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AIBU?

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To want to get rid of my exes belongings....

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loonietune · 26/11/2021 21:12

I have some bits that my ex left at my home. Not much and nothing of financial value.... He blocked me so there's no way of asking him to collect them...

I'm guessing he's not that bothered about his things anyway since we split ages ago, so would it be utterly wrong to give them to charity/give it away on a Facebook page or should I keep them in case he decides he wants it back?

This isn't a malicious act to pee him off.... cause I would keep it in case he wanted, BUT ... I would rather not open cupboards and see his stuff there......

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Feilin · 26/11/2021 21:13

Charity shop them

MultiStorey · 26/11/2021 21:14

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EllieLucy · 26/11/2021 21:16

Sell if you can, may as well. Otherwise donate or smash into tiny pieces imagining it's his face whilst yelling die bastard die, then bin. Or you could always have a ceremonial funeral pyre with an effigy of your ex on top? You could invite friends and have cake. Not very environment friendly though.

NearlyThereMum · 26/11/2021 21:16

@loonietune

I have some bits that my ex left at my home. Not much and nothing of financial value.... He blocked me so there's no way of asking him to collect them...

This isn't a malicious act to pee him off.... cause I would keep it in case he wanted, BUT ... I would rather not open cupboards and see his stuff there......

I'd get rid. If he wanted it, he should have been to collect it and since he's not contactable, why should you be expected to store his belongings for free?

qazxc · 26/11/2021 21:21

How long have you been split up?
He can't expect you to keep his stuff indefinitely and you can't contact him to arrange collection.
Is there anywhere you could drop it off to him ( you shouldn't have to but it would get rid of it).
Maybe boxing it up and shoving somewhere out of the way, might help with not being confronted with it until a suitable amount of time has elapsed that you are sure he is not coming back for it.

TurnUpTurnip · 26/11/2021 21:22

How long?

Ohdoleavemealone · 26/11/2021 21:23

It is has been there longer than 6 months I would bin it.

Elieza · 26/11/2021 21:27

I took my ex’s stuff to his mothers.

I didn’t want the guilt about giving it away in case it was sentimental or something! But I’m s softee.

AuntieStella · 26/11/2021 21:30

I'd try to send a message via a trusted intermediary (if you can find one) saying that if he doesn't pick it up by (date) then you will dispose of it. Ask him to let you know (via the intermediary) some dates/times if he wishes to collect and you will confirm which is convenient

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 26/11/2021 21:32

If he blocked you like a big baby then you entitled to chuck them.

Starseeking · 26/11/2021 21:38

I'd give them to charity if they're in reasonable condition. Someone else may be able to make use of them.

drwhomademeevil · 26/11/2021 21:40

You can't legally get rid of them - have a look at interference with goods on Google

Merryoldgoat · 26/11/2021 21:43

Can you not just bag them up and drop them in his doorstep?

Jibberjabberhutt · 26/11/2021 21:46

Are they valuable? If not, just crack on and dump/donate.

frodojodo · 26/11/2021 21:54

Bin or burning feels pretty good :))))

Darkstar4855 · 26/11/2021 22:13

Bin.

toconclude · 26/11/2021 22:20

@drwhomademeevil

You can't legally get rid of them - have a look at interference with goods on Google

Not relevant. Google is not a lawyer.

Triphazards · 26/11/2021 22:32

@drwhomademeevil

You can't legally get rid of them - have a look at interference with goods on Google

If it's illegal, you'll enjoy doing it much more.

Just don't tell anyone.

Winniemarysarah · 26/11/2021 22:33

@drwhomademeevil

You can't legally get rid of them - have a look at interference with goods on Google

This is absolute bollocks. Get rid of them

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loonietune · 26/11/2021 22:51

We split in June - so it's been a while ... The blocking bit doesn't bother me, it's standard practice for him... did it throughout our relationship.

I would feel guilty for binning - although whoever said smash it into little pieces imagining his face did make me chuckle!

I don't want to go near his property, so
I won't drop it round there - he'd automatically think I was stalking him and there's not enough money in the world that would make me want to see him again!

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Frigginintheriggin · 26/11/2021 22:55

If its not a huge amount can you send it? I know you'd be out of pocket but worth it to know its no longer in your house?

Pianojazzy · 26/11/2021 23:01

Honestly I’d just shove it all into a bin bag and throw it away.

Can’t be doing you any good knowing his stuff is still at your place…if you broke up in June that’s give him ample time to collect.

It’s almost a new year…our with the old and in with the new!

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loonietune · 26/11/2021 23:10

@Frigginintheriggin

It would be kind of big so it would cost me money I don't have.... Although if I had spare cash - that would defo be the way forward!

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EllieLucy · 26/11/2021 23:10

Don't feel guilty throwing it out if that's what you want to do. He doesn't feel guilty for leaving it in your home else he'd have come got it back by now. He might even have left it on purpose to annoy you

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loonietune · 26/11/2021 23:14

@EllieLucy

No. He wouldn't do that. He's very much a 'out of sight out of mind', plus there were no feelings on his side ...

TBH I doubt he even thought about it. He did however remember other stuff he wanted which went back in June/July - but the rest must have slipped his mind ...

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