The sense of entitlement on Facebook marketplace.

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I don't sell much as I can't deal with it all. But occasionally still use it, a little bit lately as trying to have a sort out before Christmas.

Recently I listed something probably worth £100 altogether new for £30. Someone messaged me and offered me £5. I apologised and said no. I was given abusive message saying she could get it for new cheaper than £30. She couldn't. It was a whole range of VTech toot toot stuff. Loads of it. I said I'd take £25 but she insisted £5. The cars alone are quite expensive.

Another time some thing was sold pending pick up. I hadn't had chance to list it as sold yet (sometimes I don't until actually physically gone) and someone had asked for it. I told them it was sold pending pick up but would let them know otherwise. I was given abusive messages about now I hadn't lost it as sold yet - literally posted the item half hour before and someone I knew had said they would have had it. It just didn't occur to me tbh.

Another time someone repeatedly messaging me asking if I would take a couple quid for something I listed for £20, worth a lot more.

Then asking if I can deliver, asking is fine. But I said no as couldn't for whatever reason. Left with abusive message again.

I've listed free stuff and they ask if you can deliver!

Does anyone else have these issues? Is it just a sense of entitlement some people have 😅

There's a whole subreddit about behavior like this.

www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/

[quote MissConductUS]There's a whole subreddit about behavior like this.

www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/[/quote]
I have never used Reddit much but thank you! I appreciate this had probably been talked about so many times on mumsnet too. I just wanted to vent 😅

@Floundery

It's not just you OP.

I offered some free Frugi clothes. Was asked to deliver and said er, no. Suddenly I was reported for selling fake goods and banned from FB Marketplace. All queries to FB are met with an AI response so it cannot be challenged.

Tbh I was pissed off at my ban but it's a bloody relief given the lunacy of some people.

Omg 🤯🤦‍♀️

This is why I don’t even bother to try and sell anything. I either give to charity or to people I know who want it.

I think the problem here is the abuse. Asking if you’d take less or deliver is fine, but abuse is not

I’ve got a load from people but I’ve used it a lot and it’s like water off a ducks back now. Just block and move on

I generally don't bother with it but have been trying to lately. Ds wants to sell some of his old switch games to make some money etc! Thankfully a lot of people are great and cause no issues!

After my experience with moving house and using market place to sell furniture we couldn't take with us. I refuse to use market place again. Everything goes to the charity shop now. My nerves couldn't handle that stress again

Oh. I lasted tons of stuff for free recently

Beds. Drawers. Baby carriers. Toys

I got messed around for every single FREE item!

If someone offers me a ridiculous price I don't even bother replying and just block them!

If someone enquires if an item is still available I message back making it crystal clear that I am not going to entertain any stupid offers. That way, everyone knows where they stand!

I had a woman turn up once to pick up a really nice item that she got for a complete bargain. She tried to give me £5 less claiming that she couldn't get the agreed price out of the cash machine but surely £5 didn't matter? I told her it did actually and sent her away.

Basically, people are douches. I avoid selling anything on marketplace unless absolutely necessary!

Slightly off topic but does anyone else get that horrible nagging anxiety after you've given your address to some stranger? 😅

PS. It's unfortunately not just you OP. It's a ballache!

@UsernameTakenTryAnother

Slightly off topic but does anyone else get that horrible nagging anxiety after you've given your address to some stranger? 😅

PS. It's unfortunately not just you OP. It's a ballache!

Wel funny you should say that I had a real weird experience on marketplace. I was selling some uniform on fb. Some of it was specific to my kids school, some plain grey items etc, some were new with tags . I put it on our local selling site but it went on market place so May reach more people. I had a message off a guy who lived 1.5 hours away (he told me where he lives) and was going to come down by bus and get it - even though it would be cheaper to buy new than travel so far. I didn't give our address as creeped out. He didn't message again and I left it. But then down the line I added more uniform and he messaged me asking if he could come by. Each time he said it was for his sister but j feel it was weird to travel 1.5 hours by bus to get some second hand uniform. He's officially blocked now.

Yes! I actually suggested we remove something we had low ball offers on and cheeky fuckers. Listed it for £20 more and it was picked up the following day

Someone wrote in a local group this morning

• need someone to collect wardrobe, from point a-b, can pay petrol. Needs done by 10am.

Like who in the fuck in their right mind would be like Oh, I'll do that! No problem.

Baffling behaviour.

I often buy on Gumtree etc, but rarely sell because there really are a vocal minority of weirdos out there, and it isn't worth it.

I will say there are also some delusional sellers believing they can get almost the new retail price for a used item which "just needs a wipe down" or is slightly broken but "can easily be fixed".

