What would you do?

[Icecreamlover63]

Our close friend works at our Doctors surgery.

My husband is a patient there I am with a different surgery and always have been.

Within the last year we have been told various bits of information about other patients which we believe are confidential. This has concerned my husband as he is now wondering if his private details are being given out. However inadvertently!

He is worried that if he moves and tells the Doctors that he wants to move due to breaches in confidentiality that our friend, knowing his fine something wrong, will put two and two together and be upset.
I know what I would do and I’ve told him but I’m now asking all of you, as it’s a very difficult situation and he is a little torn.

@Icecreamlover63

Meeting Son for Sunday Lunch and I’ll talk to him then. If things had just literally been a slip of the tongue I wouldn’t have minded. But being told personal info really isn’t very nice. It’s made me very sad and I feel that my poor DH hasn’t really got a choice to move. He is feeling depressed as it is and this hadn’t helped as he now feels very conscious when he phoned up

Of course he has a choice not to move.

He reports, Blabbermouth is sacked, he gets to stay at the surgery he likes. Win/win.

Or is it ok that other people's private info is being blabbed willynilly ... so long as it doesn't personally affect you, or discomfort DH?

I can't believe you were not going to tell your son. Glad PP has changed your mind on that one.

@Icecreamlover63

My DH doesn’t feel very brave right now. My Son has just received a text from our friend at the Doctors and she said due to an adverse situation she won’t be going to his Sons christening. My Son has just moved to the South coast due to work and he and his girlfriend are very homesick and now he has received this text he is upset. Do from doing the right thing my DH feels awful. The thing I don’t understand is -I heard his call with the Doctors and DH gave no details of the member of staff or indeed the names of any payee have been told about. I’m not really sure what yo make of all of this now. But my depressed grieving DH is completely upset and I feel stuck in the middle of a storm!

I hope DH continues to receive the care he needs & his depression soon starts to improve.

When you say "he reported anonymously" it read as if he was withholding his own name. But from above, it reads like he 'reported' but without actually giving Blabbermouth's name? A bit pointless ...

The surgery may have worked it out. Maybe they have received other reports, or had suspicions all along, as it sounds like Blabbermouth has received a warning, as s/he's now punishing your son.

Frankly, I don't see why any of your family would be friends with this person. You're not stuck in the middle of anything, Just don't have anything more to do with this person, support DH, & let your son know he's best off not having this person show up at the christening anyway.

Someone capable of gossiping about patients, despite the daylight-clear rules about it, is capable of other poisonous behaviour, believe me.

Thank you for your replies especially Chargingbuck. I agree with everything you have said. Not bothering with this person. I’ve hit enough on my plate with supporting my DH who I have to say , since his counselling seems brighter.
A real friend would not ( to use your words) punish anyone. It’s childish and shows them as they really are. I’m looking forward to a lovely day.
Thank you again