@twelly
I am not the person in this situation so I can't begin to understand how she feels, but I can see her point of view and understand her reasoning. My view in general is a person does one wrong thing does not mean that everything they do is wrong, of course this depends on the circumstances and situation. I think she is in an awful dilemma and there are problems with whatever she decides.
I can't identify with this post at all.
I can understand that it would cause her deep pain to find the man she loved wasn't who she thought, there is a real grief in that, and to be faced with raising a child alone.
I cannot understand her attempting to believe that he still IS the man she thought.
Of course being bad in one situation does not mean someone is bad in all situations. No one would claim that. But how low does your bar need to be if the you think that someone can be a sex offender/ paedophile/ violent gangster/ murderer but because he's quite nice in other areas you'll overlook that?
This is a man with a sexual interest in children, pre-pubescent children at that, and an interest he was acting on with a real life child (as he thought). I despair that there are women, likely mothers, trying to argue that there is a 'dilemma' in whether to regard that as a relationship deal killer.