Re his girlfriends

[LetTheRaisinBeLove]

DP has a few (5 or 6) girlfriends who he likes to meet up with individually, for a walk in the park, shopping, coffee, lunch, sometimes dinner/theatre.
He has known them for 2-3 years and we have been together since just before lockdown 1.
We have lived together for 5 months.
The thing is, I'm struggling with feeling quite jealous about this. He says I'm being ridiculous and everyone has friends of both sexes these days, and that I am being very old fashioned, but I still hate that he dedicates this time to them. He says he wouldn't mind if I met up with male friends on a platonic level, but my male friends (mainly from uni) would definitely see me asking them out for dinner on a one to one basis as a "come on".
I would never ask him to stop seeing his friends but I do wonder whether I am unusual in feeling jealous.
In case cultural differences are a factor, I am white British, he is Asian. We are both mid 20s with no DC.

No wonder you are feeling annoyed by this if they are openly flirting with him with you there that’s so disrespectful and he didn’t stop it, talk to him about it and see how he reacts

@WonderfulYou

If it bothers you then it bothers you. Zero point being in a relationship with a man that makes you feel insecure and jealous.

I agree.

It wouldn’t bother me as I have male friends and would do this too but if it bothers you then there’s not a lot you can do.

You can’t tell him to stop spending so much time with his friends as that’s quite controlling and if a man said that to me then I’d end the relationship.

So you either need to accept it or find someone who has less friends/is more introverted.

Really? It's not about being controlling or wanting to be with someone with less friends because op is soooo jealous. Most men don't exclusively seek out single women to befriend, this whole situation with the updates doesn't sound good.

“A walk in the park, shopping.”
Load of bollocks.

Move back out.
His friends openly flirt with him in front of you and he doesn't shut them down.
You don't trust him and he's giving you absolutely no reason to trust him.

It's really not worth it.

they are from when he first came to the UK.

So, he's a recent immigrant? I think that may be a factor, if he's only been in the country a few years, mainly as a student, with COVID on top, particularly if he doesn't have strong familial ties here. What's the rest of his social circle like? What would it look like if he removed these friendships? If they're his only friends, I can see why he's protective.

There is also a possibility he's a player, his line about 'old fashioned' kinda makes me feel like it's an equal toss up between that and him distancing himself from his idea of old fashion as an excuse to cling to what he's got here & avoid being lonely - I definitely kept some people in my life in the years after I arrived way too long because I felt I had few other options and they were my example of how I was supposed to be here.

I do think the touchy flirting was not appropriate, but I might consider trying to find ways to expand your connections in the city you're in together, more time with others and less time with the divisive friends, if you think he's worth the effort.