially if they have kids themselves who are also getting gifts. My parents and in-laws do give us money (even though we say we don't need anything and just to get gifts for the kids would be fine!), and I can't say I see anything wrong with it - we don't want a lot and buy what we do want/need, so finding a gift would be tricky.
As an adult, I wouldn't expect more than a card.

My mum buys slippers and pjs and then gives us cash as the main present. That way we can get something we want or need. Last year she knew I was squirrelling away for a dyson hairdryer.

We do both. Cash plus three things wrapped up each

My dad has given a lot of cash gifts... always very welcome!

My DS (22) has always prefered cash since he was quite young , he has a December birthday so we used to give him a £50 note and some smallish presents then Cristmas likely cash unless there was something he wanted .

I buy them practical items for their Dec 1st hamper (underwear , toiletries , pyjamas , loungwear ) rather than waste on tat.

He got a guitar for his 21st (his request) and an amp plus various small guitar related bits .

He saves , he's always been that way .
Insert clever sensible young man / Scrooge / No pockets in a shroud / Gollum, my precious as appropriate !

I’ve adult children and they’d rather just have a small gift than be given money .