If someone says they can get it cheaper somewhere else then tell them great, glad they can.

Never give your door number, always street name and postcode. You can give door number when they turn up and they let you know they've arrived.

I've given up me, my nerves can't take it

Yes you get cheeky gits. I’ve been asked to deliver a relatively cheaply priced item 30 miles away and then they got annoyed when I declined.

Even the free stuff groups can be a bit cheeky. I gave away a bunch of stuff earlier in the year as we were moving and needed to clear out quickly so the local free groups were great for having people take things off your hands. One item was a still new in box flat pack table as we changed our mind and bought another before we built it. Had quite a bit of interest but one person asked me to hold it for 4 weeks for them, one person was annoyed it didn’t include any chairs and ask if I’d build it for them first, and one person sent me an angry message because I gave it away before they saw the post and missed out. Some people really want the moon on a stick and treat you like you’re a complaints department of a huge high street chain rather than a rando who lives round the corner from them and is just trying to pass on furniture.

That is creepy. I was selling a Stella McCartney dress on there (yes I know I’d get more on vestiaire collective but the fees are bullshit and the faff of eBay, depop etc means I’d rather do marketplace) and I had a bloke message just to tell me I looked hot in the dress. Just made me super uncomfortable.

Someone local to me has one dd currently doing A levels. She’s still trying to sell baby clothes and toys for near new price on marketplace. Bonkers. I had a lady collect a large furniture item in a fiesta complete with a baby (not strapped into car seat, car seat balanced onto front passenger seat but not strapped in) who gave us half the asking price once it was loaded as they needed the rest for the petrol to get home. Yeah right.

Yanbu.

I hate selling things for this reason and consider myself lucky that I'm not in a position (financially) where it's a necessity.

I also recently tried donating stuff to a page intended to help people who are in need, only to realise before long it's full of CFs who think the world owes them everything for free. It's not enough for it to be a page where people are offering things free, its been basically taken over by arseholes with brass necks asking for free stuff, same people over and over again. It's always branded stuff requested and always a line asking that it be "as new" condition.

On creepy - I’m part of a local group where a new member (young looking lad from his photo) posted that his flat had a fire and he and his girlfriend lost a lot of their belongings - mainly clothes. Did anyone have any 34C bras or size 10 underwear they could give to her (via him) until she could get back on her feet? Offers of jeans, trackies etc were rejected of course. Just the underwear. Someone pointed out that you could get a multipack in primark for a few quid and that was probably a better way to prioritise their money, then ask the group for other clothes if needed. Fortunately the Admin blocked him eventually…

You don’t need to be polite to these people. That doesn’t mean being rude but if they think they can get it cheaper elsewhere then tell them to go buy it there. Or don’t respond.

And yyy to be nagging anxiety once you’ve given them your address. Aforementioned cheeky fuckers don’t get to the address stage.

I do put stuff on in phases....just downsized and then had stuff in the new house to move on, and there's been a few hiccups but mostly decent folks and no nonsense.

I think a fulsome description, sizes, colours, condition and a price...never offer it free that begs for weirdos to message. Also I always state location, No Offers, No Delivery

The free thing is why I don't offer stuff on freecycle anymore...they are all craycray on there.

Generally don't reply to the "standard" message replies, cos mostly they are scrolling and messaged by mistake, or are so lazy they cannot even say please.

One guy claimed not to be able to find the house, despite directions, a google map link/picture, I told him off called him a timewasting loser and blocked him.

Another failed to attend "will come after school drop off hun" and was mortified when I messaged to ask if he had changed his mind, he hadn't but had had something nagging all day that he knew he'd forgotten, he did nothing but apologise the whole time when he came to collect

and one woman asked me if the dog crate (pictures from all angles and ALL measurements) would fit in the back of her car. I suggested she go measure it and work it out herself

had a couple of people from Lagos after a folding bike...I didn't even return their messages.

and someone asking if I had change, for the £5 curtain poles cos they had just been to the cashpoint....I was expecting a dodgy £20/£50 but in the end her daughter collected and had been to the shop to get a fiver in her change ! So no bother at all in the end.

Yep people are morons. That’s why I donate everything to the local church rather than deal with idiots. Not worth the hassle.

I refuse to do FB marketplace now or eBay collection, it's just not worth the hassle.
Schpok is the worst one I've found, so many time wasters and chancers. I ended up deleting it to stop a woman messaging me who told me I needed to knock £20 off the price as she would have to get a taxi there and back to collect it, like she was doing me some sort of favour taking it.